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Old 07-29-2011, 01:23 AM   #31  
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Whoaa just went on a small vaca to Miami and I come back to so many posts! Usually my threads don't get this many LOL. Took me good 20 mins to read everything and I do agree with some of you. I mean it shouldn't be a big deal but I think why he feels that way is because of his previous relationships. Also back in my high school days, I was kind of immature and cheated on my previous boyfriends and he knows about it (it was with HIM lol). I am actually not one of those "once a cheater always a cheater" but it's still in the back of his head. I guess that's why he feels kind of insecure.
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Old 07-29-2011, 01:24 AM   #32  
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But thank you guys so much for your replies! I def don't feel like I'm alone on this. Or at least someone gets where I'm coming from.
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Old 07-30-2011, 03:30 AM   #33  
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Wow, this is a heated thread. We all have different boundaries. For some this is okay and for some it is disrespectful. Best for people to discuss what is and isn't okay with their significant other and make those decisions. I too tend to be on the conservative side of boundaries... And I am a 20 something. To me the bond between two is sacred and you should do what you can to protect it. I don't believe you should put yourself in harms way just to do it because you trust each other... Like the dirty dancing on some other person about to black out drunk-- I would feel inappropriate in my relationship. I have noticed slippery slopes with loose boundaries (from observing others). But if other people are cool with that- more power to you. If some people are okay with whatever- then good for them. As long as me and my boyfriend are on the same page, I could care less what other people do. I do not think because other people tell you "no you should trust him" or "you shouldn't get mad about that"- they are your feelings and you have a right to them. Don't go along with something that makes you uncomfortable. If your partner loves you they will respect your boundaries. As long as you and your boyfriend have agreed to what boundaries you have, then that is all there is to it. However, I am guessing a double standard won't work. It won't be okay for you to hang out with guy friends and him not to be able to text his girl friends... That you will have to work out amongst yourselves!! P.S. You are definitley not alone in this.
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Old 07-30-2011, 10:45 AM   #34  
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Pretty sure I'd be pissed if my wife "hung out" with male friend/s instead of me...and vice-versa.....

How does that saying go again?


oh yeah...."I don't know how it happened...we didn't intend on it happening...it just did...."

sure....

Friends with benefits comes at a cost!
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Old 07-31-2011, 05:42 AM   #35  
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Negotiation with your partner, and honesty with yourself, are important in all flavours of relationships.
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Old 07-31-2011, 11:59 AM   #36  
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Hello everyone, I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. He was texting some girl (that ended up being his first gf ever WTF) and went out somewhere with her. I called her and she said they didn't do anything he just kissed her on her cheek. But this thread is pretty much pointless now lol
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Old 07-31-2011, 05:55 PM   #37  
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I don't think it was pointless -- in your next relationship you can think about how to negotiate the boundaries so you both are on the same page more. Although people expressed it in different ways, that seemed to be the main idea -- both partners need to talk and be on the same page about how they want to be in the relationship.

I cannot tell how you feel from the post though.

If the break up hurts -- I'm sorry.
If the break up is like -- oh, thank goodness! I'm free! -- then I'm glad you are free again.

Either way --

GL to you on the next adventure!
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Old 07-31-2011, 07:21 PM   #38  
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Hello everyone, I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. He was texting some girl (that ended up being his first gf ever WTF) and went out somewhere with her. I called her and she said they didn't do anything he just kissed her on her cheek. But this thread is pretty much pointless now lol
Wow! That sucks... Guess he was flipping out over the texts cause he was busy doing it to you...Actualy going out with someone behind your back is way worse...I am sorry it happend to you.
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Old 07-31-2011, 09:10 PM   #39  
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its okay thanks guys
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