[fitstrongchica]

I'm friendless as well. Am 21 years old, and don't have a single real friend to go out with or talk to. I've been a socially isolated loner for literally my entire life. I have bad social anxiety and terrible social/conversation skills. I've tried to change things and make friends, but I always, ALWAYS fail at it. It sucks being alone, but at this point I'm just trying to learn to accept my aloneness, even though I hate it. I'm done with continuously trying to make friends and continuously failing and being disappointed. I won't be making friends any time soon (if ever), and I'll just have to accept that.

[EagleRiverDee]

It is hard to accept. I know I'm a nice person with good traits for a friend (loyal, honest, punctual) but I've come to the conclusion that I must be boring. My "friends" never hesitate to contact me when their lives are going to heck and they need a shoulder to cry on. But as soon as their lives are back on track, they call other people to go out and have fun with.

[NJChick78]

SweetAsCanBe, this must all be very hard for you.

I too have a toxic friend. Well, semi-toxic. She is not supportive of my weightloss. She tries to sabotage my diet. She never helps me. I need to be more like you and end my relationship.

[Palestrina]

Originally Posted by SweetAsCanBe

I guess I'm just a bit odd. I never fit in. My last job everyone avoided me cause I didn't have any fun drunk stories. Sorry I'd rather be with my kids than out drinking and driving. I do drink once in a while, maybe once a year, but not much interest.

This stuck out at me. It sounds a bit judgmental. You may not have anything in common with these people but that's not necessarily why you're being avoided. I make small talk with people I have nothing in common with all the time. Sometimes I feel like I'm isolated and avoided because of my weight but if you're putting out the vibe that you don't drink and that you judge people for drinking then it's a no brainer that they will avoid you. Nobody wants to hang out with anyone who is judgemental, sound familiar?

We've all been in a place of loneliness and isolation, I can certainly sympathize. Have you tried joining a book club, or a softball team, or going to a dance class, or just anything that will get you out of the house and interacting with other adults? I have a 2yr old and sometimes all I want is some adult conversation! It's important enough for our sanity to seek it out.