Lose25 - I'd like to offer you a different perspective on your situation. In my family, I'm the fat one, even though I've never been larger than a size 8 or weighed much more than 150 lbs.
But my sister is obsessed with her appearence. She's 5 8 and 120 lbs. and looks very thin. She's been known to go out to dinner with me and refuse to order anything as she "isn't hungry at the time and doesn't feel she should be forced to eat" or "isn't in the mood for the food here." She's told me she's the only one in the family who has a chin/jawline. She's spent the last 10 years turning down food at family gatherings and refusing to celebrate thanksgiving because it's an unhealthy day of overeating.
I feel like sh *t when she acts like this. In fact, the other day I was up at night being angry about a comment she made to me a few months ago. I had her over for a dinner party. I made plain sweet potatoes, green salad wtih no dressing and grilled chicken. appetizers were carrots, hummus and crackers. dessesrt was whole wheat vegan banana bread or brownies. she told me i made entirely too much food and spent most of the night complaining about how she couldn't possibly eat so much. She then went on to tell me a story about how when we lived together years ago all I wanted to do was cook and she gained 10 lbs and was so fat she really hated her body then. She said she blames me for it and tells all her friends that her sister made her fat at that time in her life.
I'm not saying you treat your siblings like this, but chances are they feel lousy about being overweight and feel even lousier looking at you losing weight - which no matter how hard it is for you, probably appears to them to be pretty easy. yes, they should be healthy - but that's up to them. And as far as looks - well, there are more important things in life than being thin and having everyone find you attractive (at least I think so, my sister would disagree. To her the most important thing in life is your appearence).
Your sisters might be perfectly happy with their lives otherwise and probably don't need reminding of how they need to lose weight. All you can do is set a good example and try offering assistance and advice if they ask or bring it up. Take it from me, the fat ugly sister.
Lose25 - I'd like to offer you a different perspective on your situation. In my family, I'm the fat one, even though I've never been larger than a size 8 or weighed much more than 150 lbs.
But my sister is obsessed with her appearence. She's 5 8 and 120 lbs. and looks very thin. She's been known to go out to dinner with me and refuse to order anything as she "isn't hungry at the time and doesn't feel she should be forced to eat" or "isn't in the mood for the food here." She's told me she's the only one in the family who has a chin/jawline. She's spent the last 10 years turning down food at family gatherings and refusing to celebrate thanksgiving because it's an unhealthy day of overeating.
I feel like sh *t when she acts like this. In fact, the other day I was up at night being angry about a comment she made to me a few months ago. I had her over for a dinner party. I made plain sweet potatoes, green salad wtih no dressing and grilled chicken. appetizers were carrots, hummus and crackers. dessesrt was whole wheat vegan banana bread or brownies. she told me i made entirely too much food and spent most of the night complaining about how she couldn't possibly eat so much. She then went on to tell me a story about how when we lived together years ago all I wanted to do was cook and she gained 10 lbs and was so fat she really hated her body then. She said she blames me for it and tells all her friends that her sister made her fat at that time in her life.
I'm not saying you treat your siblings like this, but chances are they feel lousy about being overweight and feel even lousier looking at you losing weight - which no matter how hard it is for you, probably appears to them to be pretty easy. yes, they should be healthy - but that's up to them. And as far as looks - well, there are more important things in life than being thin and having everyone find you attractive (at least I think so, my sister would disagree. To her the most important thing in life is your appearence).
Your sisters might be perfectly happy with their lives otherwise and probably don't need reminding of how they need to lose weight. All you can do is set a good example and try offering assistance and advice if they ask or bring it up. Take it from me, the fat ugly sister.
Sounds like she might have a wee bit of an eating disorder! I would NOT make direct comparison with yourself and her behavior. Keep doing what you're doing, take care of yourself, and let her do her own thing. Life is too short to deny yourself constantly.... it is worth it to find a balance, though. You're already on your way..... keep it up!
Hey wildflower. Thank your for that different perspective i really appreciate it and see where your coming from. But i do believe that your sister might have an eating disorder. I am not like that at all. I love my sisters and always have and never ever have i said anything that would hurt their feelings. I do offer tips like telling them about this website or hearing about a great diet book or ask them if they want to go and work out. BUt none of that works. And as far as looks goes yes your right its not everythig and i know that. What your sister says is nothing like the way i act or speak to mine. I show them nothing but respect and love. Also i do worry for their health. But you are absolutely right on one thing they probably are happy with their lives and i should stop mentioning it to them. And as my weight loss goes believe me they know its anything but easy. While their home watching their favourite shows and sometimes eating i am working off my *** at the time. And it has been a constant battle ever since a very young age. And more over their weight sometimes affects how i feel because i worry for their health, self confidence and so on. But I guess i should let them make their own decisions and decied what they really want.
I am glad your not turning out like your sister and are doing it the healthy way. Thanks for the words and perspective.
