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Old 11-15-2010, 11:42 PM   #46  
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I wish I knew you guys in real life... I could really use a hug!

If we pay off what is over due on our accounts they won't cut us off.... but that's like $500 here... $400 there...

I'm just done... I'm so done.

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Old 11-16-2010, 12:03 AM   #47  
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Mmmmmmmm... charging junk food to my room on the company card is goooooooood!
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Hi Aunty Jam, I do hope that at least you enjoyed the nosh!

One question - Do you REALLY have to hang on to this guy who is putting you into such turmoil and sounds like he's bleeding you dry!!

I'm afraid I would have kicked him to the kerb a long time back. At least you can't possibly do any worse on your own. I just want to scream at you to get out of this awful situation and set up on your own, it may well sound scary but what the heck!! You say you still love him but how much does he really love you to do this to you?
And may I add that it sounds like he's more than a little jealous of your position and/or accomplishments at work.

I so hope things begin to improve for you soon but honestly speaking, I think YOU have to look after YOU for a while and nurture your wellbeing.

Lots of love.
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Hi everyone!!

Aunty Jam I'm so sorry you are going through this. I'm wondering if maybe your hubby can go down to social services and ask for some emergency aid since his daughter is there and it is winter. Its a thought since you are doing everything you possibly can. Its time he stepped up to the plate, heck even a full time job at a fast food place would be a huge help.

I had my surgery on Friday and thankfully things are going really good. From what I read and was told I was expecting a huge amount of pain, but thankfully it hasn't been to bad and all I get for a pain med is 500mg of tylenol. I'm still only able to eat very soft foods and trying to drink enough water is still a challenge. I sure tire easily, but I am so grateful that its not as painful as I was warned. So all is good here. Oh and I even got more of my voice back yesterday, people can hear me now, for short periods anyway!
My hubby has been away since last Wednesday or Thursday and its starting to get cold here. I'm hoping he gets home soon as my van needs stuff done to it before it gets really cold. I need new winter tires and I have a rad leak and they are calling for -19*C (-2*F) on Friday. I'm mostly concerned about my rad.

I better go as one of the girls is stuck in the driveway. (edit: she got out on her own)

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Sorry I have been MIA it has been a busy weekend. I was off work on Thursday and Friday and it took everything I had to get out of bed yesterday. Today it has been a physical pain to function. I have my 3rd Weight watchers meeting tonight and my weigh in so I am nervous about that.

Holly- I dont think anyone listens when they want you to do something for them. Volunteering can be so rewarding but you have to work too, it is a difficult situation.
Aunty- I would contact Social Services as suggested. There are grants, funds and discounts available. Also try to get a copy of your financial agreement with the bank a lot of times there are waivers and things you are intitled too that they do not make easily aware.
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Old 11-16-2010, 11:11 PM   #51  
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Hi Guys... just wanted to check in and let you know I'm still married & still employeed... still don't have a raise but eh....

emaline - the problem is that it's my husband and I love him.

I'm just going to crawl into bed right now and not think of anything for a while.
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Hi everyone!
Hope you are all doing better.

Auntie Jam thanks for checking in. I sure hope today is a better day

amym how was your meeting last night?

Woke up to a severe winter storm advisory and no power. Thank goodness we have a little kerosene heater and kerosene. The power was out from about 7am till noon. Two of my girls are at work and their power went out around 10. Its a doozie out there lots of blowing and drifting snow. I think its time to move I'm starting to get a little bit of cabin fever as I haven't been out since I got home on Sat. Things are hurting a little more today, but still manageable and all apart of the healing process.

Guess I should go and warm up my cup of tea.

Take care everyone,
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Hello friends

Aunty Jam, are you home from the biz trip? I fervently hope your home situation improves..are there services available for temporary help with utilities? I cannot offer anything in the way of advice for matters of love, though...only you know him the closest and can decide how things will be. What goodies did you order from Room Service

amym - you were in physical pain yesterday..physical pain from depression or something else? I hope you had a good WW meeting. LOL I think you're right about people not listening when they want something.

buddly - wow you are a trouper for pulling through that surgery so well. And HOLY HECK that you are having such winter storm already!!! We are positively tropical (low 40's) compared to that! but it was a dreary rainy day today. I hope your husband gets back in time to take care of the things you need him to do.

Hey hope how are you doing? are you still working the two jobs? Are you finished with training? Oh and you have some vacay time coming up right.

Hi emaline, HeatherA, momof4, Miss Edith, Leenie

Well...I got blah news from the insurance company about my motorcycle; seems that one needs a "Stated Value" policy in order to get anything close to what you paid for your vehicle and then accessories. Sparing you pointless details, it means that the bike I paid $11,000 for 4 years ago; and put over $2,000 in accessories on; and i thought was 'fully covered' - I will get barely $6,000 for it. C-R-A-P!

