I am an absolute mess. Please tell me that I am not the only one experiancing this on my diet. I am ready to strangle my husband. He makes me feel horrible if I screw up and eat something I'm not supposed to.
Yesterday I told him I had decided to eat thanksgiving with the family then get back on track. Well needless to say we are at war today I am ready to ring his neck.
I don't know what ever he sais to make things right they make things worse. He is so insensitive. He has no trouble eating what ever he wants when ever he wants and thinks that I'm OK. Well I'm not Ok. I asked him to try the diet for a day. Nope. I've asked him to taste some of the stuff I have been eating. Not a chance there.
I hate this. I have to loose the weight but I am so miserable. I am all by myself and all I do is cry.
will this go away will it get easier?
Hi Mlseward.... I'm sorry you are definitely having a rough day! Yes it does get easier, and your resolve to not cheat will get stronger. When I first started I spent hours on here reading every thread I could. The more I read the stronger I felt! It sounds like your husband is not going to be supportive for awhile. He may think this is just another diet that you are going to fail at, like all the other ones. Time will prove him wrong and as you lose the weight you will become a much stronger person. You just won't be as sensitive to comments from others are you are now. This is an amazing plan because it does work, and because you will succeed at it you will become a more confident person. Just give it time
I am an absolute mess. Please tell me that I am not the only one experiancing this on my diet. I am ready to strangle my husband. He makes me feel horrible if I screw up and eat something I'm not supposed to.
Yesterday I told him I had decided to eat thanksgiving with the family then get back on track. Well needless to say we are at war today I am ready to ring his neck.
I don't know what ever he sais to make things right they make things worse. He is so insensitive. He has no trouble eating what ever he wants when ever he wants and thinks that I'm OK. Well I'm not Ok. I asked him to try the diet for a day. Nope. I've asked him to taste some of the stuff I have been eating. Not a chance there.
I hate this. I have to loose the weight but I am so miserable. I am all by myself and all I do is cry.
will this go away will it get easier?
You have a birthday coming up in less than two weeks. Why not ask for an early birthday present? Ask that he not say one word about the diet, what you are eating, or how you look? In return, don't ask him to eat what you're eating, don't talk about the diet, but most important, and your own present to yourself -- stay on plan. If you do, you should be well into wonderland by your birthday. That would be wonderful, and so encouraging. Of course you can eat sparingly during the Thanksgiving dinner; enjoy the company, and the protein. You don't have to self-induce sugar fidgets or kick yourself out of ketosis if you eat carefully. If people make an issue of it, just smile and say you're giving yourself the gift of healthiness. People can be rotten if they sense someone is vulnerable, especially if they're drinking and no matter how much they love you. Only you can find the strength to rise above it. And yes, that is an he-l off a lonely feeling. But you see, you really aren't alone.
Yes, it gets easier. When you see and feel the weight just dropping off your body faster than it has with anyother diet! This program is great. You are doing it for yourself and no one else. Remember you are NOT alone you have all of us! Reading this forum daily keeps me going.
My boyfriend eats tortilla chips with cheese EVERYNIGHT in front of me. We went to Red Lobster last sunday just the 2 of us kind of a date night. I LOVE their biscuits. I said to BF "I love their biscuits this is going to be a challenge for me. Maybe this time we would say no to the biscuits?" response: while chuckling, "just means more for me!" 3 biscuits were brought to our table he ate 2 and made "mmmmm" noises the entire time and took the 3rd one home and ate that instead of nachos before bed!
I just remind myself that I am doing this for me and no one else. Just because I want to get to a healthy weight does not mean everyone does. (the BF needs to lose 100 or so lbs and just doesn't seem to care that his 40 inch waist pants are too tight)
I suggest using his negative comments to fuel your strength and resolve! stay strong and stick with the program and he will be amazed within two to three weeks. My husband joined me on my diet once he saw how fast the weight was dropping and how much more energy I had.
I just love it when I get those, oh you will never stick to it, or you will gain it all back. Now that I am down 42 lbs. And a size 10 the big mouths seem to have been silenced and they are having to endure everyone commenting on how great I look. remember she who laughs last, laughs best!
I am an absolute mess. Please tell me that I am not the only one experiancing this on my diet. I am ready to strangle my husband. He makes me feel horrible if I screw up and eat something I'm not supposed to.