I think I ate probably 5000 calories worth of junk food (just junk food, not factoring in real food) this weekend. Some serious guilt, physically feeling ill, and backtracking going on here. My weekend with friends was fantastic and lovely, with outdoor natural hot springs tucked away in the mountains and gorgeous views, but there were just mountains and mountains of Costco-sized bags of junk everywhere. If I ever see another chocolate covered pretzel, I might barf.
Was 130 this morning. I fear that may be a true gain. Detoxing today. Going to stay under 1200 and exercise. Nothing but fruit, vegetables, yogurt and egg.
Wildflower, your sister definitely has an eating disorder or something. Be glad you're not that obsessive about food and desperate to call attention to it! And don't let her complaining get to you.
Hey there, Feathers. It's been a long time since I posted here. I haven't really been on 3FC much lately.
I hit my goal of 125 sometime this past June after over 1 1/2 years of weight loss. I'm still struggling to get back to goal. My weight has slowly climbed upward since a vacation I took in the summer. I've had the hardest time getting back on track, until November. Lately I've been "on fire" so to speak, with doing all the right things. Just today I ran a 5K race with my neighbor. I'm also signed up to run another one Thanksgiving morning. I'm doing really well lately!
Of course Thanksgiving is coming, as are the holidays. Lots of temptations for sure. And I know my eating won't be perfect. My philosophy is to be as good as I can now, to kind of "bank" a lot of good days. Hope it works for me!
This weight loss thing is such a journey of ups and downs. But it can be managed with dedication. My pants have been fitting a lot better lately. I have a cute outfit for Thanksgiving. It's all good. But I do want to see 125 again. Maybe after the holidays! But I need to make sure I don't dig myself too big of a hole with holiday eating.
Just wanted to say "hey", and I'm hoping to post a little more if I can. Hang in there, Feathers!
Good Morning feathers and happy Monday! Its a short week - yay!
It seems during the Holidays weekends are always such a challenge. But I am very proud of myself. I have been doing relatively well considering the challenges and temptations I have faced. This weekend was no different. I went to a ball Saturday for a charity event. It was a blast! Although I went to 2000 calories on Friday and around 2400 on Saturday, I still managed to maintain (I think my carb theory works well for me on drinking days). The not so good news; I doubt Ill make goal by Thanksgiving. But as long as the scale reads 128.8 or lower, I'd be thrilled! Its tough during Thanksgiving break. The drinking starts Wednesday night and continues on through the weekend! Not to mention all of the eating. I hope I can come back a week from now still in the 120's!!
Just a quick check in! Busy at work today with it only being a 2.5/day work week!
You all may have noticed, I tend to disappear when I'm off the wagon....
Dianne- You're truly an inspiration!
Krampus- I'm with you girl.
By some miracle, I was still 125 this morning after a week of not weighing because I didn't want to know how bad I'd screwed myself. I had gotten down to 123 but I'm just thankful that it's not worse than it is. I'm going to try today to turn it around and meditate on why I need to do that for myself. My mind does this thing where it kind of lets me block out things temporarily to binge and I lose sight of my goals. Back on the wagon... Happy Monday!
Today went rather well except I got really tipsy off of 2 beers and ended up nibbling on the complimentary beer snacks at the dinner place and then stopped for ice cream on the way home. Total calories still under 1800 for the day and I had veggies with peanut sauce and fruit for dinner so I don't feel too bad. Just a little silly. Going to drink my "Sleepytime" tea and chug a bunch of water before bed. Weighed 57.2 kg after my 40 minute mediocre run today.
I guess were all going through a bit of a rough patch. I am too. I still weighed 136 lbs but thats my fault since i screwed up big time on saturday. It was my tom and i think i devoured two bags of chocolate coverd almonds and lots and lost of mixed nuts. Not to mention a huge bag of popcorn the ones with cheddar on it. Thankgod its Friday so we can all get a FRESH start.
Good luck everyone on this week and have a perfect or close enough week!
Krampus - Do you mind me asking your measurements? We are the same height and almost the same weight - Id be curious to see how close our measurements are!
Hey all.... glad to know I'm not the only one hitting a little speed bump.
Weighing in on Wednesday... will report back. Until then, must stay on plan until Thanksgiving!
P.S.
I think we all deserve a pat on the back.... not many people out there have the willpower to try and actively lose weight during the holidays. Yay us!
This is it. I go in for surgery tomorrow morning. A little nervous but also really excited.
I've been keeping calories around 1200 the last week, and the scale has shown 126.x the last few days. I've been warned that the fluid retention after surgery will likely add 3-4 pounds for nearly a week, so I'm sure that I won't be seeing that weight again for a while. I'm also not allowed to do any weight lifting for 3-4 weeks after surgery (and no cardio for 1 week; after that, I can do non-impact things like the bike or elliptical), so I fully expect to get a bit of muscle atrophy and stall on the fat loss. I can accept all of that as long as I end up with "breast-shaped breasts" at the end.
