So what does he expect you to do? Take her back? At this point you and the dog have already bonded, so what would be the point of that? Who the heck cares what his MOM thinks?????! Too bad if he thinks she won't like her, that's what boarding kennels are for.
I know- I've been feeding her whopping amounts of food. It's sad to see her backbone and hip bones sticking out like that. She is starting to gain a little weight.
I got a text just before the end of my workday from my SO telling me tersely that he is going to watch his son play hockey and to fend for myself for dinner.
Then he texted me that his mother wants to meet my dog a couple of times before she takes care of her on the occasional days where we're gone all day snowmobiling. I had made that exact suggestion yesterday which is when he hit me with how because my dog is a pitbull that his mother will never be comfortable with her and nothing I do will change that. So I wrote him back and said I would make other arrangements and that in the meantime I would just not go snowmobiling and he could just go with his friends. Which is something he normally likes to do, anyway.
So he gets mad at tells me he is frustrated and why am I being this way? So I tell him what I said here- that he saw the ad and didn't object, we brought Mila home for a test run and he didn't object, and he never objected until right up when I formalized her adoption. And I feel blindsided and am angry about the games he's playing.
So he proceeds to criticize how I'm going to raise the dog by saying I'm not going to properly socialize her (hello, we have our first appointment with a professional dog trainer tomorrow and he knows that!) and how the only people who own pitbulls or rottweillers are trailer trash. Oh yes, he went there. And he said he didn't want people to think that about him.
I mean, holy cow. This all just hit me like a whirlwind and I have no idea where it's coming from. But I definitely don't feel better about how things are going, right now, for sure. I mean, where did all this snobbiness and judgmental crap come from?
I got a text just before the end of my workday from my SO telling me tersely that he is going to watch his son play hockey and to fend for myself for dinner.
Then he texted me that his mother wants to meet my dog a couple of times before she takes care of her on the occasional days where we're gone all day snowmobiling. I had made that exact suggestion yesterday which is when he hit me with how because my dog is a pitbull that his mother will never be comfortable with her and nothing I do will change that. So I wrote him back and said I would make other arrangements and that in the meantime I would just not go snowmobiling and he could just go with his friends. Which is something he normally likes to do, anyway.
So he gets mad at tells me he is frustrated and why am I being this way? So I tell him what I said here- that he saw the ad and didn't object, we brought Mila home for a test run and he didn't object, and he never objected until right up when I formalized her adoption. And I feel blindsided and am angry about the games he's playing.
So he proceeds to criticize how I'm going to raise the dog by saying I'm not going to properly socialize her (hello, we have our first appointment with a professional dog trainer tomorrow and he knows that!) and how the only people who own pitbulls or rottweillers are trailer trash. Oh yes, he went there. And he said he didn't want people to think that about him.
I mean, holy cow. This all just hit me like a whirlwind and I have no idea where it's coming from. But I definitely don't feel better about how things are going, right now, for sure. I mean, where did all this snobbiness and judgmental crap come from?
Men want control. I don't care how old they are or how long you've been with them. They need control. It fuels them. He saw the ad and said sure, beause you were asking his permission (I'm not meaning disrespectful, its healthy to communicate with your SO and get their thoughts.) You're now being faced with him wanting the opposite. To start a feud ? No. To make you feel bad? No. He wants control of the situation.
I think time is the best for this situation. He'll come around. And when he does, make a rational decision of if you want to go through that again (with any subject). Just make sure when he comes around and warms up to the dog, you don't say "HA, i told ya so!". Cause you'll take a step lower than him. Smile and walk away.
She is ADORABLE!!! She looks like she's going to be such a sweetheart...so sorry you have to deal with someone who's giving you a hard time about this at the moment.
Yeah, I seriously doubt this is about the dog. She's absolutely adorable, and to me doesn't even LOOK like a pit bull. Not that it'd be bad if she did, but to me she just looks like a black lab mix. No one is going to look at your dog and think, 'Oh no there's a pit bull!' Kudos to you for rescuing her and for having to deal with your SO's craziness. Hopefully with time he'll get over it. Until then enjoy your sweet angel!!
ok but she doesnt look like a pit in any way shape or form. she looks like a black lab. why would any neighbor think she was a pit in the first place?
to be honest sounds like jealousy issues. he is either jealous of the love and time you put into the dog, the attachment, or he has control issues and is angry because he couldnt control the situation. ugh im frustrated and it isnt even me! lol just to add, pits are no more aggressive than any other breed. having part pit doesnt add aggression to her gene pool. maybe he should do some research on the breed! the stories of the pits that attack people are usually ones that were bred to be fighter dogs or abused. in some cases they offending dog is 10% pit and media right away headlines it as a pit bull attack, just giving the pit bull a bad name. if anything they are assertive, and psychologically well adjusted as long as they are socialize.
I think the fact that he's making such a huge deal about this after having ample opportunity to protest means it's not about the dog.
I don't have suggestions just . I hope you're able to work it out in the best way possible. We got a rescue Great Pyr and can't imagine a better dog for our family! Love rescues!
I want to go all the way to Alaska to help you with Mila.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this. I don't think it has anything to with the dog though, I think he has something else on his mind and this is his excuse.
ok but she doesnt look like a pit in any way shape or form. she looks like a black lab. why would any neighbor think she was a pit in the first place?
Here's an angle looking at her straight on in the face. You can see the pitbull from this angle in the shape of her head and her eyes, but yes, in every other respect she looks more like a lab except for she has very short coat. She still loves to get wet like a lab, though!
And everyone, thanks for your support. This has been very upsetting. The one good thing is my SO is being nice to the dog. So I think you all or right- this is not about the dog. I don't know what it is about because I can't think of anything I've done lately to tick him off besides get the dog but he is being nice to her. He even plays with her, which she loves because he will play rougher with her than I will and she enjoys playing rough.
OMGosh! First thank you so much for adoping, especially a dog with pit bull in her! I have a soft spot for pit bulls!
I have a pit/lab cross named Lucy, who is the sweetest dog ever and keeps us constantly smiling. I also have a pure pit bull named Liberty who is my best friend! She is really up there in age, and I already know I will adopt another pit bull or pit mix in the future.
Give him time. He may be missing the dog you lost, and this is how it manifests for him.
In the mean time, enjoy such a sweet looking pup! And again, thank you for being an adopter!!!
for having to deal with your SO's craziness. Hopefully with time he'll get over it. Until then enjoy your sweet angel!!