Yesterday I told him I had decided to eat thanksgiving with the family then get back on track. Well needless to say we are at war today I am ready to ring his neck.
I don't know what ever he sais to make things right they make things worse. He is so insensitive. He has no trouble eating what ever he wants when ever he wants and thinks that I'm OK. Well I'm not Ok. I asked him to try the diet for a day. Nope. I've asked him to taste some of the stuff I have been eating. Not a chance there.
I hate this. I have to loose the weight but I am so miserable. I am all by myself and all I do is cry.
will this go away will it get easier?
I know how you are feeling too. My husband is not supportive either. But, I have taken this on as a stength building lesson. Gone are the days when I needed his approval for things. I am doing this for myself and you are too! It makes me stronger every time I weigh in and see the weight slip away. It may be a only a pound a week for me, but it is still a lost. One pound at a time I am getting stronger. After the first couple of weeks on this plan I no longer came home and told him my weight and inches lost. All I would get is a look from him. Nothing else. Not a word, and then he would turn back to his tv show. I really think he thinks this is like all the other diets I have been on and that it won't work. He has never been on a diet because he is at a healthy weight.
After some weight came off I was sure he would say something to me but no, he hasn't. Even after numerous people have commented to me on the lost in front of him, he still says nothing. Yesterday, my two sons were home for Thanksgiving. The youngest told me mom, your getting so thin. Way to go! You're looking great! Others will soon lift your spirits too! We on this forum will be here for you! Like some song says, "I am woman, hear me roar."
Keep at it.......it is so worth it for yourself! Consider it their problem, not yours!
Yesterday was hard for me, but not because of my husband. He is very supportive. But my brother's wife kept telling me that since I had lost so much weight in such a short period of time that I need to boost my metabolism by eating carbs, one meal wouldn't hurt, etc. She kept hammering at me all day. I did stay strong. It didn't help b/c this week, for the first time since my initial weigh in on 09/25, I have felt like I had a big blob in my stomach and I don't feel like I have lost anything. I don't know if I am psyching myself out or what. But I was very glad to see her leave last night. She was driving me crazy. On the other hand, my husband, parents, brother, sons and their wife/girlfriends all commented on my weight loss in a positive way. So I tried to keep my focus on that.
I am an absolute mess. Please tell me that I am not the only one experiancing this on my diet. I am ready to strangle my husband. He makes me feel horrible if I screw up and eat something I'm not supposed to.
Yesterday I told him I had decided to eat thanksgiving with the family then get back on track. Well needless to say we are at war today I am ready to ring his neck.
I don't know what ever he sais to make things right they make things worse. He is so insensitive. He has no trouble eating what ever he wants when ever he wants and thinks that I'm OK. Well I'm not Ok. I asked him to try the diet for a day. Nope. I've asked him to taste some of the stuff I have been eating. Not a chance there.
I hate this. I have to loose the weight but I am so miserable. I am all by myself and all I do is cry.
will this go away will it get easier?
I feel your pain friend. Here's something I've noticed. Maybe you can relate to some part of this.
I have noticed in my life that when I have made big changes for the better...it not only challenges my life, but the lives of some of those around me. Are they threatened? Will we change to the point where we don't feel the same about them? Are we unmasking other peoples bad habits, addictions and so on. Sometimes part of the glue of a relationship are the habits we share, and not always the good habits. When one breaks away, it pulls the veil away on everyone, not just us. So...that's why I come here everyday and hang out with all of you amazing brave and determined women and men. We're doing something very focused and specific and need constant reinforcement. We are re-patterning ourselves from head to toe. We will continue be an example of positive change and who knows...maybe even lead the way for others around us to follow. But first and foremost...you first. Keep strong and thank you for your inspiration. We are with you all the way. Have a great day.
Thank you all, I really needed that. I am doing a bit better today. I was so upset yesterday. Geesh I feel like I am walking a tight rope these days. Lucky me I found an old bottle of zannex SP? I use for flying. I took one of those and I was able to get through the day. I don't know why I am so emotional. I'm down on average 8 pounds. this whole thing is just so hard. I've never had any trouble starving for a diet and I can't quiet grasp why I am having so many issues here. But your right I will try to hang in on the boards for support. I won't be getting it at home.