In case I'm not in any shape to post for a few days, I wish a happy Thanksgiving to all of you.
FPSJ, my speed bump is more like I giant concrete retaining wall. But I am treating each stumble as a learning experience. I really believe that hard times and challenges are our opportunities to learn. And boy am I schooling myself these past few weeks.
Good news bad news from the doctor yesterday. Good news: he does not think my hair loss is related to my weight loss. DH and I were pretty sure of that because my calories were never that low, but I was a little worried. The bad news: it's a fungus. Yuck! Fungus! Nothing weird or exotic. Just one of those random things that got a hold of me. So now I have to set aside my fancy shampoo for a month and use an anti-fungus shampoo and in 4 weeks or so my hair should be intact. Yea for modern medicine!
In other good health news, I've been diet-soda-free for three days. I wasn't really drinking it before I started losing weight -- I kind of started using it as a "treat." I know it's not good for me and I cringe at the thought of drinking a can of chemicals every day. So now I'm having a cup of unsweetened tea with my afternoon snack.
I am rethinking my baking plans for the holidays. I'm just not sure it's in my best interest. It's hard -- I really enjoy baking with my kids and for me, having lots of homemade cookies and treats around is part of the holidays. But I know myself. I know myself. Willpower only goes so far. I guess if I really want the experience of baking, we can always drop our creations off in the teachers' lounge at my daughters' school or send them to work with DH. Then I just have to resist for one day. Still not easy.
Tonight I am baking two pies and three batches of bread (I am thinking I will be up quite late!). No snacking options though. The pies are for teachers and the breads are coming with us to my inlaws for Thanksgiving. Oh yes, don't forget the 2nd batch of cranberries. I made cranberry bourbon sauce last night. Tonight I'll make cranberry-mandarin.
FPSJ, my speed bump is more like I giant concrete retaining wall. But I am treating each stumble as a learning experience. I really believe that hard times and challenges are our opportunities to learn. And boy am I schooling myself these past few weeks.
Good news bad news from the doctor yesterday. Good news: he does not think my hair loss is related to my weight loss. DH and I were pretty sure of that because my calories were never that low, but I was a little worried. The bad news: it's a fungus. Yuck! Fungus! Nothing weird or exotic. Just one of those random things that got a hold of me. So now I have to set aside my fancy shampoo for a month and use an anti-fungus shampoo and in 4 weeks or so my hair should be intact. Yea for modern medicine!
In other good health news, I've been diet-soda-free for three days. I wasn't really drinking it before I started losing weight -- I kind of started using it as a "treat." I know it's not good for me and I cringe at the thought of drinking a can of chemicals every day. So now I'm having a cup of unsweetened tea with my afternoon snack.
I am rethinking my baking plans for the holidays. I'm just not sure it's in my best interest. It's hard -- I really enjoy baking with my kids and for me, having lots of homemade cookies and treats around is part of the holidays. But I know myself. I know myself. Willpower only goes so far. I guess if I really want the experience of baking, we can always drop our creations off in the teachers' lounge at my daughters' school or send them to work with DH. Then I just have to resist for one day. Still not easy.
Tonight I am baking two pies and three batches of bread (I am thinking I will be up quite late!). No snacking options though. The pies are for teachers and the breads are coming with us to my inlaws for Thanksgiving. Oh yes, don't forget the 2nd batch of cranberries. I made cranberry bourbon sauce last night. Tonight I'll make cranberry-mandarin.
Hope everyone has a great Tuesday!
Same7.........I hear you, I hear you, I hear you on the holiday baking. For years, I've made homemade treats as gifts for neighbors. And I know they loved them and looked forward to them, because I got the reputation as the "neighborhood chef" in our neighborhood. Potlucks, picnics, holidays, whatever, I was the one to bring the treats everyone loved. But last year, I just couldn't do it. I couldn't trust myself to make all that chocolate and not pig out on it myself. So I bought ornaments for each of them instead! THE HORROR! They all know about my weight loss (how could they not notice my changing size and me running in the neighborhood constantly). I explained that I just couldn't bake this year. Everyone was totally fine with it, too. So I'm not baking this year either.
I love baking with the kids, too, and that's something that makes me a little sad sometimes. I feel like my food addictions are depriving them of some experiences sometimes. I think your idea about baking and then getting it all out of the house the next day is a good one. Our tradition around here has been to make gingerbread cookies. So we ARE going to do it one day. I'm just putting it off until as close to Christmas as possible so I won't snack on them for weeks on end. And I can give them away on Christmas, too. Years past, we'd pretty much bake treats the entire month of December, and we'd eat them nonstop the whole month, too! That wouldn't be a healthy choice for me or my kids, so I figure I'm actually doing something good for them by scaling down the treats around here.
Still not easy.
