Funny you should say after the holidays bothered you, me too! Was the weirdest thing I got a bit depressed at what I didn't eat that holiday season....questioned would this work, am I happy where I am and should I phase off......then 2 lbs at WI this week and my mental state was kicked back on track! Think I had the after holidays blues :?::?: but I know next year this time I will be in maintenance! I will be able to taste treats and get right back on track.... I will have the tools to do this!

So funny I have the fat hang too! Thanks for the insight. I am a medical chicken :shrug::shrug: so surgery scares the crap out of me, but now I plan to wait it out and see what happens. I have been obese most of my adult life so lots of stretching has occurred. I have not been in onederland since my wedding 23 years ago...

Sgrealtor1
I'm glad you said "taste" those treats next year.
I'm rebooting due to EATING them, rather than just having a taste.
As the Skinny Girl says: taste everything, eat nothing.

Tastes in maintenance will be fine. My downfall has always been volume.
I need to learn quality over quantity.

So I just hit the 60 pounds down marker! From 326 to 266 in a bit over 4 months.

https://mindstar.com/scratch/WL_2015_01_08.jpg

Measurement losses are over 20" now. Waistline nearly 9" evaporated. I went from 53-53-53 in Sept to 47-44-47 in January. Gosh those projections for the end of May using the linear regression lines are really inspiring (41-35-39). Can't wait to get down there (it's only (possibly) 4.5 months away now) I haven't had measurements that great for over 20 years.

https://mindstar.com/scratch/ML_2015_01_08.jpg

Yay, you!! I love your charts. I, too, use line graphs to predict where I might be in the future. Its very motivating!

Yay! Congrats! I too just hit my 60lb loss mark! So I know how proud you are! Great job Hun I know first hand your struggle. Keep it up!! We got this

Thanks! And congratulations to you two also, loser58 and crystalian, you are both flying downwards!! So wonderful to share our journey.

Oh, I am the ultimate chicken when it comes to dentists and hospitals. Never had general anesthesia, so .... looking into all the post-loss options before I consider surgical solutions. :)

Congrats Alexandra! Those are some super numbers and I know it won't be long before you're reaching those desired stats! :)

Congrats Crystalian! I love seeing all the milestone losses - here's to many more! :)

yes for sure only taste!

Yeah!good job....

In response to the "fat hang" conversation, my DIL was over last night and she made the comment that after being overweight for so long my skin may not shrink back to normal and I might end up with a ton of loose skin. My response was, I would rather be healthy and have loose skin than overweight. That pretty much shut her up, but it was aggravating. Before I began my journey she talked about how fat I was (behind my back of course). When I started losing she was happy for me and had a lot of questions about the diet, but now she doesn't talk about it at all and makes snide remarks. I am guessing that is because she has become quite over weight herself and I am now quite smaller than her. So in order to make herself feel better she has to find something negative about me. People like her make me want to succeed all the more.

Absolutely, Kellyc14!!
Very sorry it's your DIL who is the source of this aggravation, but relative body size and body perceptions do seem to be a factor that helps define our human interpersonal relationships. As our physical body image changes, others around us have to make some adjustments in how they relate to us. Some changes are positive ones - where our existence is more notably acknowledged by others (just thinking of the discussion last week about 'no longer being invisible'). And some changes are negative ones - where our accomplishment in losing weight seems like a threat to others around us, and they become defensive in a myriad of ways.

I kind of try to detach and observe this dynamic - it's fascinating to see how those around me shift and jockey around to maintain their social (and professional) positions relative to me.... we humans are full of fallibilities, aren't we?

The MIL - DIL dynamic can be a challenging one in many families... I hope your DIL will make peace with your positive changes and weight loss accomplishments. There are so many more important family matters to give attention to. :hug:

"Like"! Very insightful observations & analysis. Reactions can sometimes be disappointing & downright hurtful, even from people who are are happy for you/me/us on some level. As a detached observer I can enjoy the humor of the fat-thin pecking order.

Tried a quest bar last night...woke up with a horrible stomach ache. Has anyone had any problems with these bars (it was a chocolate peanut butter one with stevia)?

No I haven't but the stevia ones also have sugar alcohols. Have other bars you've tried had the same sugar alcohols? Some people have problems with some sugar alcohols

Kelly sorry you DIL has attitude! Just keep you head up and move on. Your doing great and so what if we wind up with a bit a skin hang, he scale number and health benefits are well worth it.

Well said!

I had a very good relationship with my MIL. She wanted me to lose weight for years and was even willing to pay for it when things were tight for DH and I. I miss her so much and she would have been so proud of what i am doing.

On the subject of people's reaction.....my coach is in the same office as my chiropractor whom my mom sees also. When I was at WI this week my coach told me my mom came into her office this week, hugged her and said to her " thanks for saving my daughters life". If that's not support I don't know what is! Love my mom....

Kelly- Keep your head up, you continue doing what you're doing! I'm sorry your DIL is such a mean and jealous person :( I understand how you feel, it is natural to get hurt by comments from people we care about- I have a similar thing going on, this is with a friend, well a couple, but this particular one didn't even "noticed" my weight loss-How can you not notice 70lbs? That's just jealousy from their part- more fuel-like you said- to continue moving on and the most important part, to do it FOR OURSELVES. I'm young, I want to do it to look and feel good, of course for health reasons too, but everyone has "their" reasons for wanting to finally make the change! Please don't let anyone's bad comments make you feel sad- We have this problem of running to food for comfort when we feel sad (happy, angry, every feeling!) so I'm very proud of you and remember we believe in you :hug: Also, she might not want to be "bigger" than you so that's why she's been bitter, but you continue to be strong and stronger! The skin of course we'll have it, but I read that it takes about 6 months for our skin to shrink, to catch up to our weight loss- plus you can always do toning or surgery if it bothers you too much, but that's the last resource. You're doing great!!! :carrot:


Sgrealtor-That's great you had such a wonderful relationship with your MIL :D And awwww bless your mom, that's so adorable!! Our moms are our best friends, our cheerleaders our very biggest supporters! Moms rule!!!:cheer3::cheer3: