Annie! You snuck your post in, and I absolutely had to reply. You have NOT failed! You've gained back some weight, yes, but you're still down 7lbs, AND as long as you haven't given up, you can't fail! My prayers are with you, and I know you can do this. You're a strong person!
PM me if you need someone to talk to. There's no chance we're kicking you to the curb!
to dogpal and to brandnewme (and anyone else who's struggling).
Although I'm doing well now, I feel your pain, both of you. I sometimes feel my own hold on all of this is tenuous, and one event (little or big) will bring on the food and the sedentary life. So, *I* need both of you to be able to pick yourselves up and keep going, to show me that we can ALL do this!!
And, if my own pitiful, selfish attempts don't work , here's another and my support to both of you.
Thanks also for sharing your struggles. I know it's not always easy to do, but I think it's important for us to see this process in its unvarnished state, the ups and downs, gains and losses, and maybe we can all learn from each other.
I only have a minute but I have to say the Wyllenn is right. We HAVE to do this TOGETHER. I need you too! I am starting over tomorrow. Everyday is the first day. It can be the only way that we will win this battle. It is wonderful for me that this time it is not only you all but it is my hubby that is pushing me to go back to phase 1. He is joining me. I certainly am a very lucky woman.
My sis is going through a really tough time and if anyone would keep her in their prayers I would appreciate it. She is 5 mo pregnant and yesterday after an ultrasound told her that they think they will have to terminate it because his/her brain is not developing properly. She is only 26 and needs all the help she can get to get through this.
I wasn't going to post tonight, just sneak a look in...but
Dogpal - How could you POSSIBLY think we'd "boot you out"! You are one of the sweetest ladies I've had the pleasure of "meeting" and if there is anything I can do to help you along...You've got it! There's not a thing wrong with admitting you are having difficulties or that you need to learn proper eating habits. I think WW might be very good for you! Also, if the meetings are too big for you to handle, there is WW on-line and WW at home programs. Maybe you could talk with a dietician or something if that doesn't do the trick. I know that this is hard. While I'm doing well this time, I've quit a dozen times before. You can do this and we're here to help as best we can!
Brandnewme: Just like with Dogpal...stay with us here! I know you are struggling, but you can do this!
Brenda: Sending all the good thoughts I can to your sister and your family. I can't even imagine the pain such a decision would cause.
I’m having a fantastic day! I’m doing well on my diet, I’ve been to the gym for the past 5 days, and I’ve got 3 long dogs who love their Mama so I’m just going to accept the joy that I’m feeling.
Julee—I missed it before, but GREAT job on losing the 90 lbs. I am so happy for you and I know that you’re happy for yourself, of course. When you lose a significant amount of weight like that, don’t you feel so PROUD of how far you’ve come? I know that I did, and now I’m at 114 down and only 94 to go. It just keeps getting better. Yeah—I have those days where I just want to cry because like Kayley—I feel like a blob—L but then I kick myself in the butt and say, “Vicki—you’re not where you want to be, but you’re a **** of a lot closer than you were last year.” Anyway-- I’m so happy for you and that’s really all that I wanted to say. Oh—that and the fact that I might be looking for someone to help me move soon and I was wondering if you’d make a house call to Massachusetts.
Luan—Yay for you and that NSV! Also—sorry but I didn’t go back to read what you’re going to be an extra on so you’ll have to tell me. That is so exciting though. Just remember to have fun and make sure to get autographs. Wait—I think I remember you saying something about David Arquette being your future husband? I hate to break it to you sweetie, but he’s married and they now have a baby. Have fun on Saturday and don’t forget to tell us all about it. I like the new avatar, by the way.
Kayley—hope you have fun at the concert and your hair looks cool.
Andrea—how are you doing girl? Nice to hear from you and great job with your weight loss. Just keep coming back when you get the chance—you know we’ll always be here for you.
