CassondraB (((HUGS))) - though I don't know what you are going through with PCOS - I do understand depression. When I was depressed, I cried a lot. Sometimes for no reason at all. I always felt like I was too tired to do anything, wanting to sleep every chance I had, just so I wouldn't have depressing thoughts in my head. It seemed like sleep was the only time I was feeling better.
I did see a Dr. (counselor) for several years and just by being able to talk with someone made a difference. Sometimes talking with family and friends just isn't enough. Sometimes you need that *extra* person.
Going to counseling, or a Doctor is not for crazy people. If you feel down, and you *think* you are depressed, you very well could be.
I would speak to a couselor first. There just may be a lot of built up emotions inside of you that need to get out. That may help a lot! And most insurance companies will help pay for couseling. If you go right to a doctor, (a family practitioner) they will more than likely evaluate what they think your emotional state it, and give you some medication like Paxil, Zoloft, or Celexa. I really wouldn't recommend the meds though unless you see a councelor first. Like I said, sometimes you may just need to talk. The pills work, but they also come with many side effects.
CassandraB - I hope this has helped in some way or another. I'm not a doctor or anything, so all I can do is give the best advice I can think of. (((Hugs))) again to you - and you WILL make it through. If you need anything at all, or just need to talk, I'm always here!
Cassandra, Even though I don’t know exactly what PCOS is, I can imagine just how hard this situation is for you. What exactly is the clomid for? I know it's for the PCOS, but will it help control it to the point where it might help you lose some of the weight? About your husband, It sounds like he loves you very much, It sounds to me like he is looking out for your health, but He cant ever understand how you feel. Does he have a weight problem too? If not, it sounds to me like he just doesn't understand the frustrations of not being able to lose. It's frustrating especially if you have tried every diet under the sun. He may be right though about if you lose the weight, it will happen. I recently read a success story on e-diets, about a lady was had tried to get pregnant, but couldn’t. She went on Atkins to lose the weight, and the next thing that she knew, she was pregnant. It could happen.
What do your Doctors suggest for you? Have they given you any options? I know that Gastric by-pass is a last resort, and it's not for everyone.
I understand the not having the motivation. But you need to find the motivation. Let that Baby, that you want so bad be the motivation. You have to remember though. Look at it in the sense of a lifestyle change. Not just a diet where you lose the weight then you go back to eating like you did before. I have realized in my weight loss journey that until I was ready to make this lifestyle change, it just wasn’t going to happen for me. I would always diet, lose the weight then go back to my old eating habits. We think of diet as a weight loss method. That's not what a diet really is. Diet is what you eat, and what you eat makes us fat. There is a “diet” out there for you; you just need to find the right one. I understand your frustration of being 26 and over weight. I'm 34 and just recently have started taking my health seriously. I wish I wouldn’t have waited so long.
Depression is a serious thing, I’ve been there before. In my opinion, if you have to ask yourself if you need to see a Dr for your depression, then maybe you should. Just to see what he will say. Do it for your own peace of mind. He may be able to help you. I knew that when I started to ask myself that same question, I new it was time to call. I'm so glad that I did.
Do you attend church regularly? Or even at all? If you do, maybe you can seek spiritual help from a pastor, or a pastor’s wife. During one of my bouts with depression, spiritual counseling is one of the things that got me through, and it is what got me off of the sleeping pills I had to take just to be able to sleep at night.
Cassandra, What you want and need is VERY important, It’s like I tell my kids, If momma aint happy, aint nobody happy. You need to tend to your needs, and Todd needs to understand this, and try o support YOUR decision. Remember it’s your body.
Now, I am not in anyway trying to put you and Todd against each other on this situation, but Only you know what you need.
I feel your pain, even though I have my kids, I know the empty feeling of wanting a child. The empty feeling of that child not being in your life. I have wholes in my heart where there should be children.
I hope that I didn’t say anything that may have sounded harsh. I'm only looking at it from the perspective of how I would handle things.
Cassandra, I will be praying for you.
If you ever are feeling down and need someone to talk to, You can always instant message me if I am online. I looked in your profile, and I saw that you have aol, so here is my AIM screen name. miescalante
Feel free to I'm me anytime.
