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#61

Leenie , 07-12-2008 08:42 AM

Sassy I'm so sorry to hear about your G'pa

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#62

HeatherAngel , 07-12-2008 10:20 AM

Hi

I am so crap I haven't really read all of our thread, but I am wishing you all love and peace and strength. Sassy - my thoughts are with you.

I am... okay. I didn't think it would be quite this hard... and I am so desperate to stop 'wallowing' that my counselor tells me I am not giving myself time to grieve the death of my relationship. How can I grieve when I am still hopeful and hanging on to threads that maybe he isn't holding the other end of?

Anyway - happy Saturday. It's raining here, but at least it means I don't have to water the lawn... or mow it today! :-P

Heather

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#63

momof4under5 , 07-12-2008 12:01 PM

awwww Heather my heart goes out to you...that is sooo hard because u dont know what to think...to just say its over or to hope that a miracle happens....That is such a hard place to be in....bless your heart

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#64

cathyxxx , 07-12-2008 03:12 PM

good afternoon gang

I did 3 miles this morning.

Heather :hugs:

Sassy - sorry about your grandpa :hugs:

hope everybody has a great weekend!
hugs,
Cathy

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#65

Sassy_Chick , 07-12-2008 03:23 PM

Hi and Thanks.
Thank You all.

As we all will definitely miss my Grandpa, he was 97 yrs old and did live a full and happy life. He got to see his kids, grandkids and even great-grandkids grow up. He ran a farm and lived alone all the way up until 7 or 8 yrs ago when he finally was put into a nursing home. I think that is pretty darn good!

We all have our wonderful memories of him to cherish. He was very special to me. He was more like a father to me than a grandfather. He took care of me when I was a kid and I had so much fun with him. He always played with me and made things so much fun. I will cherish all of those wonderful memories I have of him. He was a wonderful person and will be missed. But now he is with my Grandma and I am sure very happy and watching down over us all.

Anyways, thanks for letting me get that out, it made me feel much better!!!

I am taking advantage of having time off (I get 3 days Bereavement so I do not have to go into work this coming week.) The same girl who is working for me on my vacation in September is gonna work for me this week too. I told DH I OWE her big time! Not that it matters because I get the bereavement time regardless, but she is so very sweet to work for me and I appreciate it. Not sure what I can do for her? I most likely won't ever have to work for her since she works days and there are so many on days that they don't have to worry about coverage like I do. Any thoughts? She is a young, single mother.

Anyways, as I was saying, I am taking advantage of having time off to get some things done around here that need to be done. Plus keeping busy keeps my mind off of things too. I stripped the bed finally and I plan on tackling the bathroom too. Maybe I'll even get the dreaded office done! lol. My Aunt is supposed to call me tonight to let me know when all the services are. My grandpa had a pre-arranged funeral and all of that, so they just have to go and get it set up today. My Aunt said it will most likely be on Wed. But she can't be sure. My Grandpa wanted everything all in one day, but I do want to at least have dinner with my Aunt and Uncle as I haven't seen them in so long! But she said she'd mention to the family that we'll maybe all meet at a restaurant or something. Unless my other Aunt and Uncle want to host something at their place. We have other family out of town too, not just me, so I am not sure if they will be coming or not, we'll have to see. But it'd be nice for all of us to be all together again. I know my Grandpa would want that.

Well my Aunt called. Its gonna be on Wed. from 1-3 pm then off to the cemetery right after. She said that my Aunt and cousin from Tennessee (or at least that is where they used to live) will be there for the services than they will have to leave right after. I haven't seen them in a LONG time! I told my mom I think I was still in HS when I saw them last!!!! So they have never met my DH. We'll have to be sure to take our camera. I know its sad, but its like my fil says, you get to see everybody at funerals that you haven't seen in a long time. So I at least want some pictures of my Aunt and cousin that I never get to see.

I keep sneezing!!! Must be my allergies. Who knows...........its all I need. lol.

Thank You Sugarmama for the wonderful Poem. Thank You all for your kind words and support, your all so wonderful!

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#66

Ravengirl , 07-12-2008 09:11 PM

So Sorry Sassy!
I am really sorry for your loss Sassy... things like that just hurt so much no matter what anyone can say...the poem was really beautiful though... It was really great that you got to have him for so long and that he got to be independent for so long as well.. My DH lost his Dad almost 3 years ago and he was only 64...he was and is so important to me as well, and it feels like we were all robbed of time...it took me quite awhile to get past that feeling...now...I feel like maybe his passing was teaching me something...showing me how to grieve...how to be stronger for the things that I would be facing next.

That being said! I am sorry I didn't see this all sooner but we got up early (yes I was up at 5:30! Again!) and out the door to the yoga sale I wanted to go to at my yoga instructors house...(bought way to much stuff...but it is all so cool!!!) and to see...HELLBOY 2!!!! Yeah!!! It was awesome!!! Love love loved it!!! So! I really need to actually get busy and do some stuff around here Chickies! So...everyone stay safe...stay cool...and have as much fun as you can!

luv luv Everybody!

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#67

hope4me , 07-12-2008 11:22 PM

Sassy so sorry for your loss. It's great that you have so many wonderful memories. That was a beautiful poem too from Sugarmama.

I'm getting ready for bed. My friend who is visiting is enjoying her conference. She got here late tonight b/c it lasted a while with a social after. We'll probably do dinner tomorrow night when I get off at 7pm and then she'll leave on Monday.

Heather Been wondering about you. It's hard to grieve when you don't know the outcome. The more you take care of yourself the easier it will be either way. I know you know that though. Just do whatever it takes to muddle through this and spend a lot of time with people who care about you, like us! No isolating allowed!! Not healthy

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momof4under5 , 07-13-2008 02:52 AM

I have done so wonderful this week with not getting frustrated and allowing to affect me but tonight I just cant help it. My sister in law and I have been great freinds over the years I new her way before I ever met my husband (have siblings) She is pregnant and not married and is gettin the biggest rap for it. I have actually been the only friend that has stood with her thru the whole thing and her mom but that is what moms should do. Her other friends would go back and forth on what they wanted to think....but no she refuses to let me or her mom do a shower for her because it is starting to make her sad. An ex-biter-member of our church told her that the youth pastor shouldnt be giving a baby shower to an unwed mother. And that has been what sent her over the edge....There has been comments and things and now she is just feeling sooo outcast by everyone and everything. I am so sad, hurt, mad all mixed into one..I will have to hold my tongue if i see this lady soon....Or just say my peace with out stooping to her level.... I am soooo very sick of everyone walking around thinking they are the great judge when their lives are worse than the ones they are judging...ARGG.. ok ill get off my soap box if i wasnt so tired i would put that smiley up...UGGHH i gotta get to bed up early for church then right after do the six hour drive to take foster daughter back to the group home!! UGHHH I HATE THAT DRIVE!! ok lata

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#69

sugarmama08 , 07-13-2008 08:54 AM

Thank You very much ladies its Sunday I am unwinding, yesterday having my roommate home all day which is my ex drove me crazy

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HeatherAngel , 07-13-2008 09:29 AM

Thanks you girls, I am hanging in there. I have things to do today that I haven't had to do before - like mow the lawn. That probably sounds silly to some of you, but honestly, that just wasn't my job before! -

I have also made a list of things I'd like to Do/Learn/Try... and I am going to look into some of them. Scary, but there's no one FORCING me - if I go to one, say, writer's group meeting and I don't like it - well, at least I TRIED it.

Working hard on staying positive - not easy, but I am trying. It's all I can do right now. And taking control back over my eating and exercise is both liberating and motivating!

I love you all -
Heather

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