SEPT - YOU GO GIRL!! DO YOU!!! I also have an "ex drama" - - seriously let it rule my life for WAY TOO LONG! Then I shifted to focus on ME - - self-destructing and "numbing" with food (or in my case food and wine) only hurt ME, not him...and then I felt worse and worse - you know the whole spiral thing. Sounds like you're on the right path - but I know its not easy!! Everytime those "f-it" emotions come up (trust me, I've had them, and Lord knows I've caved into them)...pause and say - "who am I hurting here?" I am practicing EXTREME SELF CARE these days....especially when I have the rough ones - I literally have a TCS list ("Take Care of Sheila"
)....and when I feel the need to just give up, my default is going for a walk on the trail - but I have also gone and got a mani/pedi, facial, or even go shopping and buy myself something pretty.
Speaking of frustrations - today I went to the dentist for a routine cleaning - they sent me immediately to the periodontist - I lost 30% of the bone between my upper back two molars! So now I have to have a "laser cleaning" - - - then when I went to the periodontist, he took x-rays too, and said it looks like I need a root canal in the same tooth! I'm not even feeling pain!! SHEESH! The lesson ladies - you must protect your gums! I brush and floss, but have always focused more on my front teeth than the back - - now I'm paying the price. Uh - the laser cleaning alone will cost me an upfront $1900 !!!! Their policy is pay first and they will submit to the insurance company to reimburse YOU...amazing. So next Thursday is pain day...I won't be able to eat anything but soft foods for a week - - maybe there's a silver lining somewhere here????
So...given my intense frustration, and the rainy day (which means I couldn't go to the trail) - I got on my treadmill, put on my 5K list and JOGGED / RAN an entire 5K!!! My first time without slowing down to power walk!!!
Took me 44 minutes and 8 seconds....clearly the actual 5K will be more difficult than a flat cushy treadmill, but I've proven to myself that I can do it!!!
Oh - and I also bought myself some new mascara on the way home - - just a little "treat" for me - - I've found that everything is connected to everything - -and just the little things have cascading effects - - when I was 183 and completely "f-it"
, not only did I not care about what I chose to eat or drink, but I also didn't care about how I looked - - I got up every morning dreading getting dressed...slapped on my makeup, threw my hair up and "did the day" (I LITERALLY SAID THAT TO MYSELF: "JUST DO THE DAY")...now I find that experimenting with new makeup, a new eyeshadow is another way of me telling myself that I care about ME....so when I'm feeling down, I try to focus on looking good "FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT" LOL....ironically, it really works!!! Then I find that if I'm more choiceful about my looks, I tend to be more choiceful about what I eat, etc...
...which brings me to dinner - - veggie taco salad night!! I'm going to get off of this computer, put on some Jack Johnson, and go into the kitchen and make fresh salsa, veggie taco meat and have it over shredded lettuce. YUM!!
I hope everyone had a great day! Not sure if I'll check in tomorrow or not --- flights are unpredictable - but if I don't, have a great Wednesday!!!