Xena—I would be bored out of my mind with 9 days off. But then, I only work 2 days a week right now so maybe I would like it much better if I worked full time again. I hope you have a good vacation and that the HOA actually gets back to you soon so you can build that fence. How was the movie and what do you read? I absolutely adore reading sleazy romance novels. Have you ever read Sherrilyn Kenyon? She’s my favorite author and she writes…I guess most people would consider them like vampire romances—but they’re called Dark Hunters and they are excellent. She also has Were-Hunters—(shape shifters) and I can’t say enough about how she actually makes the characters seem REAL. :LOL: I think it’s funny that I’m saying that she makes vampires seem real. Anyway—good luck with starting your April goal. I’m not starting until Monday since I only go to the gym on Mon-Fri.
2LosinIt—I hope that you get your wish and that someone notices your weight loss. You don’t have a ticker so I don’t remember how much you’ve lost, but I know that nothing makes you feel better than when someone tells you, “Oh my God! You look so good. You’re fading away, now tell me what you’re doing!” I’m crossing my fingers for you.
Amy—actually, you read my ticker wrong. I’ve lost 113 lbs. (114 by my Excel program--but that's because I started at one weight, gained a pound and of course I've lost it again so that's why sometimes I say 114) and I only have 94 more to go for my goal. Thank you so much for noticing. Nice job on saying No! to that evil food table. You’re right—some days you won’t be able to say no, but today you did. Fantastic. Keep up the good work.
Dogpal—Annie—Please don’t cry and be upset. You aren’t giving up on yourself and that’s the important thing. I wish I were there to give you a big hug in person. *sigh* I’m praying that you’ll be able to beat your fear and go to that meeting tomorrow. Good luck and remember that we’re all here for you and pulling for you.
BrandNewMe—Men just don’t get it sometimes. Sheesh! Good luck with saying no to the chocolate and getting back OP. It’s hard but you’re worth it and I have faith that you can do it.
Brenda—I’m so sorry about what your sister is going through. I don't understand why these things happen to good people. I have no words that can express my sorrow so I'm not even going to try. You’re all in my prayers.
Daebo—welcome! The people here are awesome and you’re going to just love us, if I do say so myself. The trick is to keep coming and reading and posting even when you’re not doing as well as you want to. That’s actually when you’ll need to be here the most.
Well, I’m going to say goodnight ladies. Have a good one. It’s 2:00 am and I think I’m tired enough to actually fall asleep if I go to bed now. I was just looking at the clock for over an hour and I got up and came here. Congrats to all of the losers and BIG HUGS to those of you who are struggling. I care about you guys and I just want to say that I hurt because you’re hurting. Good luck.
DOGPAL, I don't know whether to slap you or hug you!!!! You are loved so much here, you are a warm, genuine, caring and VERY SPECIAL PERSON . You would be missed so much, here's the SLAP! You will not leave, I won't let you, so there!!!!! Give yourself a talking to get into the garden, unless its raining, let the sun shine on you and obseve God's creation, you are alive and well & eat healthily coz you deserve it .
Brenda, I will pray for your sis & baby, sometimes I wonder about all of these tests for babies, my old school-friend was told her baby was very small for the dates and might be disabled, she spent several miserable weeks crying until her next scan where everything was ok. I will pray it goes that way for your sis.
I am about to start TOM AGAIN!! It only seems a few days since I stopped my last one.
I have to go & exercise, so sorry for the quick post, Violet you are so funny and kind, Kayley enjoy your concert, Julee I hope your friend appreciates you!
xxxsharon
ps sorry if I missed anyone but time is moving & there's loads to do. Zelma, where are you? HAPPY APRIL FOOL'S DAY!!!! (do we do that, happy AFD?)
And I know there are others who haven't been around lately, though I'm bad at this, like Christine and Jilly and Catherine!! (and more... though like I said, I'm bad at this...)
No time to really post. Andrew and I are going to eat breakfast, and then it's time to hit the road! I won't be back until Monday, so I'm sure I won't be doing any personals when I get back, but you guys will forgive me, right? I'M SO EXCITED!!!! See ya'll on Monday!
Julee - enjoy your relaxing dinner. Sounds like you worked hard and really deserve it!
