Ok so it was my birthday on sunday, and I brought home the rest of my birthday cake that my mom had bought me, I didn't want to leave it sit out, b/c I didn't want my bf's stepdad to eat it all on me, but there was no room in the fridge, so I left it out, hoping that he would at least have the decency to ask before having some and leave some for me, well my bf wrote a note saying 'No Touchie' and put it on top of the cake box...I told him not too...but little did we know the fuss it would make..it was never intended to be such a big deal as it turned out to be.
Anyway my bf came home this morning from working midnights, and saw that the note had been ripped up and put back on top of the cake box, he asked his mom about it at lunch time and with a smirk on her face told us my bf's stepdad did it b/c he was pissed off and wanted to eat it all, then she went on to say that we were in the wrong b/c sharing is the way to go and she shared her birthday cake. Well...no one told her she had to share her birthday cake, and since it was my birthday cake it should be my choice to share any of it, and I would have, had he asked, I would have only requested he leave a piece for me and my bf.
Anyway after she left to go back to work, we made ourselves lunch, I decided to have a piece of my cake, and to my surprise found that my bf's stepdad had covered the top with jelly beans, and had pressed them down into the cake so that they took off the icing when I took them off of my cake. Well I was so mad when I saw this, how childish can one man be? Just b/c he wanted to eat the rest of a cake that didn't belong to him and didn't have the common courtesy to just ASK?!
Well...I was so angry I ended up eating the rest of the cake...and my bf's mom had left a piece of her birthday cake in the fridge with a note saying 'grandma's cake'..my bf ripped it up (I know two wrongs don't make a right, but this house is so full of double standards..and he saw how much it hurt me that his stepdad had been so immature)
When my bf's mom got home, she flipped out, saying she wasn't the one who did it, and it's just a cake blah blah blah.
Anyway...she said that it was just a cake, and that he didn't ruin it, and it wasn't meant to piss anyone off, what did he think it was going to do? I said to my bf that although it didn't ruin my cake, that's not the point, and it would be the same as if I had went out and sprayed silly string all over his trike, it wouldnt have ruined it but he would have be pretty pissed off that I would do something like that to something that belonged to him. My bf's mom said that everything in this house is everyones and that nothing is off limits...well I disagree. The cake was bought for me for my birthday by my mother, if i want to share it I can, if not that should be my choice as well, but all he had to do was ask, and I wouldn't have cared, he wanted to eat the entire thing, without asking me first.
My bf and I actually thought things were settling down here...some of you may remember previous posts....well we had decided that we would save money and maybe not move out, but take a trip next summer instead, after today, we have totally forgotten about taking a trip, and its back to saving money to move out, I think what my bf's stepdad did was completly and utterly childish and immature. I realize it is only a cake, but its the principal, it is how he acted b/c he wanted to eat the entire thing and not have to ask. I don't think that everything in this house belongs to everyone, all of my personal belongings, that I have bought myself and brought with me when I moved in do not belong to them just b/c they are in this house, they are still my property.
I just wanted to post and get this off my chest..once again! I was really actually hoping things were getting better, but I guess not. I was looking forward to going to LA and Las Vegas next summer, but that will have to wait, LA and Las Vegas arn't going anywhere, but my bf and I sure are, away from here.
Thanks for listening.