Depression and Weight IssuesHave you been diagnosed with depression, are possibly on depression medication, and find it affects your weight loss efforts? Post here for support!
Fi: Sorry to hear that you are still congested and coughing, but glad to hear that you are getting better each day. I am familiar with the BRAT diet and it IS yummy, actually! I can see why you are having a hard time getting back off the carbs. That will be a challenge, but I know you can do it!!!
Those kittens of yours sound like they have SO MUCH personality!!! I love animals with a lot of personality! Hope you are thoroughly enjoying having them around!
I actually had a really good night at math class. Maybe I rushed to judgement on my instructor. He seemed really helpful and nice. We'll wee how it goes tomorrow night when I go back for my second night in class.
I am turning in early tonight. I am so tired. Stress is getting to me. I just need to make it to Friday. Hopefully I won't be working so much next week.
I'm a long time struggler with my weight. I'm doing a whole-30 type diet and have had success. I'm down about 40 pounds with another 40 to go. Hoping to meet some nice people and get some support.
VermontMom—your “little certificate” story brought me to tears. So incredibly thoughtful and kind! Ya know, it’s not just the young things that need a kind word. I would pass out if someone paid me such a kindness! You earned a gold star in your crown...as they say…
So sorry to hear about all this sickness. I see that flu is bad this year. I had it last year, and hope it was similar enough to the current strain that I will escape this round of it.
So I’ve been a 3FC poster for a while, but I created this new (fantastically strong) username so I could have an alter ego This forum is so open, I’m a bit paranoid that some folks might read up on all the caring&sharing I’ve been doing and have a big laugh at my expense ( I know, I know), plus I’m having issues coming to terms with being depressed. I live in a world where you would be stigmatized for revealing such a thing (I know, I know).
But I am. My situation at work is generally an unrewarding and unhappy one, and on top of that the past few months have been awful. Let’s see: close friend/distant relative passed away , the funeral was 2 days after an eye surgery, & we got rear-ended on the way to the funeral home, SIL passed away unexpectedly on Tx, periodontal surgery in Nov (which wasn’t so bad), another eye surgery in Nov that went wrong so now blindness is a looming possibility, another eye surgery planned in Jan, and oh yea, my loyal, extremely hardworking DH got caught in the middle of a turf battle at work and was fired….leaving me to wonder how we’re going to pay for surgery in Jan because we can’t get insurance switched over in time. I can’t even remember all the crap that’s come through my front door these past few months. Sure has made it easier to ignore the drama at work and the teenage drama at home!
Sorry this is long, but I’m sitting here crying because I’m so scared and unhappy. I have been sleeping too much and cannot find motivation to do anything. It helps to work to help DH fight his depression—he is taking his unexpected job loss pretty hard. But I’m feeling like a lonely, useless lump. My physician wanted to prescribe something to help get me through these times, but everything interacted with my glaucoma meds and I just do not want to take any risks there. I’m on a new medication (for eye problems) that gives me such brain fog that I’ve been forgetting to take my supplements, so that doesn’t help. I do take ginko, which is good for eye circulation as well as mood, so yes, I could improve in that area.
Well….after typing all this, I really don’t know what to expect from you guys…tea and sympathy, I guess.
Invincible1, you're in the right place. *hug* I was going to ask about the med situation but you've answered that question. Meds get me through, I wouldn't be alive without them to be truthfully honest with you. I'd be long dead.
I'm sitting here in the library at school, procrastinating. I need to work on Comp100 homework. bleh So I decided to post to you all instead.
I hope to learn a lot in math tonight, I sure did the other night.
Sciencegirl22, welcome the thread and congrats on losing the weight!!!!!! yay for you!!!!!
and hello to all the new ladies who have joined us, we'll talk plenty, I promise.
Well, I'd better get to work, I have my hands full here. Got lots to do.
Much love to you all, you're always in my thoughts.
ScienceGirl22: to the group! I hope you will find the support you are looking for here. CONGRATS on losing 40 pounds already!!! What is a whole-30 type diet? Best of luck losing your next 40!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!!
Invincible1: to the group! Love that username, but now I am dying to know your original username!!! Sorry that you are having a hard time coming to terms with being depressed and that you live in a world that would frown on such a thing. I am glad that you had the courage to post here and share with us about your situation. That is a POSITIVE step forward! You sure have been through a lot and it stinks that your work situation is so miserable for you. Then, to top it off, your hubby loses his job and is now struggling with depression. You definitely need a safe place to talk about your feelings and receive some support along the way. In addition to this group, I highly recommend getting the help of a trained professional counselor if you feel you need it. Therapy has changed my life for the better. Although facing my issues has been very challenging and difficult at times, it has also been liberating and life-producing for me. Therapy and meds probably saved my life years ago. It makes me so sad to hear that you were crying as you typed your post because you are so scared and unhappy. Sleeping too much and not having any motivation are definite signs of depression, as you probably know. Do your best to care about your hubby without also taking on HIS depression. Each of you has to fight your own battle and face your own journey. Do you know what I mean? I sure hope you will find some support within the group, but I really encourage you to also talk to a professional counselor once you get your insurance situation figured out. Best of luck with your eyes! I hope and pray that you will not go blind and that you will be able to have the surgery done (correctly) in January or ASAP. Hang in there and keep on posting! We are happy to have you here and we will be cheering you on! Sending you a BIG HUG!!!
