[IBelieveInMe2]

Hello & to the August 2016 thread for the Ups & Downs Support Group! Anyone is welcome to join the group. Just jump right in and introduce yourself. We have a few regulars in the group and others who check in periodically. It is a nice place to come to get support and offer support to others. We discuss the ups and downs of weight loss as well as the ups and downs of life in general. Please join us!

[IBelieveInMe2]

lisbeth1: to the group! Hopefully you will find this message to you on the new August thread. So sorry that you are battling anxiety and depression right now. You are definitely not alone. I have been there many times. My son is currently battling anxiety and depression really bad and it is triggering my own issues with both. Anyway, I wish you the best on your weight loss journey and with managing your mental health issues. You can do this! I'm cheering for you!

[IBelieveInMe2]

JesikaBeth: Has your mom had her next surgery yet? If so, how did it go? I hope all is well and that you are handling everything okay under the circumstances. Sending you a big hug!

[IBelieveInMe2]

Monica: It sounds like you are kicking @$$ on your workouts! That is awesome! The fact that working out so often and so consistently has helped your depression go away is such a huge reward and motivator all at once! Good for you for putting the scale away in the garage if it was driving you crazy. You will get back into those skinny shorts one of these days!!! Keep on believing!!!

My son has missed 2 of his psychiatric appointments since being discharged from the inpatient hospital. SO frustrating!!! I am picking him up to take him to his appointment tomorrow (to make sure he gets there!), so hopefully he can get started on the path to the correct medications. He does not like the ones he is currently on. He takes them as needed at times because he doesn't like the side effects, and (obviously) that is NOT how they were prescribed. And these are mood stabilizers. Nothing to mess around with! Scares the **** out of me! This whole situation has been causing me so much anxiety, but there have been a few glimmers of hope just recently, so I am just continuing to pray that he turns the corner SOON so that he can be successful at college this fall. He really wants to go and says he feels confident that he can do it. I hope he's right!

My daughter is doing very well. Thanks for asking about her, too. She has been taking advantage of ice time at our local hockey facility twice a week most weeks. Did I mention that she will be trying out for the Women's USA Paralympic Sled Hockey team at the end of August? This has been a dream of hers for awhile now, so she is really getting excited... and nervous, too. She still likes to keep her distance from her brother for now though. She just doesn't like to be around him while he is acting so unstable and often very strange. I think it scares her and she just doesn't want to be around that kind of behavior. I try to respect her boundaries but also encourage her to accept her brother where he is right now. It's a delicate balance.

[IBelieveInMe2]

Coop: It sounds like you and your OH are handling things as well as possible. I hope it was a relief to get started at your new job this week. I really hope you will like your new employment. Please let us know how you like it as time goes on. Thinking of you and your OH during the funeral and memorial. That can be such a difficult time. And sorry you have the added pressure from family members about getting married and having kids, especially when a health problem prevents you from doing so right now. Sounds insensitive to me. Hang in there! Sending a big hug!

[IBelieveInMe2]

Lisa: Sorry you have been feeling down about Jennifer and anxious about settling your mom's estate. I cant blame you, but everything will work out in time. Keep the faith! By the way, I never responded when you posted the photos of the cars you were interested in buying awhile ago. I also like the older version of the Cooper. I say go for it if money allows when the time comes! Please keep us posted on all of your exciting plans! I hope you are looking forward to it all and not just dreading the bad/sad parts. Everything is going to be okay!!!

[IBelieveInMe2]

Holly: How are you? And how was the wedding? I'm dying to know! I hope it was a wonderful day for your son and his new wife!

[thelotusgoddess]

Hi there. New to 3FC and on the weight loss journey again. It's been about 10 years since my last attempt to lose weight and now my battles with depression and anxiety are bigger than my weight battles ever could be.

I had a doctor appointment today and just dealing with getting out of the house and making it to the appointment was a Herculean feat. Once there, I had an anxiety attack which I struggled to keep under wraps - but then I completely fell apart once I was safely home. I am exhausted from this horrible day and I never want to leave my bed again. How do you make it through days like these? I have GOT to find a psychiatrist here!!! (I haven't been able to find one since moving to my current location.)

I am so miserable from today, and I just want to say "f**k it!" with regards to my diet, but I know that's the absolute worst thing I could do right now...

