No I haven't had a problem hugging anybody. Maybe since I have been big my entire life I just not thought about it. You shouldn't feel ashamed to hug though. The people who love you and want affection from you are not thinking about your weight negatively.
I hug my family, specifically my husband and kids. Outside of those, I am a very non-touchy person. It's not the hug, or my fat, it's that I don't like to be touched by someone unless they are the utmost important person to me.
I have a professor who is well meaning but he'll put his hand on your shoulder. I don't have shoulder fat but it is seriously disturbing to me. Even when he speaks to me it's just way to close. He's like this with every student but it's just not at my comfort level.
Oh! Then I had a huggy boss once... that was.... awkward.
Last edited by XLMuffnTop; 03-18-2013 at 08:59 AM.
I don't. I'm a very affectionate person and grew up in a household that always showed love. Probably because my parents never received any growing up, so they wanted to show my sister and I that they loved us. But I never avoid hugs. I hug all my friends and people I hang out with!
I'm not hugely huggy, but I'm not opposed to hugs at all. The only time I really avoid them is if I'm wearing spanx and I think it will be obvious to anyone who touches my unnaturally taut abdomen!
I don't like hugs from people other than my DH and children. Even from people that I've known for years, I avoid it. But it has nothing to do with my weight. I grew up in a very standoff-ish family so physical affection can make me feel uncomfortable. Also,I never know which side my head should go when hugging someone. I always end up choosing the wrong side.
Nope, I've always been a hugger. Thank goodness I never had that particular hangup. One of my best friend's hubby even comments on a regular basis what a good hugger I am. Happily she agrees and approves of me enthusiastically hugging her husband.
Also,I never know which side my head should go when hugging someone. I always end up choosing the wrong side.
LOL, me too shishkeberry!
I grew up in a kinda non-huggy household, well my grandparents hugged but we only saw them a few times a year. I also don't initiate hugs but I don't back away from them either (how socially awkward would that be, LOL!)
I have found that in my relatively-new-found culture of cruiser motorcycling, most bikers are huggers, once you've met. It can be a simple kind of shoulder-to-shoulder bro bump or a big bear hug.
I do regret not hugging my boys alot, I always thought that they would think I was being a clingy or dorky mom; I envied when I saw their friends' moms hug their teenage sons, I know my boys know I love them but I wish I had made hugging a daily thing.
Last edited by VermontMom; 03-21-2013 at 07:02 PM.
speaking of personal space....the post up there about the huggy boss and professor with his hand on their shoulder...I've run across a few people in my work field who get WAY TOO CLOSE and I hate it...I once worked with someone who would get thisclose to me when speaking to me and, as I inched farther away, would FOLLOW me until sometimes I was literally trapped in a corner LOL...and I once worked with someone, a man, who would always get very close to me when speaking to me, or pat me on the shoulder, all of which I detest..ugh
I'm tall, it makes hugging people awkward, even my own husband. And people can't fit their arms around me, so I have to bow down so they can get my shoulder/neck.