Location: from Houston, TX—now in Maryland (Washington DC area)
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Today I felt worse than the day before: more coughing, more exhaustion, more aches & pains. It's possible that I've picked up a bacterium like mycoplasma—predictably happens to me when I have bronchitis. But I don't have time to go see my doctor and get a scrip for an antibiotic! Thursday is my app't with my Qigong instructor, after we had to miss two meetings because two Thursdays in a row were holidays. And then Friday is my night with Grace.
More pressing on my mind right now, though, is craving sugar. Not carbos in general: sugar. I would eat it raw off a sugar cane plant, I swear. I didn't have any today, so tomorrow will be Day 2 of cold turkey on that nasty stuff. Not even the cool photo of an orange Godzilla toy that I got permission to use in a collage can distract me from that craving. Arrrgggh! I don't know if I have a special "sensitivity" to sucrose, but before I went cold turkey on it the fall of 2013, it was always a major part of what I was eating. Ridiculous, but true.
Cold turkey is the best way to kick it, in my experience, so I have no choice but to put plenty of stevia in my coffee & my muesli and hope that it'll get better soon. I wish I could remember how many days it took before sugar wasn't constantly in my thoughts. No drug I've ever used, and I have used a few, gets its hooks into me the way that sugar does. I'm suffering barrages of mental imagery of sugary "foods"—with no end in sight. Yet.
At least this time round I'm making a special point of remembering how brutal this is, so I'll place a higher value on maintaining my sugar-free diet.
Kathleen— Personality is the number one, two, and three reasons why we get these pedigreed oriental shorthairs instead of a "normal cat" from a shelter. Orientals are always just bursting with social & emotional complexity. We think of them as people—not humans, of course, but feline people.
Invincible— Good for you that you changed your ID and chose to come out of hiding! You can say anything on this forum and get support for it, because we've all been through hard times and dysfunctional relationships like you wouldn't believe. I, for example, can empathize big time with your trials over your husband's losing his job. My husband went through about five years of severe depression before finally getting fired over it, in the fall of 2012. It was a nightmare. It was very much as if someone really close to us had died: Bob had to do that hard, hard work of mourning his job on top of already being depressed. There was nothing I could do for him. We both just had to be patient as Time slowly started healing that wound. He's still feelin' it—but he's a good bit better now.
Vermont and Lira thank you for your support and greetings
Lira- I'll definitely fix the comment section on my blog and would love it if you continued commenting in the future- it's always nice to get some perspective.
This flu season is terrible...I hope everyone else is well and on guard with lysol spray/wipes, face masks, and ammonia or bleach... Fiona- I understand all too well about being ill, since I rang in the new year with a new cold. I had everything you can think of associated with a bacterial infection except the chills/fever. No viral infection (no trips to bathroom to purge), thankfully... since viral are the worst symptoms, in my honest opinion. I ended up taking two days off of work because of this thing...and technically I can't really afford it right now monetarily...so I don't know what I'm going to do. Just gotta hunker down financially I guess and muddle through like everyone else does. I know I'm not the only one suffering, and in that I find comfort....not in that others are suffering, but that others understand where I am coming from. So take heart in knowing you are not alone, and people are here willing to listen.
Location: from Houston, TX—now in Maryland (Washington DC area)
Posts: 1,167
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Height: 5'3"
Thanks for the support, y'all! I missed my Qigong app't and I'm so irked by that. I haven't made an app't with my doctor yet, and I'm not sure I will. I'm going to snip out that orange Godzilla toy today and try to get on with my life before this illness struck. Grace and I can work on our collages together and I will sleep while she's here if need be. So far today the sugar cravings have abated some.
sheerbibliophile ('love that moniker!)— Thanks for the vote of solidarity. It helps: it really does. I hope your financial situation is not too dire!
Location: from Houston, TX—now in Maryland (Washington DC area)
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Height: 5'3"
I was hurting so bad (depression pain of -3 to -4) when it was time to pick up Grace after school, I was tempted to just drive her home.
This depression pain isn't out of the blue: the reason for it is that Grace's parents have been acting rather snotty toward me. They keep giving me the message that they don't value Grace's and my relationship. They schedule other things on our Fridays. Last night I had to have Grace home by 7:30 for a music lesson she'd missed because of a snow day. Grace objected loudly, and apparently they told her "Friday's the only free day in your week." (!!) Grace complained that of course her time with me wasn't "free" for other appointments, but got nowhere fast.
I'm so discouraged. I worked on snipping some elements for a collage and Grace spent the whole time either sorting clippings or playing with the kittens. So it wasn't a total loss: I just felt bad the whole time.