[charliebear99]

Originally Posted by thelotusgoddess

Hi there. New to 3FC and on the weight loss journey again. It's been about 10 years since my last attempt to lose weight and now my battles with depression and anxiety are bigger than my weight battles ever could be.

I had a doctor appointment today and just dealing with getting out of the house and making it to the appointment was a Herculean feat. Once there, I had an anxiety attack which I struggled to keep under wraps - but then I completely fell apart once I was safely home. I am exhausted from this horrible day and I never want to leave my bed again. How do you make it through days like these? I have GOT to find a psychiatrist here!!! (I haven't been able to find one since moving to my current location.)

I am so miserable from today, and I just want to say "f**k it!" with regards to my diet, but I know that's the absolute worst thing I could do right now...

I live in Northen VA. I am also a RN. I know a few in the DC Metro Area.

[charliebear99]

Sorry you are feeling this way. I know there are days with no relief in site and I know how hard it can be to get out of the house when you are severely depressed.

[Lisaluvshearts]

Originally Posted by IBelieveInMe2

Lisa: Sorry you have been feeling down about Jennifer and anxious about settling your mom's estate. I cant blame you, but everything will work out in time. Keep the faith! By the way, I never responded when you posted the photos of the cars you were interested in buying awhile ago. I also like the older version of the Cooper. I say go for it if money allows when the time comes! Please keep us posted on all of your exciting plans! I hope you are looking forward to it all and not just dreading the bad/sad parts. Everything is going to be okay!!!

Hi Kathleen,

I've missed seeing you post.


I went to visit Jennifer last night. It was so nice to catch up with her, we talked for 2 hours.


I had some triggers set me off the other night. Ever since then, I have been down. I realized how many losses I have had this year. Mom passing, Jennifer moving out and taking Ruby. I talked about them in my therapy appointment the other day but I am just blah. I am still taking my meds, this is just part of my healing process I guess.


Have a great Friday night.

[EasySpirit]

Originally Posted by IBelieveInMe2

Monica: It sounds like you are kicking @$$ on your workouts! That is awesome! The fact that working out so often and so consistently has helped your depression go away is such a huge reward and motivator all at once! Good for you for putting the scale away in the garage if it was driving you crazy. You will get back into those skinny shorts one of these days!!! Keep on believing!!!

My son has missed 2 of his psychiatric appointments since being discharged from the inpatient hospital. SO frustrating!!! I am picking him up to take him to his appointment tomorrow (to make sure he gets there!), so hopefully he can get started on the path to the correct medications. He does not like the ones he is currently on. He takes them as needed at times because he doesn't like the side effects, and (obviously) that is NOT how they were prescribed. And these are mood stabilizers. Nothing to mess around with! Scares the **** out of me! This whole situation has been causing me so much anxiety, but there have been a few glimmers of hope just recently, so I am just continuing to pray that he turns the corner SOON so that he can be successful at college this fall. He really wants to go and says he feels confident that he can do it. I hope he's right!

My daughter is doing very well. Thanks for asking about her, too. She has been taking advantage of ice time at our local hockey facility twice a week most weeks. Did I mention that she will be trying out for the Women's USA Paralympic Sled Hockey team at the end of August? This has been a dream of hers for awhile now, so she is really getting excited... and nervous, too. She still likes to keep her distance from her brother for now though. She just doesn't like to be around him while he is acting so unstable and often very strange. I think it scares her and she just doesn't want to be around that kind of behavior. I try to respect her boundaries but also encourage her to accept her brother where he is right now. It's a delicate balance.

Kathleen, I am happy and relieved to hear from you. I JUST pm'd you.

Your son's track sounds quite familiar to me. If he follows along the way of my two relatives, he will improve with time. The late teens and early 20s were a nightmare for my brother, who is now in Europe on a six week vacation, happy as could be.

I understand your daughter's feelings, too, and don't be surprised to find out that resentment is also involved. IN the middle of this, the other siblings feel they are not getting the attention they would be getting if the sick one were not acting up. It is a hard situation, and I pray he sees the light ( medication WORKS ! ! !) soon.

I am doing well with the exercise - not so much the eating. But, I have finally come to the realization that exercise is the very best medicine for me, both physically and emotionally. It is working wonders. Occasionally I have to give myself a pep talk. I think how not everyone, and probably not many, is on no prescription meds at this point in life. I take a multi-vitamin for women 50+ and a combo fish oil capsule daily - that is it. The exercise is my medication. Take care, my friend.