Cassandra, there is a terrific PCOS thread here on 3fc. I was reading up on it after my best friend was diagnosed. Many of the women are going through the same struggles you are right now. And you might find something in there to help your DH understand the real problems you are facing.
PCOS, from what I understand, makes losing weight very difficult. It can sometimes makes conceiving a child impossible, but not always. There are medications to help and some doctors out there who really know what to do to help.
Also, as to having a child while you are overweight, it happens all the time and with no complications. Pregnancy isn't a guarantee that you will get to hold a baby in nine months, whether you are the most fit woman in the world or not. Sure, it is nicer to be all fit and happy with your body beforehand, and recovery times are usually faster, but as to holding off on trying until you are some ideal size... I'd say just do what your heart tells you is right.
The depression side of things I'm not much help with. I go through bouts of my own, and some of them last a long time. I've become better at recognizing them and doing what is necessary to move beyond that darkness inside of me. Working out helps a lot.
Hope to have said something that helps at least a little. I can't understand your entire pain, but I'm very willing to listen and help out as I can.
well I just got back from the dr and the news was not good. I have several different medical problems, irritable bowel syndrome, plantaar facsitis, 2 knee surgeries on one knee ( I still have swelling and pain in knee even though surgery was a year ago.) well I went to the dr today because I have been nausous( sp) I get very sick when I eat things like popcorn and nuts, bad stomach pains. Since the medication I am on is not working for all the symptoms I have to stop taking it even though it is helping with some. The dr doesn;t think there is much he can do for the nausousness and feeling sick when I eat certain things. He told me I will not be able to eat popcorn or nuts anymore. He is sending me to a gastroenterologist. But if he doesn;t find anything that I will just have to deal with it. I am so sick it is like morning sickness pretty much everyday. I was hoping he would be able to find something to help me.
between my IBS problems, my knee and foot problems I am so tired of pain everyday. I just want it to go away.
ok sorry for venting but I knew you ladies would understand.
its_my_life - I understand what you are going through with the IBS. I was diagnosed with Crohns Disease last spring. IBS and Crohns have all the same symptoms, and can sometimes be diagnosed as IBS. Once you go to the gastroenterologist they will let you know what's going on. But I understand the pain associated with it, and not being able to eat certain foods that you like. Anything containing nuts or seeds really bother me at times. I was also told to stay away from cucumbers because the seeds (even though they are small) really irritate my intestines. And I LOVE cucumbers. I don't eat much popcorn, so that isn't too big of a problem, but when I do, it sure causes problems.
Anyways, just thought I'd chime in let you know that there is someone else here who *kinda* understands what you are going through in that aspect. Hope everything turns out okay!
So how was everyone's day today? I was off work today, so I took advantage of it. I layed around in my PJ's...lol. Okay, well I actually only did that until about 1:30 and then went to visit my dad. After my visit with him, I dropped my Curves and got my 30 minutes in.
Next wednesday our Curves is having their 3 year anniversary, so they are giving away a whole bunch of free stuff. I can't wait to go. I really really really want a curves t-shirt! lol.
Other good news - I am down in weight again! 260 lbs I am soooo excited! And that was weighing myself in the afternoon, so I must not be doing as bad as I thought I was! I'm going to get measured on the 20th of this month, so I can't wait to see if there were any inches lost.
Today my fiance' hurt his back at work. Sometimes he tends to over exagerate things, but I can tell he is really hurting. He said he was trying to pull out a small tree (he works in landscaping) and when he was pulling, he heard a *pop* and then pain. He doesn't have any insurance, so he can't go to a doctor. So he'll just have to ride it out, and see what happens. I don't enjoy giving back massages...lol...but I may have to!
Well - I'm off to finish up a few things! I am making a little website for my weight loss journey, and I want to add a few things. When I get it close to being finished, I'll let you all know.
Hey, I'm a Curver! I joined in April, and I've lost weight and inches....still have a LONG way to go, but Curves is the LEAST OBJECTIONABLE WAY for me to get my exercise.
Exercise has always been a dirty word to me. Of all the diets I've gone on through the years, I've fought exercising. I hate it.