Actually, from the point of view of eating, it was in fact a total loss. After I dropped Grace off, I went and bought a dozen donuts. Between last night and this morning, I ate every single one. Bob doesn't even know I bought them, which is very unusual for me. =big sigh= So much for my cold turkey from sugar: I'll have to start all over again.
I don't know when I'll start feeling better. The chest cold is improving, but this depression triggered by issues with Grace... there's no end in sight. Her parents have hurt me bigtime. I told Grace she could quote anything I said last night, if doing so would help her parents "get it." I even wrote them a special Christmas card thanking them for my time with Grace. Neither of them said a word to me about it when we were over at their place Christmas Eve.
This is an issue having to do with a teenager gaining some measure of control over her life... those are always gnarly ones...
Thank you all for the kind welcomes. It is so nice to have a place of refuge, even if it is a more public venue than I would like.
I am doing some better after a full work week and the associated adjustments to schedules. I woke at a reasonable hour this morning, had a healthy breakfast, made some plans, but unfortunately, had a nap. But I am still determined to get a few things done.
DH seems to be doing better; he has been pursuing leads on new opportunities. Normally, he might be excited by new prospects, but the way in which he left his company was so hurtful, it is difficult for him to overcome. His way of dealing with such things is totally opposite from mine. I sleep; he doesn't. I eat; he doesn't. He busies himself; I don't.
I've managed to stay away from people at work until after the new year. With everything going on, I just cannot handle their drama. Sure enough, a co-worker is going after me. She herself is targeted for layoffs due to poor performance, and because she is contesting, her work is being documented. Why she is coming after me, no one knows. You might think that could work to my advantage and would give everyone an opportunity to see how much work I get done, etc, etc, but no, the lingering memory will be the slur to my reputation. That's the way things really work. Trying to shake it off.
Hope everyone is recovering and staying away from illness.
Fi: So sorry that there is friction between you and Grace's parents. I wonder why? It sure seems like her time with you is a special bonding time for both of you. Could they be jealous that she enjoys being with you so much? It just doesn't make sense. Hope things improve with your relationship with them. How did you miss your Qigong appointment the other day? That's too bad. I know how much it has helped you. When is your next appointment? Do you think missing that appointment has something to do with the depression pain you are experiencing now? It probably didn't help. I sure hope you can get back to a solid string of 0/0/0 days soon! Daggone those donuts!!! So you had a slip with the donuts. Doesn't mean you can't get right back on board the no sugar train! You are human and you were very upset about Grace. Give yourself a break and move forward. Glad to hear that your chest cold is improving! Hope you feel better in every way soon!!!
Things at our house are very tense again. First, my hubby stormed out and left for a few days around the new year after we all had a big argument and tonight my son left the house on foot (in shorts and a coat in freezing temps) after an argument with hubby. He is back now and safe for the time being, thank God, but I am worried about him. For anyone who prays, please keep my family in your prayers. We are going through a very difficult time right now. Growing pains, I guess. I have faith that all will be well in time, but it is very stressful for all of us right now. Amidst the chaos, I am trying to get focused and prepare for my emotional eating coaching program that begins on Monday. I am hoping and praying for positive results and true changes within myself regarding my relationship with food.
How is everyone else doing and feeling??? Let's pick up the support in this new year!!! It benefits us all!!! Group hug!!!
Hope you are thoroughly enjoying having them around! 
to the group! I hope you will find the support you are looking for here. CONGRATS on losing 40 pounds already!!! What is a whole-30 type diet? Best of luck losing your next 40!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!! 
to the group! Love that username, but now I am dying to know your original username!!! 
Sorry that you are having a hard time coming to terms with being depressed and that you live in a world that would frown on such a thing. I am glad that you had the courage to post here and share with us about your situation. That is a POSITIVE step forward! You sure have been through a lot and it stinks that your work situation is so miserable for you. Then, to top it off, your hubby loses his job and is now struggling with depression. You definitely need a safe place to talk about your feelings and receive some support along the way. In addition to this group, I highly recommend getting the help of a trained professional counselor if you feel you need it. Therapy has changed my life for the better. Although facing my issues has been very challenging and difficult at times, it has also been liberating and life-producing for me. Therapy and meds probably saved my life years ago. It makes me so sad to hear that you were crying as you typed your post because you are so scared and unhappy. 
Sleeping too much and not having any motivation are definite signs of depression, as you probably know. Do your best to care about your hubby without also taking on HIS depression. Each of you has to fight your own battle and face your own journey. Do you know what I mean? I sure hope you will find some support within the group, but I really encourage you to also talk to a professional counselor once you get your insurance situation figured out. Best of luck with your eyes! I hope and pray that you will not go blind and that you will be able to have the surgery done (correctly) in January or ASAP. Hang in there and keep on posting! We are happy to have you here and we will be cheering you on! 
He is back now and safe for the time being, thank God, but I am worried about him. For anyone who prays, please keep my family in your prayers. We are going through a very difficult time right now. Growing pains, I guess. I have faith that all will be well in time, but it is very stressful for all of us right now. 
