Sounds like you've had quite the roller-coaster ride!

I'm glad that you're starting to feel better.
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...Sorry.
Well, the only person you *might* owe an apology to is really yourself, for dismissing your own feelings instead of considering them important enough to share.
OTOH, I do understand about venting personal stuff publicly. We just want you to know that you are important enough to get the support you need from us. (Or at least, I want you to know that.)
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I just felt like the biggest loser (and not with my weight -- lol) and like a complete failure and I let that saddness get me down. Then I realized that I don't have it so bad..........There are people fighting overseas, risking their lives for me to be sitting here typing in this forum. So if they aren't complaining, then I'm not either!!!
a. what makes you think they're not complaining? I'm pretty sure a number of them are complaining, just not where we can hear it. One veteran I met said that he
couldn't tell us how he felt about the war in Iraq because he'd be in a lot of trouble if he did.
b. As my therapist told me, (which he heard from a holocaust survivor) nobody's pain is better or worse than anybody elses. Pain is pain and your pain is as valid as anybody's, whatever the source. You will likely never know what it feels like to be in a combat zone, but you do know what it's like to be you. If it gets painful, that pain is as real as anybody's. Don't dismiss it.
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Also we got a bit of good news today er um I mean yesterday...........lol. DH got a call from a very good job opportunity. He did a phone interview and the guy who hires for that position was the one who did that and he liked my DH, so DH is going for an interview next week. We're keeping it hush-hush because we don't want to get our hopes up, but DH really really wants this job.............
Yay! My fingers are crossed for you both! (Makes typing a little difficult, actually)
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...So today (Friday) we are going to the outlet mall where they have a very nice Big and Tall store that isn't outrageous on price, we got DH a very nice robe from there and the people there were excellent!!!!!!!! I am tempted to send an email to the co. that we went too where the salesman was so rude! That is ridiculous and should not be tolerated esp when suits are SO expensive!!!
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That sounds like an excellent idea! If I were in your shoes I'd send two brief emails, one to each store. I'd make sure that the store with the bad service knew how much I spent at the other store! I'd send a thank you to the store with the good service. I noticed you work in a call center, so you probably know how good a "thank you" can make a person feel.

It'll make you feel good as a sender too!
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...So I give up. I know that is stupid, but I do. I guess its just not meant for me to look decent. I know they sell nice clothes in my size, there is a woman who works on my team who is larger than me who wears nice clothes. The problem is I have no patience for clothes shopping, at least for myself....
I've been the same way. I would pass by retail clothing stores and just sigh deeply and keep walking. The stores with the cute outfits never carried anything in my size. The stores with my size carried stuff that looked like it was made for conservative old biddies. If I ever HAD to go shopping because I couldn't go through a whole week without washing something, I'd be in tears by the end of it because nothing I found looked or felt right.

*sigh*
Then I discovered Avenue. Not only did they have really cute stuff
in my size but the sizes on their tags ran a bit larger than the average, so what would have been a size 26 at any other store was a size 24 there. I was instantly in love. Now my wardrobe sucks not because I can't find stuff I like that works on me, but because I've gone drastically through sizes in just a couple of years and don't have enough money for the wardrobe I need now and the wardrobe I'm going to need in six months. If you don't have an Avenue nearby, you could try shopping online at
www.avenue.com. If you do have one close by, I highly recommend getting on their email list. They send me fresh coupons about every week, so any time I plan to go shopping, I just look for the most recent email from them and print up a coupon first. Oh and Mom says that Lane Bryant has really udated their selections also, so you might try them.
Have you thought of asking your coworker where she gets her outfits?
One last note on this topic, the most important one, I think.

Everyone has a right to feel good about themselves. Everyone has a right to feel good about what they put on. You are no exception. Period. You deserve to feel pretty. I bet DH would agree with me on that, but keep in mind that he doesn't have to approve of everything you wear, if what you wear makes you feel good. /
(Anyway, men aren't always the best judge of what looks good on a woman, I've noticed. If I ask Bruce's opinion on an outfit, it's usually to break a tie between two things I love equally, but can't afford. Come to think of it, men aren't always the best judges of what looks good on men, either.)
Again, I'm glad you're feeling better, happy about the new kitties (I also live in service to a kitty - just ask him) and wish you lots and lots of love and a happy adventure at the outlet store!
Tera