[doingmybest]

I just want to send you big hugs too. I can only imagine how sad this situation is for you. It is especially difficult to see kids go through this.

I think that one of the toughest things in life is loneliness. When I cut ties off from my abusive family, I knew it was the right thing to do but it left a big hole in my soul. I decided to replace them with loving, supportive people, and I have been lucky to find a few, including my DH and a few friends. This still didn't quite take the place of family, but now I have much more peace and happiness in my life. I hope you will find the same.

[Palestrina]

Originally Posted by AngieRR1022

Wannabe, I wish it were that simple. The courts gave my parents a choice between their family and drugs. Literally. When my niece was living with me, the judge told them they were not allowed to visit unless they passed a drug test. My father told me "I ain't quittin. I'm too **** old to change, girl." And they refused any treatment or further drug testing by the courts.

They chose drugs over their grandchildren. They chose drugs over me. After a lifetime of this, I dont think I have it in me to leave a door open for these people. It hurts me, it seriously breaks my heart, but I think it's the only way for me to move on. I am mostly happy with my decision. Like so many people have said here, my children and I don't need people like that in our lives. But every now and then I get down about it. And that's what I have my few close friends and you guys on here for.

I get it. I wasn't suggesting that you leave a door open for their benefit. I was only suggesting it for your own benefit. Let other people make their choices, even if those choices are obviously horrible. I'm sorry your parents did not choose you. Drug addiction is an ugly disease.

[AngieRR1022]

Feeling wonderful today, guys! This talk seems to have really helped me. Thanks again for the love and support. It's awesome to know I have somewhere to turn when life gets to be too much.

[luckymommy]

Fantastic news AngieRR! I hope this wonderful feeling continues for a long, long time.

[df180]

we're here for you, many hugs