Monica

[Lisaluvshearts]

HI Monica, it's great to see you here.


Hi to the new ladies, charliebear and lotus goddess. We are so glad you are here with us.


I apologize not posting to all of you. I am having a rough few days. I will do my best to open up and post. I just feel like not talking and not leaving the house.


Have a great Friday.

[Lisaluvshearts]

Hey everyone,


I have done a lot of thinking the past couple of days. I have to do something about my weight, I continue to gain and I'm at my largest. I know when I really start working on my house, getting it ready to move, I will probably lose some. It will be hard work. I really don't want to move to Washington being this huge. I ignore or put my weight, I set it aside and don't really let it sink in just how big I am.


I have been drinking less pop so that is something.


Where is everyone?

[VermontMom]

Hello!!! first a to charlie bear and lotusgoddess. Lotusgoddes, I am so sorry you had such a horrible time getting to your appt, but applaud you that you DID. I hope you recovered a bit from that hard day!!

HI to my Ups and Downs friends!! i am SO very sorry I've been so MIA. Nothing bad, it's summer, and I just am always either working, or on the bike, or working on the lawn, or cleaning up this mess of a house or planning what I'm doing at work the next day. So active is great for me, but I have not gotten back into the workout routine. But hearing EasySpirit speak of how very well she is, and owing it to the exercise, might nudge me!! it is so hard for me to do anything when it is very warm, but I should try harder. I still have some basic fitness but nothing like I used to.

Lisa, Hi and very sorry you are having some down days!! glad you got to visit Jennifer and talk and talk. And visit Ruby Ugh to dealing with estate matters that take forever, I know about that. Are you still planning on doing the move out of state? sorry I don't know that. I always try to remember your words to me to help my self esteem

Kathleen HI OH I'm sad to hear that your son is not always doing what is prescribed, but very glad to hear of some glimmers of hope?? You are so good with your faith, that is your rock and WHOA at your daughter going to try out for the Paralympic Sled Hockey team!! How wonderful and how is your condition?? do you have the edema problem still? thinking of you and love how you address everyone personally! Oh yes the wedding went so well, it was beautiful and simple, the ceremony outside on a huge green lawn with the backdrop of Mt. Mansfield (tallest peak in Vermont, 4200 ft) and the reception was in a backyard, with a big tent, and little 'sections' inside, like the music area, you could sit on an antique couch that was on a rug and listen to the guitarist, stand by the tall top tables with twinkling votive lights, a simple bar, potluck food section, and then my cake pops which I have to say were so pretty and pretty darn delicious! thank you for asking

EasySpirit, you are to be commended for your consistent exercise which has shown to be soooo very beneficial for you that is SO great!! and inspiring!!

Coop - so I am behind in knowing what is going on, you did start the new job? and how is it going? and how is everyone there feeling about the economy and the huge change??

Think I did speak of working some more hours for that famous winter boss of mine truly, all i have to do is walk in there and they say 'are you here to work Holly??" and they are all tearing off their aprons to leave. Haha! Becaue my husband works from 3 to 11 pm, it just seems okay for me to do my regular baking summer job from around 8 a.m. to around 3 pm, and then a couple hours for the Rat Boss. I like the $ and I like being able to earn it so easily.

Hey a dog bit me the other day He belongs to a tenant of the Rat Boss, and he is a rescue, and 'supposed' to be getting used to people, and the dog's owner said to me 'you can pet him' so I tried, and SNARL SNAP on the back of my hand. It did break the skin a little. Really minor but I am GLAD the dog is current with all shots, and I am current with tetanus. I will never go near that dog again! It is a Chow and they are apparently very difficult dogs!

Was interviewed on a local radio station this morning, to plug our Toy Run http://unitedmotorcyclists.org/wp/vt.../toy-run-2016/ which is this Saturday! During my first years of being President my stomach would be churning at the thought of this coming up but it is old hat for me now I know everyone will do what they are supposed to and it will be fine. We have special guests this year, Miss Vermont, and our Lt. Governor! He is a motorhead, he owns a race car and two motorcycles, and will be riding one of them in the parade! cool huh

anyone have a garden going? we will have tons of cherry tomatoes in a couple weeks I hope, and I have counted at least 4 pumpkins, and close to 7 of those gigantic squashes that I grew last year. Fun stuff!

so lots of love to you all and I'm so glad this thread is still going!!