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Thank you for the welcome. I really firmly believe this battle with weight is all in our mind. We can win if we keep trying and stay on track.
yes! We fall down. But then get back up. What you said reminded me of a book that some people from 3fc recommended. Brain over binge. It is written by a woman who overcame binge eating. She writes about how she did it.
I just found a bump on my eye lid. Not quite the size of a pea. Outer right side of my eye lid.
Guess I'll be seeing a dermatologist soon.
i think I had one of those when I was young Lisa. I think I was either pre-teen or in my early teens. It was easily dealt with Has your body completely recovered from the fall?
i think I had one of those when I was young Lisa. I think I was either pre-teen or in my early teens. It was easily dealt with Has your body completely recovered from the fall?
Hi flower,
It's fine now. The bump is gone. Not sure why it appeared but it is gone.
The area beneath my knee is rock hard but it's healing.
Lisa: I am so sorry to hear that you had another fall since I've last been here. I hope you are okay!!! Are you slipping on ice? Please be careful out there! You are precious to us! I am happy to hear that you were able to get Elvira's lesion removed and that it is healing well. Any updates on her? I was so sad to read that you think you are a bad mom for not being able to be with Jennifer at Christmas or get her gifts to her. Just the fact that you were so distraught over it proves what a great mom YOU ARE!!! And you are a great furbaby mom, too, because you did what you needed to do to take care of Elvira so that she wouldn't be in pain anymore. Please don't be so hard on yourself! Try to be your own best friend. I know what a good heart you have, and you would never call your best friend a "bad mom." So please treat yourself with the same kindness and respect. YOU DESERVE IT, LISA!!!
Holly: I am so sorry to hear that the situation with your son is still lousy and a source of stress for you... and him. And, wow... I don't blame you for being upset if he is still supporting his ex financially. That is just not okay! On a brighter note, I am thrilled to hear that you are kicking butt at your new job! I knew it would just take a little time. I am also happy to hear that you are negotiating for higher pay and other perks at your summer job. You go girl! Let them know that you are in demand... because you are!!!
Pat: I don't even know what to say about the situation with your mother. It is terrible!!! No child should be treated that way... I don't care how old you are! My mother is also somewhat of a narcissist, but she has made a significant attempt to get closer to me in the past several years. I refused to be around my family (except for one sister and one brother; I am the youngest of 7) for a fairly long period of time because their presence was toxic to some healing I was working on at the time. I made a choice to come back to the family about 10 years ago after my older brother suffered a massive stroke and nearly died. Now, when they still behave in toxic ways, I focus on the fact that it is my choice whether or not to be around them. It helps a little. I hate that you have to even go see your mother under the circumstances. My heart breaks for you. I am glad that you chose to vent about the situation with us here. I hope that helped in some small way. Please know that our love and prayers and good wishes go with you during your visit.
Coop: Hello! It is great to hear from you!
to all of the new people who have posted this month!
I finally go for my 2nd opinion about my hip this coming Thursday, the 31st. (Made the appt in Nov!) He got great reviews online and does anterior hip replacements, which I mentioned before (and which I prefer if I am a candidate for it). I just found out from my aunt the other day that he replaced her good friend's hip and she really liked him and that this friend of hers works at a hospital and all of the docs there say he is "the guy" for hip replacements. I do not expect him to have a different opinion. That is, I expect him to also say that I need a hip replacement. But I hope to like him a lot better than the other orthopedic doctor I saw in November, and I hope he will be my surgeon. I dread the surgery more than I can say (it will be my 14th surgery; I've become surgery-phobic!), but my hip pain is getting worse by the day, so I plan on scheduling surgery as soon as his schedule permits.
My daughter is doing great in her 2nd semester of college! She studies so hard and it paid off the first semester with straight A's!!! My son doesn't like school nearly as much, but he is doing well, too, especially with getting to very early classes the past two semesters. My husband and I are doing better most days, and we will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary (also dated 9 years) this Tuesday!
Lisa
Great to read that the thing on your eye has gone down. whew, that must have been a relief. I love these physical spontaneous resolves I am hoping the area beneath your knee heals soon.