I havn't decided if I regret the comment I made to hubby yesterday or not, He had told me a couple years back that one of his co worker's wife left him after she dropped all her weight and was skinny. I reminded him of it and told him the reason she left him was because he was probably an insensitive jerk to her while she was trying to loose her weight. Funny but he's nicer today.
Hugs to all and Thank you. ((((((((((((((((((HUGE HUGS))))))))))))))))))
Thank you all, I really needed that. I am doing a bit better today. I was so upset yesterday. Geesh I feel like I am walking a tight rope these days. Lucky me I found an old bottle of zannex SP? I use for flying. I took one of those and I was able to get through the day. I don't know why I am so emotional. I'm down on average 8 pounds. this whole thing is just so hard. I've never had any trouble starving for a diet and I can't quiet grasp why I am having so many issues here. But your right I will try to hang in on the boards for support. I won't be getting it at home.
I havn't decided if I regret the comment I made to hubby yesterday or not, He had told me a couple years back that one of his co worker's wife left him after she dropped all her weight and was skinny. I reminded him of it and told him the reason she left him was because he was probably an insensitive jerk to her while she was trying to loose her weight. Funny but he's nicer today.
Hugs to all and Thank you. ((((((((((((((((((HUGE HUGS))))))))))))))))))
Well, somehow you had to let all out of your chest, and you did, I personally feel better when I do that -
My husband doesn't want to do this with me, so I am all alone also, he eats ice-cream everyday, chips, drinks soda, etc... and I am here with cabbage, broccoli, cucumbers and lettuce, and to top it off I am the one who cooks, I cook for him and for me, I have to make lasagna, spaguetti, baked potatoes, rice, etc... all the "good" stuff for him, I rather cook otherwise we will have to go out to eat and that's gonna be worse for me... I just see this whole process as a personal challege, I am doing this for me, I want to beat myself, and I want to show to myself that I can do this, I have cheated once, and it feels horrible, I admit that I was weak and started over again. The support here is unbelievable, it helps me to go thru the day.
So glad you feel better! Keep going to reach your goal, together we can!
Hugs!
. I reminded him of it and told him the reason she left him was because he was probably an insensitive jerk to her while she was trying to loose her weight. ((((((((((((((((((HUGE HUGS))))))))))))))))))
This diet is soooooo different than what we all are accustomed to. We are so used to Weight Watchers type stuff.....we cheat get back on and then go again. This is a NO Cheat ever diet. There are no on and off days. This diet should drop weight off you like crazy in a quick manner. It is expensive and so any cheat no matter how minor...is expensive. I was ready when I started, but if a person is not ready this is not a good diet to do. Our daughter needs to lose 180 pounds and she is not ready so this is not the diet for her. She follows a weight watchers type plan and loses 3-4 pounds a month. I have been on the diet for 11 weeks and have not cheated once. I have not tasted one thing that would be considered off protocol. I have only eaten out twice (normally I eat out 3-4 times a week). The first time was great filet and asparagus with olive oil and the chef was great....the second time was more stressful the chef did not follow my requests and I was so stressed about the food so I switched with hubby and ate 1/2 of his filet instead of my scallops in some sauce I knew I couldn't eat.
I feel left out alot...it is a bummer, but wow does 41 pounds less in 11 weeks feel great. I will be close to my goal in two more months and then I can feel more normal.
Some men are not sensitive to our needs. You have explained to him that you need his support and you still do not get it from him. He is not going to miraculously change his personality. I cook the meat and vegetables for my dinner. Before I start I ask my husband if he wants what I am having. If he does I will make rice or instant potatoes for him. If he doesn't he is on his own. I work all day, too and I refuse to make to separate meals. Most people are afraid of change. This may be his problem, too. He doesn't know what you will be like thin or he is afraid you won't be satisfied with him or for whatever reason. These are his issues - you do not have to sacrifice your self or your dreams to satisfy him. You have to find satisfaction in what you do get from him and find the rest with people who care and understand your weight issues and losing it. I have never been on an easier diet in my life. I don't lose every week, but I always know that I was true to the plan and the lose eventually has to go somewhere. This is the best group of people I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. I know that I always have their support. They are not going to let me feel sorry for myself, and they will praise me for any little thing I do. I deserve it and so do you and everyone else on this board. Keep coming back, it works if you work it.
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On the other hand, my husband, parents, brother, sons and their wife/girlfriends all commented on my weight loss in a positive way. So I tried to keep my focus on that.