2losinit - Have a wonderful trip and a safe one. I hope you are feeling better soon
Violet - Thanks for your encouragement. Yes, I will take your advice and you can take mine. Today is my "start over" day. It's a new day, a new week since Sat. is my normal weigh-in day (although I am skipping it because I can't face it), and a new month. Sounds like many others are "starting over" today too.
dogpal - Group hug for you. No need to feel ashamed or sorry for sharing this with us. I struggle so much with binge eating that it has been such a relief to hear some of the admissions I've heard here lately. Wyllen is right, we all need to hear the real story. We all have ups and downs. Especially when we have quite a lot to lose. The journey will be long and the road won't always be straight. So we must be here to support each other during those little detours along the way. Thank you so much for sharing with us. You can do this. Don't give up. You are still 7 pounds less from where you started. I think WW is a good plan for many people. I am on it. I will pray you have the courage to go to the meeting.
brandnewme - Congratulations on making the decision to stop the soda and the chocolate. You may have gained some weight back, but you did not gain it all back. I know you can get back on track and do this. I am sorry your hubby is making it hard on you with the temptations and guilt. It is so funny to me the affect that weight loss has on the people around us. I have gained and lost significant amounts of weight several times in my life and I am sorry to say that the reactions of people around me were not always positive. I think when we change, others can feel threatened. This is not our fault. This is because of their own issues. Even knowing that it is very difficult to deal with the negativity or downright sabotage. I remember in my early 20's I had a friend who used to say to me after I lose weight, "You look great....you b!tch." Talk about a backhanded compliment. I've had overweight friends become jealous of weightloss and have had skinny friends become irritated that you are getting some of the attention they used to get. Just a few years ago I was excluded from a group of friends because I was successful losing weight. It hurt. Funny enough, one of them is now experiencing great success and wants me to cheer her on after all I got was grimaces and rolling eyes anytime I talked about WW, working out, or the fact that I was losing weight. I have to admit I am having a hard time being happy for her after the way I was treating. The human being is a very odd creature. I just wish our family and friends could and would always be supportive of us. Sorry I got long-winded. I can just SO relate to what you are saying about your hubby. Glad you are back on track though!
Brenda - I am so glad to hear your husband is supportive. It proves that not everyone will have the negative reactions that some have experienced. I am happy for you. Your sister and her baby will be in my prayers. Please keep us posted.
daeboo - This is a great group we have here. I look forward to hearing more from you!
Vicki - I don't read many romance novels. I don't know why. My reading interests are pretty varied. Right now I am reading a Johnny Cash autobiography. I'm almost finished and after that I have a stack of "to-be-read" that is so high I have banned myself from buying more books until I have finished what I have already! As for the movie, it was an independent film called "Thumbsucker" about a high school kid who still sucked his thumb and his struggles to overcome that. Sounds weird, but it was pretty good. A little bit of a downer though. Vince Vaugn was in it and played the kid's debate teacher. I love VV. Keanu Reeves was also in it playing the kid's orthodontist. Anyway, that's what I read and watched last night.
kayley - have wonderful and safe trip. Can't wait to hear about all the fun you had.
As for me today, as soon as I am done here I am going to walk my dog so I can make some progress on my April exercise goal (and so can Buster ) Then I am committed to getting my house cleaned top to bottom so I do not have to spend any other time during my week off taking care of that.
annie - the thing that we talked about in weight watchers this week is the definition of bad and good, also, how attached to the scale we are to determine IF we were bad or good. look at it this way. you made some decisions, and they affected you in a way that you dont particurlarly like. thats it. its not BAD. it just IS. you have to learn to make decisions that benefit you. but you also have to learn that when you dont make those choices, and you make the "bad" one, not to beat yourself up over it. its just a decision. I was talking about this with a girlfriend last night, and i mentioned it to ammi a few months back.
.. imagine this... you ALREADY feel bad in a day... you are ashamed of your weight, you have PMS, you have a million things to do, and you make the decision to have fast food for dinner (again), THEN you beat yourself up over it for another week... the really unhealthy part of all of that, is the beating up yourself. just accecept the decision you made. OR - even if you choose eating out, order a salad, then, celebrate THAT for a week. which sounds like more fun to you? what I have learned is, its all about decisions. you can decide what to eat, but you can also DECIDE how to react to it too.
annie, you have been such a support here, know that we are all rooting for you!!!! YOU CAN do this. YOU ARE worth it.