My husband is still in constant pain, all the time. So there is something not diagnosed. He needs another MRI but because of no health insurance, we are stalling...we are waiting to see if we will be given a grant from the hospital that would pay for most of his work...I submitted all our financial info almost 4 weeks ago...each day I pray to see the envelope in the mail. There are businesses that I have however had to negotiate payment plans to...two ambulance services, a radiologist, and our local hospital. The local hospital was almost nasty to me - I said I could send $150 a month, and then more once I got the others paid off; she said that was too low. I said that was what I could afford. She said, she was not allowed to say that it was OK to mail that amount. I said, Understood. But that is the amount I am going to send. And then we just about hung up on each other

I had off today..and was prepared to spend it hiding in bed, as i do alot. BUt I had an appt to get my snow tires put on. I dragged them out of the garage (they are mounted, so a little heavy) and got them in the car..did the appt. ...got home, lugged the summer tires back into the garage. I get irritated at having to do things that 'should' be male-related....is that sexist?? I don't think so, because I also do all the vacuuming and laundry and house cleaning. Oh and even if husband wasn't in pain, he wouldn't have done the tire moving thing. Its feeling that 'everything' is my responsibility now. I even had to call to make 'his' car appointment for inspection. I can take the rough times but only if I feel we are both in it together.

I am using my Happy Light every day, and working out every day (well I missed yesterday but everyday other than that) and of course taking my Wellbutrin but I am feeling l-o-w.

Oh I did clean the kitchen this afternoon, it was long overdue and really needed it. That was a good accomplishment for a blah day. Well I did the snow tire appt., I guess that was good too. And made an appt. for an oil change for next week. Sometimes I feel paralyzed by having to do the ordinary, easy day to day things...that those things (making car appointments, paying bills, cleaning up, etc) are just effortless when I am feeling good, and SO hard to do when I'm not feeling good.

I know i tend to write alot when I'm down, I don't expect you to read it all
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I'm too pooped to type much but Vermont, I'm just glad to have something to read. I like hearing about everybody's life and day and with all the details.

Buddly, I'm glad it all went all. I hope you heal quickly.

Aunty Jam, more hugs.

I will catch up with personals soon. Gotta work both jobs tomorrow so I need to get to bed. Hope you all feel better soon.
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vermont-it seems that is how all of us work is to type a lot when things are hard and I think thats the way to get stuff out...Atleast it is for me. I know I wasnt around when all this motorcycle stuff went down but usually the vehicle insurance covers medical bills also? I know when i was in my car accident (one vehicle) They picked up the bills. I had insurance also so I didnt really know what took what but if you haven't checked into it its worth a look. You would think with bikes they would put more personal insurance on the policy since if you wreck your can pretty much be sure your getting hurt somehow! Ok I feel sorry for you cause that is an awful awful loss!

things are ok...still in the self hate thing but not AS bad. I just get bad when I lose my temper on the kids and yell at them when its really not necessary.
I actually made the foster kid bawl on the way home from church. Way to go right....Well (hope no one takes offence to my story I am bout to tell...NONE MEANT!!). They have been known esp the 2 yr old to have potty mouths. Guess the adult figures thought it was funny for a 2 yr old n 4 yr old to use foul language. Well of course we even have filters on the dvd player to block out the language (yes i know i know I cant shelter them forever or all the time but when I can I WILL!! LOL) So anyways they are in the back going on to each other bout who knows what but all I hear is "You betta get up outta here nigga" OH I CUT LOSE... I SCREAMED (not the motherly nag...the your in deep crap...everyones running, ducking, hiding scream) I was like YOU EVER EVER EVER SAY THAT WORD AGAIN IM GONNA WASH YOUR MOUTH OUT WITH SOAP!! I NEVER EVER WANT TO HEAR IT AGAIN...he starts Im sorry momma jess Im sorry...momma jess im really sorry...I said ok...hes like its my fault im sorry momma jess.... We were almost to the house at this point so I got the other kids out of the car and I stopped him and made sure he knew what word I was referring to and calmly explained we don't use those words. He was like in tears. I wasn't meaning to flip and upset him I just hate when people use that word and it kinda set a trigger in me. My kids don't know what the bad words are so I didn't want to say the word again and I don't want them using that phrase not knowing its bad...sigh..... Our neighbor friends are black and that is the last thing I need to worry bout. They are nice people I am sure they would understand since hes so young and come from a hard family but just not something i want to deal with...

Ok well anyways....just wish I could get all my work done, keep my house clean, do an excellent job with the boys school (instead of just enough to get by), keep up with church work, lose the weight, spend more time with the kids on the floor playing games or singing or whatever (instead of stuff in the puter at times), just wish little things like them climbing on the shoe rack and breaking it wouldn't upset me....its hard when I know my dh works hard so we can have things and then they break them.....ok blah blah blah..
Just want to be happy with myself!!! I have to figure out how to do that!

Have a good week guys its sad that we are not even into WINTER and everyone's having a hard time..can we fast forward to spring???
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Old 11-18-2010, 11:34 AM   #56  
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Hello Peeps!

