I am so unbelieveably p*ssed off with myself. I said in yesterday's chat that I was staying on plan yesterday because I'd had a bad day Friday. So yesterday I start off well and I go swimming, I'm all up and happy blah de blah. I had a good healthy tea and then went off out for the night with some friends. I'd saved enough claories ofr 3 alcoholic drinks, had them - very nice thank you - and we all leave for home at about midnight. I was not drunk, I was not hungry, I was not sad or angry or anything else.

One of my friends was hungry and we all went into the chip shop with her. Suddenly everyone started ordering chips or whatever and I was in the queue with them because I was chatting. The man in the shop then asked me what I wanted and instead of saying "nothing, sorry I was just talking to her" I said "large chips and curry sauce please". 1000 ish calories later I roll off to bed having eaten at least 2,400 calories that day. At bl**dy midnight as well!

So, 2 terrible days in a row and of course I weighed myself this morning and bizarrely I've stayed about the same (we'll see tomorrow). The thing is does anyone have any suggestions as to how to stop myself from doing this? Why am I sabotaging myself when I'm doing so well? Anyone would think that I don't want to be slim. Sorry to grumble on but it's cast a total downer over my entire weekend.

It's hard when you're in a social setting and everyone's eating. Rather than focus on one slip up, think about what you want to do moving forward and practice saying, "No thanks, I'm not hungry".

Another thing to remember is that the alcohol in even one drink starts to lower inhibitions. You don't have to be drunk for the effects of alcohol to make it alot easier to "go with the flow."

It doesn't mean you can't have a drink now and then, but alcohol and food are a dangerous combination.

Doughnut: I do the same thing when I'm drinking. Drinking and socializing seem to lead inexorably to eating; and the lowered inhibitions from alcohol make it much harder not to say, to **** with it, I'll eat!

The upside of your slip is that since you exercised in the morning, and consumed maybe 2400 calories for the day, you still didn't eat enough calories to gain weight--only enough to slow down your loss. So it's not the end of the world.

I soooo know what you mean. I gained 2lbs (estimated) in Montreal from stuff like that. Drinking and eating poorly are pretty much inseperable (spelling?) for me...so I just choose not to drink most of the time. If everyone else is having a couple I get a non-alcoholic drink and not mention to anyone it's not liquor and then just have a good time sober

Doughnut,
Dear do not beat yourself up over this. Remember that one night of eating too many calories is certainly not going to make you gain all the weight you've lost back. I promise it's really not. You are entitled to splurge sometimes, it's okay, it's natural human nature. Just whatever you do remember that it's a brand new day and tomorrow is always a second chance. You messed up yesterday, so what! Today is a new day. And I agree with the others is alcohol is causing you to slip, try to not drink it as much as well as maybe only drinking one drink with a friend and cutting yourself off. Everything in moderation , but don't worry I have faith in you that you are going to do wonderfully today

I've read that the japanese eat salted soybeans (edamame) as a snack with beer, but I know at least in the US (and I'm guessing in the UK and most other countries) "pub food," is rarely healthy. That makes it a lot harder, because if you get a little hungry when you've had a drink or two, you aren't likely to be drawn to healthy snacks, but to greasy, fried, and crispy stuff. And most of the places that people tend to gather to socialize, have few if any healthier options , so it's so hard not to just "give in," and grab the party food.

By the way, when we moved to Wisconsin after leaving central Illinois, it was just after I first tasted chips with curry sauce in an irish-style pub. OMG, I'm so lucky that we left the state soon after. Pretty much in the US french fries are either served with ketchup, and rarely cheese or chili. I've never been a huge fan of fries, especially when covered with anything, but that curry sauce was so great with the fries. If I'd had a drink or two, I would never be able to resist if they were available here.

Ah, lowered inhibitions from alcohol, was there on Saturday night too ....

Doughnut, let's just brush ourselves off and start the process yet again... WE WILL LEARN FOR NEXT TIME!!!

Oh Doughnut.

It's ok, I am the same way - I have a really hard time turning down yummy food when everyone else is eating. Truly, the MAJORITY of my eating has nothing to do with real hunger - it's amazing I'm not bigger than I am!

I don't have any great advice, as it's something I struggle with myself - but just pick yourself up and go on! You didn't lose, but you didn't GAIN, either, which is great.

Doughnut~you're human. We all are. We make mistakes. No one is perfect.

Just get back with it and try harder next time.

I agree with everything the ladies have said...just move on and know that beating yourself up about this is not going to change anything so move on and start fresh and just know you are going to have slips...we all do because were human and that is just the way it is but what we do when we slip is what is going to determine our success! Just look forward and forget about it. Have a good day hun!

Well... if you're doing something like 1500 cal/day, then it's more in perspective. It's a 900 cal overage---shoot, I used to do that a half dozen times a day!!!

I don't even have to be drinking-when I'm out with friends it's like I think nothing has any calories!!! I have to have a stern talk with myself before I set foot in a restaurant and remind myself to keep my grip.

Pick yerself up, dust yerself off, and keep going!

Spankie

Out of curiosity, what type of "alcoholic drinks" were they, because after doing some reading today I think maybe, depending on what you were drinking it could have made you more succeptible to cravings? This is just hypothetical, I'm not trying to state any facts.