DOlphingirl - lol thanks! im just doing extra work on some pilots right now. today i thought i was gonna play a goth kid, but im playing a midwesterner instead. oh well. the pay is the same. I dont know who is gonna be on the show until i get there... and as for bursting my little david arquette bubble... well damn you all to ****.. lol. i know hes married with a kid, but baby, this is hollywood. nothing lasts forever. look at brad and jen. lol
as for everyone else. you all rock my world. im so glad that i found my way here. its so awesome to share your successes and your heartache. i love you all *BIG HUGS*
Hi everyone..... I weighed in today. Bad move *L* I am back to 337. Oh well, by the end of the week I WILL be back down. I am sure some is water weight as I have had lots of processed CRAP this week and it is close to the end of TOM.
Today I went back on phase 1. I am having my parents in law for supper. I am making grilled chicken, roasted veggies, salad and sugar free fat free fudgepops for dessert. May as well teach them how WE eat! They might need it by the time they get back from their 3 week siesta in Hawaii (they leave tomorrow) ha-ha. They are wonderful and my pop in law is trying to lose weight since he has recently learned he is a diabetic. My mom in law is a nurse and is SO helpful and supportive too
I WILL workout tonight...... that is my promise. Today I WILL eat properly and not make any wrong choices. Today I will be a success.
2losinit--Sorry to hear you are feeling unwell! I hope you get better soon. Living out of a suitcase while sick definitely does not sounds appealing. I know you will blow all of them away w/your weight loss next time you see them, if not this time. We had a lot of storms here yesterday, too. It hailed a little bit but luckily nothing too damaging.
Annie--Please dont be too hard on yourself. Gaining the weight back is punishment enough--you really needn't beat yourself up on top of it. I am so sorry to hear about how bad you are feeling. If you can just manage to go to the WW meeting once and get the materials, you wouldnt have to go back again as you can do the plan on your own. I havent been back since my initial meeting etiher, and I do alright. Could your DH go w/you the first time? That might make it easier to get you out of the house and make you not as afraid to go. We will never boot you to the curb for feeling bad. I dont know how many times I have come on here and complained or vented or etc and if that were the case I would've been "booted" a long time ago. I have faith in you. You already know you are a good person (or you SHOULD know ) and that is amazing in itself. The weight loss will come. If you are very concerned for your health, maybe you could have a physical done to see what kind of physical shape you really are in and maybe the doc could also help you w/weight loss. I'm praying and pulling for you.
brandnewme--I am sorry to hear about your recent gains. It can be hard when other people around you are sabotaging your efforts, consciously or not. And it can be double hard working nights. When I worked nights all I would do is eat. I was the Night Auditor at a hotel and part of that was setting up the continental breakfast for the morning--cereal, muffins, toast, etc. And we also got a discount from the pizza places. So I'd order pizza, then eat 2 bowls of cereal, some muffins--you get the idea. "I've given in for the last time!"<--good for you! I have faith in you!
wyllenn--"Thanks also for sharing your struggles. I know it's not always easy to do, but I think it's important for us to see this process in its unvarnished state, the ups and downs, gains and losses, and maybe we can all learn from each other"<---I couldnt agree w/this more. And I agree w/you on feeling like your hold is tenuous. When I screwed up last weekend it was so hard for me to go back. I started thinking "what's it all for?" But I know what its for. For me. For my health. And, like Lilion said--none of us got this way by eating badly or not excercising once. So, say you slip. You slip once, twice--400 times for that matter. How many times did it take you to not eat well and not excercise to get to your starting weight? Quite a few. And NEVER forget this: YOU are in control, NOT food. YOU rule your life, NOT food.
Brenda--Oh I am so sorry for your sister. That sounds devastating. I cannot imagine heartbreak like that. I will definitely keep her in my prayers and thoughts. I am so sorry. I'm 26 and I cant imagine dealing with something like that. Please give her a hug for me. About you starting over-- ! I am pulling for you. That's great that your hubby is doing it w/you. That will make it easier I would guess. South Beach would be very good for your dad-in-law if he has diabetes (as I'm sure you know). Maybe he will like what he sees of the diet and decide to do it for himself! Good for you for starting today instead of doing what I would probably do and make an excuse to start tomorrow, such as "I have to cook for my in-laws"... The dinner you have planned sounds good...mmmm. And PS--you already ARE a success!!