So sorry but I have to vote for no spring!!! I have had a 4 year sentence in summer and I NEED winter!!! Bad!!! Really Bad!!! I have reverse sad so I am lethargic and it is hard to get motivated in summer... I am soooo very much enjoying the cool weather...though I really wish it didn't hurt so many of you all... I have discovered that it is not necessarily the sun that depresses me as the heat... In fact, I have sun peaking through the guardians of trees on my deck right now and it is beeeeaaauuutiful Ladies!

Status update: we had a four day trip to the Redwoods...stayed in Garberville...wow...is there a lot of homeless people there! I was surprised really, that is a really rough climate to be homeless!!! We roamed the Avenue of Giants...wow...I met a 1800 year old Redwood tree named Grandfather Tree and he took my breath away and made me tear up... I walked in a forest that was so old and so full of peace that I felt it down to my bones...I wish I could carry it forever... I still feel the lingering touch of them... It has been one week...

Today I have to go to the post office, the grocery store, try to get some reading done in my textbook...and oh yeah...need to go workout after I get off of here! Not too much compared to Mom!!!

We are still dealing with the claim for the stuff the movers broke, and I just discovered yesterday that the computer on my treadmill isn't working so we have to make the decision whether or not to go through the trouble of the addition of it to the claim...ugh.

DH is frustrated because he isn't able to do everything that he used to do (and he doesn't want me to do it...) so the house still isn't together. (Before his surgery he used to have it all together in a couple of days...max) and now we have been in the house for over a month. I have a lot of patience, I know it will happen...he is also going to have to study for his promotion test and will be starting up his Masters program in January. Things seem to be progressing slower than usual but at least they are progressing.

I fell off the wagon before TOM hit for two days and then we were travelling for 4 days so I gained back all the weight I lost when I checked my weight when I got home. But, I have lost a pound and a half since we got home so at least some of it was water...is it frustrating that I lost it and binged...almost willfully didn't do the things that I knew would help stop it...sigh...yes...all I can do is try again. Not let it define me...pick myself up and that is what I am doing...

Holly! That is awful! I am so sorry about the insurance crap! That is so weird though, the chapter I am working on in my Personal Finance book was just talking about those policies!!! How ironic!!!

So sorry you all are struggling...I am sending positive energy to you all! I (for once!) have some to share!!!

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think I need to ground myself from the computer!!! LOL
Kids are driving me PAST crazy today!
Husband is getting burnt out and needs a break!
I need to get my but organized and more involved with the kids..not just babysitting them..
the story goes on!
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Hello! I've been reading and observing- seems like I don't have time left to post once I read through. Life is pretty busy but things are getting easier all of the time! I'm a teacher and the fall keeps me so busy, but around this time of year I think I'm on auto pilot to some extent and don't have to bring much work home now. My kids, 13 and 17 are more independent and since my daughter just started driving and has a job, I have more time during the week to cook healthily and workout.

That said, I've had a veeerrry slow month in terms of meeting goals and being motivated much. I've slacked off on logging my foods...been pretty sick for the last week. Bad cold and now lingering nasty cough has kept me away from the gym.
I'm going to log now, consistently right through the holiday and will get back to the gym at least a few times this week...
Enjoy reading your posts!! We're off to Christmas parade- my kids and other family are in it ! And then nephews first birthday party- he's so sweet!

Just remember, EVERYONE feels more stressed around the holidays, not just us
And money is a mess in my house most of the time, just when we think we're getting ahead a little, we're dodging shut off notices!!

Hope things get better soon for everyone...
@Vermont- you seem like a very strong person! If I cleaned my kitchen and worked out everyday while I'm feeling down- I'd count that as a real triumph
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Good morning everyone!
Hope you are all having a wonderful start to the weekend.

Welcome lillydi!! So glad you could post. I hope you are feeling better and a Christmas parade sounds like fun!

Heather so good to see you!!

Raven that sounds like a wonderful trip. I know with spending my teens just outside of Vancouver we would go to Golden Ears Provincial park and hike through all the huge ceder trees the smell and the peace is wonderful. I miss them and the mountains living here.

Mom just hang in there!!

Hey Hope! Take care of yourself!!

Holly so sorry about the insurance on your bike, that really sucks. I sure hope they help you husband feel better soon as well. Hearing all what you have to go through with health care sure makes me grateful for our system, flaws and all. I sure hope it all gets sorted out soon.

Aunty Jam how are you? I've been worried about you.

Hi to everyone else!!

I'm still sore and tired. Things look like they are healing, but I'm still on soft foods. Hubby made it home and had yesterday off so he took my van in and I now have four new snow tires yippee!! We've been going down to -22*C (-7.6*f) at night today we've hit a balmy -14*c (6.8*f) so snow tires are a must. Next will be to find the leak and get that fixed. I do have to get up and do some house cleaning, oh my goodness. The cardboard pile for recycling keeps falling over and the hallway feels like a tiny path. Time to load everything into the van just to make room. Anyway I guess I should get my hinney into the kitchen and do up some dishes, no one around here seems to like doing them. At least we have blue skies and the sun shining on the snow, it is pretty.

Take care everyone!
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