Good for you for shutting her down! Hopefully she will take the cue and try to be more encouraging and positive instead of being a browbeater! We usually know when and where we messed up and really don't need someone else pointing and wagging fingers at us (okay; maybe some of the time we might if we can't shake it off) but for a week to week, regular type of conversation, a little positivity will go much further in the right direction. She may be frustrated but she should know that you are, too! Hang in there! You'll beat this thing yet!

Yay Kelly!! Way to hold steady after your rough week last week!! Nice job on the inches lost too. Glad you had a good chat with your coach - now get back to work! :hug::D

Kellyc14
Good for you for sticking up for yourself!
If we could be "beat down" into submission to lose weight, we all would have done that a LONG LONG time ago.

Negativity doesn't work.
As a matter of fact, you probably would have been MORE willing to go to last week's weigh-in if you had expected support in the form of problem-solving and ideas instead of a beat-down.

And, since you lost inches, you're still LOSING! Fat loss doesn't show up on the scale as quickly as water weight does but the measuring tape surely doesn't lie :)

Moving forward...contingent plans for struggles really help.
As in: "here's what I'll do when I'm having an easy day and here is my plan for days that feel hard"

Sometimes allowing for an extra packet may be all that is necessary to get us over a hump. When I have done this, I don't have my restricted and the 4th packet is on of the 80-calorie packs like pink lemonade or raspberry jello. Or, some cauliflower pancakes might work as a snack to get you over a hump.

This is life and the way ahead for most of us - we will always be facing challenges with food and always learning how to cope with the desire to have "just a bit" or "something that I deserve or really enjoy". You may have *only* lost a lb each of those weeks, but that is 2 whole pounds that is gone. Yes, it could've been more but .... you could also have binged and gained. You're still going down on the scales and that is a victory. Try not to be so hard on yourself, this isn't a race and this journey is so much more important than the number on a scale. What we are learning is how to live with our eating disorders and stressful lives, and that takes time and sometimes many lessons. :)

That is fabulous news, Rosemary. :)

Glad that you saw some inch losses to keep you focused. Relieved that you were able to cut through the coach crap to what you need from her. I had wondered where you got to as I hadn't seen any posts from you, happy to hear that you're ok and ready to get back to the IP grindstone! :)

:hug:

Don't get me wrong - I get the "tough love" approach & for some people that works really well, but your coach gives me the heebie-jeebies (sorry) :( & I know I couldn't deal with that kind of stress and pressure on top of 'x-y-z'. Hope they "got it" and are more helpful to YOU.

Frawnie - so scary about the odor & glad you are feeling better.


Awesome NSV Shark :broc:

Positive = I woke up feeling good enough to come into work...although I am 100% ready to go home now - used up all my energy pretty quickly. I HAVE to have this thing beat by Friday. Treating myself (with some girlfriends) at the nail salon & having some cool St. Patty's day nails put on :)

So - question...beyond Friday, Saturday hubby and I are at an all-day concert / St. Patty's festival in DC (12:30 - ???? whenever we're done with the bands). Going to see our favorite, Carbon Leaf, along with some other Irish-folk-rock bands (think Dropkick Murphy's) - anyway, that is going to be a REALLY long day...I believe I can bring a back pack, and if that's the case, have enough stash pockets to get in a bag of veggies / Quest chips / Quest bar - and I could always flip-flop my big meal to lunch & have some veggies / Quest chips for "dinner" and a bar to hold me over...actually, I think I just talked myself through what I need to do lol :p
I guess the caveat is if the new company running Shamrock Fest has stricter rules - ie, no back packs. Stuff my pockets with Quest Bars? Take my chances with "Chicken-on-a-stick"? ;) I know there is always some corn beef and cabbage being sold out of a vendor truck...just worried about the additives. Thoughts?

Thank you Lisa. It's not really "food" that has been derailing me. It's alcohol. It's my way of coping with stress. I need to find a new outlet!! walking maybe? There will always be stress, unavoidable. I managed to cope without drinking for the first 7 months. I know that I can do it again.



:) Thank you!!

Exactly Frawniemae. I know I messed up, I don't need anyone to tell me. Encouragement is the biggest motivating factor!!

Well it is official. It's time to break out the Metamucil (Calm didn't work on me last time so I don't feel like shelling out another $14 for it to not work this time). My WI yesterday was a win/lose I guess. Added .6 lbs (but I think I know where it is all hiding - see first sentence), gained muscle mass, lost fat mass, lost a 1/4" here and there, hydration up and BMI ever so slowly edging down. All I can do is keep on keepin' on!!!

You hit on exactly why I'm too afraid to do that event. I really enjoy festival food and beer--and it's not so much that I think I'd cave (unless they really did take away my emergency snacks -- it looks, from the FAQ, like anything that won't fit in a pocket is fair game), but I just think that might distract me from all of the fun. I also really hate port-a-potties, doubly so at heavy drinking events, so I know I wouldn't hydrate sufficiently. ;)

Big meal for lunch is a brilliant idea! Sneaking bars in via pockets, similarly brilliant! (And it just might work! The lows are low enough that you'll want a jacket.)

You know, I just checked Alton Brown's corned beef recipe, and while it has some carbs, it's not as illegal as I would have expected. 1/2 cup brown sugar and a cooked onion for 4-5 pounds of beef. (He's my go-to for "how much sugar/fat will this thing have, worst case?" :)) In a pinch, I would probably risk it. It just depends on your comfort level.

When I have to attend something and I need to bring food in like the movies or festival or something, I just show it to them and tell them that I need it for medical reasons vs trying to stow it away. It has always worked.

I think it's worth trying the honesty angle, but with some bars tucked in pockets as an emergency backup. :)

The other thing .. presumably you will be doing a lot of walking while you're there, so you will also be burning more calories. It's not an excuse to eat more without justification, but if you are forced into less than optimal choices for your main meal, you should be close to OK on calorie count (if not carb load). Just make sure to get more water in while you are physically active or the thirst of dehydration will confuse you into thinking you are hungry. :)

Hope you have a fabulous time!

My office has a big spread for St. Patrick's day. It seems like there's been so much food around since I've started IP! Maybe I just notice more, haha. Brought an IP yogurt drink and having grilled pork chops tonight though!! :)

magpie:
Corned beef is made with brisket, which isn't a cut of beef on the P1 sheet, due to higher fat content.

Here is a P1 friendly recipe for "corned beef"
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/5143180-post153.html

Don't know if this will actually work, but it made me chuckle and I figured it might be a smile-worthy picture for the day - very appropriate for those of us on a diet:-

https://www.facebook.com/Majic955Aus...type=1&theater

Kellyc14!!! Been missing you!!! So glad you have not gone so far off the grid that it was too hard to come back!!!

You have travelled 2/3 of the way to your goal -- great results!!! I do hope you will hang in with us to finish your journey -- You CAN do this!!!!

I went to the strawberry festival in Florida a few weeks ago. I had no idea what to expect. I took 4 quest bars. When we walked in all I saw was pizza, French fries, pastries and many other delectables not to mention home made strawberry shortcake. I ate a quest bar and 500 ml of water every two to three hours. Worked great. No cravings no hunger and manged to get through the day without going nuts.
I must say I was glad I didn't have to stand and shove a pizza or French fries into my mouth. It just was not worth it. Good luck