Lilion--Holy smokes! I just noticed that you are only 13 lbs away from your 5/1 goal! WOOO HOOO!!! 100 lbs?!?!? You better get one of those "100 lbs lost" avatars for at least a little while once you reach your goal! Good advice on the WW online. From what I have seen it is a pretty good way to do the program.
daeboo-- ! You've picked a good forum--everyone here is great! Are you following a specific plan right now, or just trying to make smarter choices or...?
Vicki--Glad to hear you are having a great day and are doing well! Sorry I read your ticker wrong! 114 lbs is freaking AMAZING!! That is just so outstanding and unbelieveable! It gives me hope! for the kudos on resisting the b*stard food table!
Sharon--I totally forgot about it being April Fools Day! I'll have to go pull some pranks... I hope you enjoy your day and I'm sorry TOM is creeping back up on ya again...ug!!
Xena--GOOD FOR YOU for starting over. I am proud of you for giving it another go. It can be frustrating, but I KNOW you can do it! Enjoy your day! I need to clean my house too...ug!
Luan--"you made some decisions, and they affected you in a way that you dont particurlarly like. thats it. its not BAD. it just IS"<---thank you for saying that. I think we all need to remember that from time to time. Oh, I also wanted to tell you again that your avatar pic is so flattering! I really like that pic of you; I may be falling in love ...hee hee!
As for me, today has been pretty good so far. I was going to set my alarm and get up early, but I've been working 9 hr shifts at work the last 3 days to get some overtime in and, quite frankly, I was just tired. So I didn't set my alarm and I woke up at 10:45. I looked at the clock and thought "If I get up NOW I can make it to Curves" (they close at 12 on Saturdays). I got up and started to get dressed, but I felt all groggy so I was considering skipping it. But I went and now I am glad I did.
March 28th marked my 1st month done at Curves, and you weigh/measure every month. I haven't lost much in inches (1.5 off bust, 1/2 off hips, 1/2 off thighs), but I have lost the 3 lbs I gained, plus 1 more! So basically I've lost 4 lbs since Monday--WOOO HOOO!! And this was BEFORE I exercised! Of course, I had only had time to eat an apple for breakfast, but that's not important. I feel like I am back on top again. The lady who weighed/measured me this time is the same one that did it initially when I first joined. She did a double-take when she saw my starting weight and current weight. I've lost 11 lbs in a month! She was really impressed and that made me feel good.
Oh, I also got signed up for this contest Curves is having. I weighed today and the contest is that you have to work out 3x/wk, and whoever loses the most percentage at the end of the contest wins. Its sponsored by Curves and Meadow Gold dairy, so the prize is a yrs supply of milk, or 52 gallons. I dont drink cows milk, but if I win I guess I can give the prize to my sister. I'm just doing it to keep me motivated. And hey, I might actually win.
Just taking a break from some spring cleaning and checking in. So far so good on starting over today. I had some Krispy Kreme's leftover from yesterday. I was getting ready to throw them in the trash and I was overcome with the urge to eat them all instead of throwing them out. (There were like 6 left). I did eat one. But I stopped and threw the rest away. I'll just count the points and move on. One donut does not and off-plan day make. Right?
I also got around and walked my dog for 40 minutes this morning. It's hard work on a fat girl! But I guess that is sorta the point, right? A scary thing happened during the walk....another neighbors dog had gotten loose and I didn't see him (was engrossed in The Girl Who Loved Tom Gordon...book on CD, thanks for the idea Violet). Anyway he came running at us and my dog freaked out and they started fighting. I was screaming and trying to pull my dog out of it with the lease. The dog's owner came running and got her dog. Another person driving by stopped to see if we were OK. I am pretty sure I was screaming like a maniac based on how sore my throat feels now. ops: Anyway, no one got hurt. Not us, not the dogs. The lady felt so bad and was so sorry. Her hubby got mad at her. I just told her not to feel bad because Buster is OK. Now if her dog had hurt my boy I might not have been feeling so gracious. ;-) So THAT got my heart rate up before my walk really even started and we continued on our merry way with no further incidents. Was kinda scary though. I need to pay better attention to what is going on around me when I am walking!
princesspuffypants - You live in Hollywood and are doing extra work in TV shows? That is really cool. Are you an aspiring actress or is it more of a hobby?