However, last December I was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes. I MUST exercise now. Period.
For me, Curves is the way to go!
(and I've also fallen there, LOL...I had technicolor bruises for WEEKS!)
I want to thank all of you for your concern and great advice. I talked with our office manager today to see if we had a counselor that is there for state employees to talk to. She is supposed to be checking on this for me.
I tried to talk to Todd last night but its just not sinking in. His theory is there is something wrong if you dont over come something. I told him that I have tried to lose weight and I cant. He said "Well, you need to see someone to find out why." Is it just me or is that wierd? So, If he did the best he could and still failed the CCNA test he took Monday does that mean he need to see a Dr. to see why!!!!
When Todd and I met (in high school) his goal in life was to weight 130. We got married in May of 1997 and he gained all the way up to about 200. He has lost down in to the 160's. So now that he has done it everyone else should to. He also doesnt have PCOS to hold him back either. So I was told last night that if I never lost the weight, I would never have a baby. I really dont want this to sound like I am bad mouthing him because I am not. This is just the way he feels. Who am I to say hes wrong?? I am the one who's probably going to see a Dr.
Oh and Bev, I too have IBS. I havent yet found a med to control this problem. I usually take immodium but sometimes it doesnt work. It doent matter what I eat. This problem usually keeps me from going out to eat with family and friends which is a real bummer. There are different symptoms of IBS. What are yours?
ok, I will shut up now....
Its almost time to watch the Bachelor.
First of all does anyone know what a custodial savings account is ? I am thinking of starting an account for the kids but I am confused about a regular account and custodial account. If anyone could help me I would appreciate it. The problem with a regualar account is that at my bank it takes $100. to open and with two kids I would need an extra $200 ( which I don't have)
My symptoms of IBS are severe constipation, nausea (all the time pretty much) stomach pains, not able to eat certain foods because they cause my pain, bloating. The dr put me on Zolnorm but told me to stop taking it since it really isn't helping me. Cassandra, what are your symptoms?
Went to Curves this morning - felt great. Then I did a lot of walking tonight - 4 hours!! Was at a fundraiser where I had to waitress so I was moving for 4 hours...pretty good!
Cassandra - It sounds to me that you need to go talk with a family counslor...I don't want to act like I know what you are going through - no one but you does, but your hubby does not sound like he realizes what life is like for you and I do not think that he is being very supportive of you. I think in this situation that you are going to need the help of a professional for him to understand that different people have different problems and needs in life and that you need to be supported - not told to just lose weight.
SunnyD - how is the foot?
Got hypnotized for the second time - two weeks from now is my third and last time. I am really happy with the way things are going - I feel like I am losing and it isn't just from Curves - my eating is under control and the only time in the past that it has ever been in control is from dieting...I love that I am not on a diet - just changing my habbits and that I don't have to count anything!! The Detroit Free Press did an article on my hypnosis and he is considered one of the top hypnotists in the world...I can't believe that he is so close to me and that I found out about him!! Pretty crazy to think that the top hypnotist in the world live in Michigan!!
Ok - everyone have a great night and I will talk with you all tomorrow!!
Welcome VOW - glad you are here! Congrats on your loss so far with Curves! I haven't had my first weigh in yet, but it is coming up on Monday, so I am pretty excited! So far I know I lost 2 lbs this month, (wish it were more, but I wasn't eating too good). Hopefully I lost some inches though. That's what matters in the end.
CassandraB I am glad you are going to speak with a counselor. Hopefully this will help a little, but it sounds like your husband should also go, or take part some how. Maybe he doesn't fully understand PCOS, and by being in a room with a counselor, it will force him to listen to what exactly you are saying, and what your needs are. Keep us updated, we're always here to help if you need anything!
i dont really have time to post right now, but saw that Have any of you tried Bentyl? My bf has ibs, and that is what was prescribed for him. It works great for him.
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Dearest Cassandra ~ My heart really goes out to you. I have somewhat of an idea of what you may be going through and so wish I could make things better for you, but I think that going to a counselor is a good idea... at least give it a go. I am so sorry I didn't respond sooner ~ I was at my own "pity party" for the last couple days, with this ankle. In fact, that's why I am up now - just couldn't sleep with the pain it is giving me - PLUS you have been on my heart, heavily.
