Today I got on the scale and weighed 264.1 - I am 41 yrs old and need to loose 100 pounds - 100 pound - my god I cannot believe what I have done to myself - I found this website the other day and decided to start posting -

Every morning I commit to a diet and every night I fail - I need to do this and I can't seem to - so I am trying AGAIN today - already walked for 30 minutes - had my whole wheat waffles with blueberries and I am going to try and succeed - any word of encouragment or ideas would be greatly appreciated!!!

Oh, bless your heart.

Well, I certainly could hear myself in your post. I re-started this journey and went through a lot of embarrassment about having to do it AGAIN! I lost all this weight once before.

But after I picked myself up and dusted myself off - the fact remains. I decided to look at the positive attributes of my personality and apply those to my new eating and exercise habits. Personally, I am stubborn and I do everything to the N'th degree. Those can be good things!

You might try logging your food for one week just to see what you are eating. Don't try any restriction yet. Just write it all down or plug it in to a free program like www.fitday.com and just see how many calories you are getting. I was really surprised what things like creamer in my coffee, and real butter on my toast (on everything!) was adding!

Great job on getting the walk in already! The exercise is the hard part for me. We have 4 children ages 10 - 2months and its hard to carve out the time. But anything worth doing never comes easy!

Best wishes on your journey. Lots of support on here!!

Carol flo,

I started last October 4 pounds heavier than you are now. I have not eaten perfect, but I have been exercising my butt off! After I walked off enough to move around better, I started doing boot camp. I love it and what it does for me. The best advise I can give to you is do what works for YOU. If it is part of one diet and part of another combine it and make an eating plan that you can live with forever and one that fits your life. I did a modified version of WW to start with, I was going to do SB a few weeks ago, but I decided it does not fit my life. Just monitor your food intake, what you like and dislike-- journal if you can and just move. It may not come off as quickly as you want it--- but it will come off.

I was 268 my last birthday and this birthday I was under 200.... just by finding the mix for me and my life.

If you want a WL buddy, or just need to talk--- PM me or email me.

I can understand your ordeal. It is not easy to change your whole lifestyle even if you know it is for the better for you.

For me, I just decided I would not let myself continue down the track I was on. I was morbidly obese, had high blood pressure, elevated blood sugar levels and could barely walk from room to room.

You have to do this for yourself. You have to find the courage inside yourself to believe in yourself and love yourself. You can do this. Make small changes. For me, and a lot of others, counting calories is a great way to go. If you decide to use this method, find a site like fitday.com or sparkpeople.com and be sure to count EVERY morsel you take in. It is imperative that you don't leave anything out.

As far as exercise, I started out walking in place. I gradually moved on to Leslis Sansone DVDs. Now I use Jillian Michaels, The Biggest Loser and my Wii, not all at once, just depends on how I am feeling that day . My point is, it doesn't happen overnight. You don't go from eating whatever you want to eating healthier overnight. You don't go from being sedentary to running marathons overnight.

When you feel like going off track, remind yourself why you are dolng this. Remind yourself that only YOU can control if you succeed or fail. Come here and read the inspirational goal and mini goal stories. Play a game. Go for a walk. Have a relaxing bath. Do anything but make the choice to not change your life.

Good luck with your goals.

Hugs
Michelle

welcome! dont overwhelm yourself thinking about how far you have to go, it makes it so much easier to fail/not be able to start. just try to have one perfect day on whatever plan you are on, get some exercise in, and before you know it youll be well on your way to where you want to be. take one step at a time and youll be fine, i know it.

good luck, and welcome

thanks to all of you! I feel a little inspired already - I just wish I did not think about food all the time - my real problem is night eating so my witching hour is still hours away!

no to important things - how do I do the cute little progress chart on my profile

I think you have to be a member 20 days and have 20 posts but I could be incorrect. Once you have the requirements met, you can find out how to add the tracker here - http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/anno...signature.html

You can do this- remember it's about progress and not perfection! If you eat a bagel for breakfast don't think "well I messed up the day might as well continue." Instead think "okay I had a bagel for breakfast but I'm having a large salad with grilled chicken for lunch."

Small changes are what helped me- when I tried to be perfect I set myself up to fail.

Also you say you snack a lot at night- I used to do this too- I read a book on food addiction and I think compared to others I was addicted but not as bad as others. I took to heart the advice of the book (Conquer Your Food Addiction : The Ehrlich 8-Step Program for Permanent Weight Loss by Caryl Ehrlich. - I bought it used for very cheap on amazon) and liked it because it wasn't diet plan, but more about the psychological reasons why you over-eat and what to do.

I found for me boredom at night was making me eat- so I switched it up. I started playing more with my pets, reading, taking care of chores, and so on.

SURE now and then I'll snack after dinner- but only because this time I'm actually hungry and not bored!

Good luck!

I am one of the people starting and failing every other day. Its awful! And it can imagine worst feeling than that - when you are doing the best to start in the morning and at the evening you have already failed!

I am desperate and thinking about some surgical ways to manage it. Also, I have realized that I am people pleaser and I think that is the part of my problem! I feel like I would like to be just by myself. Not amusing anyone and trying to make them love me!

Yes, I do need to be "perfect". I guess that is the way I think people will love me...

Maybe decide that for one week, you will do A, B and/or C in the morning, and the evening are left alone. That will give you a week of pure success under your belt instead of a week of failure.

Then, try ONE day in which you stick to your plan, including the evening. It's just an experiment, to see what it feels like. One day only. This gives you the chance to experience that it doesn't kill you to resist - or conversely, if it does, that your "plan" needs work. Either way, you obtain critical information.

Hi ADD - I am the same way - do great in the morning and the evening comes and all **** breaks loose - food wise. I have learned over the years that it wasn't the food at all, that was my medication for the pain, sadness, insecurities and lack of love I felt inside - for myself. It has been a long road and baby steps, but slowly I have learned to change those feelings, not looking to food for comfort and love. I am by no means 'perfect' and never will be, but I am learning more about myself each day. All I can offer is that you are not alone, be gentle on yourself, learn about yourself from the inside out, and take baby steps, don't be in a rush to find a 'cure all' over night. Listen to the ladies on here, because there are many with phenominal support and advice.

Love yourself!

Nobody's perfect....

Congratulations on making a start! I'm commited to keep trying no matter what. Once you make it past one day and then the next and the next, it starts to get easier. I've been trying (again) for the past few weeks. Even with some big bad meals thrown in, I've lost 4 lbs.

Are you on a plan? There are so many to choose from. I focus on eating whole foods that keep me full and my blood sugar steady. I limit grains and sugar & eat lots of protein and veggies.

There's also a 100lb club, which is very supportive. It's nice to chat with other folks with around the same amount to lose.