Brenda - sounds like a tasty and healthy meal you have planned for yourself and your family. I am sure they will appreciate it!
Violet - good for you going to Curves. I know that feeling of not wanting to exercise but then being glad you did. It's something for us all to remember. I can't think of a time I've ever exercised and upon finishing said, "Man, I really wish I hadn't done that."
its all about decisions. you can decide what to eat, but you can also DECIDE how to react to it too.
Luan -- great great words ! The whole paragraph was great, but I really loved this!
Amy -- the "what's it all for" -- exactly right, it's about my health. And that is a big part of what keeps me on track!
Ow, I am sore right now. I did a lot of grocery shopping early this morning, then a great stint on the treadmill (over 2 miles in 42 minutes) and right after that ran some errands that involved walking i think another mile. My hips and feet are unhappy right now, but I am proud of me. I got a pedometer finally last week and cracked 10,000 steps already today!
to dogpal and 
, here's another 
new here
so I’m just going to accept the joy that I’m feeling. 
I am so happy for you and I know that you’re happy for yourself, of course. When you lose a significant amount of weight like that, don’t you feel so PROUD of how far you’ve come? I know that I did, and now I’m at 114 down and only 94 to go. It just keeps getting better. Yeah—I have those days where I just want to cry because like Kayley—I feel like a blob—L but then I kick myself in the butt and say, “Vicki—you’re not where you want to be, but you’re a **** of a lot closer than you were last year.” Anyway--
Have fun on Saturday and don’t forget to tell us all about it. I like the new avatar, by the way. 
You aren’t giving up on yourself and that’s the important thing. 
I don't understand why these things happen to good people. I have no words that can express my sorrow so I'm not even going to try. You’re all in my prayers. 
. You would be missed so much, here's the SLAP!
You will not leave, I won't let you, so there!!!!! Give yourself a talking to get into the garden, unless its raining, let the sun shine on you and obseve God's creation, you are alive and well & eat healthily coz you deserve it
It only seems a few days since I stopped my last one.
No need to feel ashamed or sorry for sharing this with us. I struggle so much with binge eating that it has been such a relief to hear some of the admissions I've heard here lately. Wyllen is right, we all need to hear the real story. We all have ups and downs. Especially when we have quite a lot to lose. The journey will be long and the road won't always be straight. So we must be here to support each other during those little detours along the way. Thank you so much for sharing with us. You can do this. Don't give up. You are still 7 pounds less from where you started. I think WW is a good plan for many people. I am on it. I will pray you have the courage to go to the meeting. 
This is a great group we have here. I look forward to hearing more from you!
As for the movie, it was an independent film called "Thumbsucker" about a high school kid who still sucked his thumb and his struggles to overcome that. Sounds weird, but it was pretty good. A little bit of a downer though. Vince Vaugn was in it and played the kid's debate teacher. I love VV. 
But I know what its for. For me. For my health. And, like Lilion said--none of us got this way by eating badly or not excercising once. So, say you slip. You slip once, twice--400 times for that matter. How many times did it take you to not eat well and not excercise to get to your starting weight? Quite a few. And NEVER forget this: YOU are in control, NOT food. YOU rule your life, NOT food. 
! I am pulling for you. That's great that your hubby is doing it w/you. That will make it easier I would guess. 
You better get one of those "100 lbs lost" avatars for at least a little while once you reach your goal! Good advice on the WW online. From what I have seen it is a pretty good way to do the program.
Are you following a specific plan right now, or just trying to make smarter choices or...?
114 lbs is freaking AMAZING!! 
That is just so outstanding and unbelieveable! It gives me hope! 
for the kudos on resisting the b*stard food table! 
So I didn't set my alarm and I woke up at 10:45. I looked at the clock and thought "If I get up NOW I can make it to Curves" (they close at 12 on Saturdays). I got up and started to get dressed, but I felt all groggy so I was considering skipping it. But I went and now I am glad I did. 
So basically I've lost 4 lbs since Monday--WOOO HOOO!! 
And this was BEFORE I exercised! Of course, I had only had time to eat an apple for breakfast, but that's not important. 
I dont drink cows milk, but if I win I guess I can give the prize to my sister. 