Kathleen Thank you so much for the kind words. Yes, I indeed did choose to go. It seems easier to go there to see my mother when the sister in law is there as well. Even though she struggles a lot with various emotional conditions which means I am on my own re support. But at least she can help me to physically navigate. I am so sorry that you too know family toxic behaviors. And I hope the brother who had a stroke has recovered sufficiently. Mostly., I am sorry your mom has some narcissistic characteristics. It can be soul crushing to grow up with a Narcissistic mother. And yet you grew up to be such a kind hearted caring person. I hope you will let us know how the apt with the new surgeon goes. Hoping you are a good candidate for the Anterior Hip Replacement. AND I hope he can give you something to help the pain until surgery. Hoping also that surgery can be as soon as you want. Being in that much pain can be draining. So happy to read the good news about your family. Relationship with DH is better. Daughter is doing well in school, yay. And son is doing well too despite his not liking school. I give him a lot of credit for prevailing even though he is not someone who likes school Andddd.... Happy Anniversary !!!
Jumatarian I hope you are doing well
Holly I hope you are having a good night. Its 1:51 atm. so I guess you are home from work. Get ready for the next arctic blast. The thing that annoys me about these arctic blasts is that salt doesnt work on the roads when it is so cold. And the predicted wind. I just want the arctic to keep that polar vortex in tact where it belongs !!
I am having a difficult time losing weight. Dieting but not losing. Even though I usually am great at losing when I diet. this time the scale seems to be going in the opposite direction after the first 3 days of loss. I think I will slightly increase my supplement for brain and cortisol. But usually I do not need to. There have been times when the naturopath has muscle tested that I should. So I will do that. See what happens. Because I am eating low fat, low cal. and low carb.
I hope you like your new Dr. If you ever get your hip replaced I've heard hips are easier to heal from than knees. They have you up gently walking the same day.
Lisa: I am so sorry to hear that you had another fall since I've last been here. I hope you are okay!!! Are you slipping on ice? Please be careful out there! You are precious to us! I am happy to hear that you were able to get Elvira's lesion removed and that it is healing well. Any updates on her? I was so sad to read that you think you are a bad mom for not being able to be with Jennifer at Christmas or get her gifts to her. Just the fact that you were so distraught over it proves what a great mom YOU ARE!!! And you are a great furbaby mom, too, because you did what you needed to do to take care of Elvira so that she wouldn't be in pain anymore. Please don't be so hard on yourself! Try to be your own best friend. I know what a good heart you have, and you would never call your best friend a "bad mom." So please treat yourself with the same kindness and respect. YOU DESERVE IT, LISA!!!
Deep down I feel like a bad mom all the time. I try not to think about it.
I compartmentalize my feelings so that I don't think about them constantly. I'm pretty good at it.
I fell down my neighbors steps. They were slippery.
I fell in the kitchen on the water from a water dish. I couldn't see the water.
The third one was in the kitchen too. I simply lost my balance.
Gotta start watching where I am walking.
Ellie still has her hangy thing. It's ok right now. Looks like a piece of skin. I keep an eye on it. It is going to have to come off when I get my **** together.
I think you always have sadness during birthdays and anniversaries of passings. Sometimes i forget them but my parents are never far from thoughts.
Thank-you Lisa! I was ok on the day, I kept myself busy. Some years I think are a bit easier because you spend so long building yourself up for a bad day, if that makes sense?
I'm so excited to hear Jennifer is getting married! That's going to be a great wedding
And fantastic you've got Elvira's procedure out of the way. I hope they're keeping cozy
Holly - your work Christmas do sounded fantastic! It's really nice of them to go to all that effort
Are things a little less strained with your son now, or is he still annoyed with you for shunning his ex? I'd be annoyed too if he was still supporting her financially - is there a risk of alimony (did I spell that right?) Or will he be ok?
Hope you're surviving the crazy cold snap! Great exercise at least
Flower, your situation with your mom I really hope you get through the family reunion ok. It sounds as though the rest of your family at least know what she's like, if your cousin gets the same treatment. They won't have any hard feelings towards you if you sit in another room most of the time...
Has your body completely recovered from the fall?
I knew it would just take a little time. I am also happy to hear that you are negotiating for higher pay and other perks at your summer job. You go girl!
Let them know that you are in demand... because you are!!! 
No child should be treated that way... I don't care how old you are! My mother is also somewhat of a narcissist, but she has made a significant attempt to get closer to me in the past several years. I refused to be around my family (except for one sister and one brother; I am the youngest of 7) for a fairly long period of time because their presence was toxic to some healing I was working on at the time. I made a choice to come back to the family about 10 years ago after my older brother suffered a massive stroke and nearly died. Now, when they still behave in toxic ways, I focus on the fact that it is my choice whether or not to be around them. It helps a little. I hate that you have to even go see your mother under the circumstances. 
It is great to hear from you! 
to all of the new people who have posted this month! 
I really hope you get through the family reunion ok. It sounds as though the rest of your family at least know what she's like, if your cousin gets the same treatment. They won't have any hard feelings towards you if you sit in another room most of the time...