I hope you don't mind me sharing with you: When I was 18 and just newly married I miscarried my first preg. at 4 months and then at 19 lost our first and only baby, Lisa Anne, in a car accident I had when I was less then two weeks before having her. It was snowy here in OH and I was driving a VW (engine in the back) and hit the slush just right and began to lose control of the car on a hill. A van came down the hill I was going up and he hit me on the passenger side. The impact caused Lisa to just burst up out of her womb and she instantly died. Me... I was rushed to the hospital barely able to breathe with her up inside my ribcage and had a dislocated left knee from it hitting the steering column & had a huge blood loss. To make a very long story as short as I am able ~ I not only lost Lisa, but all chances of ever having children again. They had to remove most of my uterus, one ovary & tube and had to do some repairs on my intestines. To date I have had four surgeries total eventually removing everything (by age 26) that was left due to many cysts & tumors that liked to take possession of my body. I went through many years of self-doubt, depression (which I have little battles with still today) and now have Diverticulitus, and IBS as a end result. One of the surgeries I had was to remove tissue of adhesions that had grown on my bladder to my intestines to the muscle wall... all stemming from the trauma. It hasn't been easy... Joe & I had also tried adoption but after I had the baby for just about 6 months (all shortly after my accident) the mother who had that 6 months to change her mind - did - and we lost him too. I vowed to not try any more after that... too much loss in such a short amount of time. To this date, Joe & I have no children, but I did find comfort in being with the children in our lives and in my Lord. He has gotten me though much! I was a very angry young woman for many, many years before I found peace in God. Anyway, through the years I have found that my experience has given me insight to help many young people through their trials... I hope I am able to help you also. We don't always understand "the why's" of things that occur in our lives, but once we give them over and do our best to get better - it does get better. I don't know what you are going through, but I am sure of one thing - you are hurting deeply. I offer you my *Prayers*, help to the best of my abilities (a listening ear/eye ) and my love. Whenever I have things go wrong I slip into these bouts of sadness still... like with this ankle. I allow myself a day or two to wallow and then say to myself "enough". Time to assess this situation now and see what I must do to move out of it. I love being happy and making others happy and feeling peace, so I make it so. Otherwise, I would just sit in it and where would that get me other then feeling 'alone'. I am so Blessed that my Joe stayed with me though all of this mess & believed in me. And trust me... it doesn't ever just go away and we both cope to this day - but together. But even though Joe was there ultimately it was all up to ME to do something about where I was heading. I am now 46 years old and we have been married for 28 years. Not long after my accident Joe & I joined a Christian Play that was touring Ohio... after a few years of feeling very forced into it and rebelling to the best of my ability - someone in the cast ministered to me, loved me and I was touched by their peace & wanted it. My life changed from then on... We did that ministry for 17 years and met some wonderful people.
I hope I can be that person for you, Cassandra... bringing you comfort and peace knowing that there is someone out there that cares for you - I know God does. And from what I can see from this thread alone there are many here that do too!
Life is like a huge puzzle... we get it a piece at a time so that we aren't overwhelmed by it all, but eventually as you begin to put it together you begin to see the picture. It sure isn't easy, but so well worth living. You are in my thoughts and in my *Prayers* Cassandra... you are going to be just fine and you will get though these hard times, but not alone... never alone. We are all here. You have helped me! I was feeling sorry for myself with this darn ankle... you gave me time to rethink and focus again. I am truly blessed to have the opportunity to meet you (~ALL~ of you!) and to feel so touched by your precious lives.
It is also why I try to encourage you and the others when ever I am able to... I am here for a reason, a survivor --- so are we all! You just have to find it within yourself and then go with it. And going to get some help is a great start. Keep us informed when you can, okay. Don't let too much time go by before you stop back again.
I'll be thinking of you!
We'll ~ALL~ be thinking of you! (((Hugs)))
260 lbs 
I'm going to get measured on the 20th of this month, so I can't wait to see if there were any inches lost.
