We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.
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We share laughter and tears.
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Motivational Monday
Tuesday Tips
Wednesday Wish List .. and What you are doing to obtain it.
Thankful Thursday
FUN Friday ... don't wait until you lose your weight.
Sit-up Saturdays - any physical activity
Share your Success Sunday
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It's a not so sunny day in rainy Wales lol, and I am having a truly lazy day. With hubby's help I did all the housework yesterday, so it was with a guilt free mind that I had a long lie in this morning and even had my breakfast brought to me in bed. Heavenly
Dogpal - right now I am at the very early stages of weight loss, and a couple of people have commented on how they can see I am losing weight in my face!! I don't want it to be noticeable there lol, I want everyone to look at me and say, wow you have lost weight from everywhere, not just your face lol. Hopefully that will come as more weight comes off. I used to have really short hair, then one day I realised it made my head look like a pea on my shoulders, so no more short short hair for me until I look a lot slimmer.
Thank you for your welcome back and for being happy about my 4 lbs lost. I am still pinching myself about it. I even got on and off the scales 3 times in case they were wrong
Catherine - I know there is so much extra security now because of 9/11 but gee all that paperwork sounds so crazy. And to think that even after filling it all in you might still have to wait up to a year to be with your husband after you get married, it's awful. Could you afford, and would you want to pay an immigration specialist to do all that form filling for you? I know when I was seriously thinking of trying to go back home (Australia) I was really tempted to pay somebody to do all the work for me. It didn't get that far though because I could go online and work out for myself if I would have enough points to get me back in the country, and I don't. If I did though, immigration specialist for me all the way
Thanks for the welcome back. Honestly without the wonderful people here and their PMs to me plus messages on here, I don't think I would have come back. For one I was feeling pretty bad about the whole episode and wondered belatedly if people wouldn't like me anymore and think I am a fruit cake. And secondly when I had such a bad week with my diet, I did think of chucking it all in. But as I said, I had so many supportive messages, and it got me really wanting to get back on track and start posting again. So a big thank you to you and to everybody else too
Brenda - so sorry to hear about the flood in your basement and all that awful sewage. Yes I do believe you are going to work off loads of fat cleaning and scrubbing and getting the whole place sweet smelling again. I guess it's true that there is always a silver lining to every dark cloud. Good luck with it all though, and I hope the insurance will pay up without any hassle.
I don't know if I told you yet, but I love your photo. I think it's so great seeing who we are talking to rather than just a cartoon avatar or whatever. It will also be great in say 12 months time if we change our photos and then people will see how great we have been doing
Sharon (voodoo) - hope we get to chat soon, sorry I had to dash off yesterday. Hubby is cooking tea tonight so I will be online a bit earlier. Not sure if you will be back from college, but I will keep an eye open for you.
Vicki - thank you for adding me to your buddy lists, I keep looking for you but we don't seem to be online the same time. Hope you are ok.
Amy - thank you too for adding me to your list, again we haven't been able to chat. But hopefully soon we can.
Amanda - not long now until your holiday is there. I hope you have a brilliant time.
Well it's lunch time now, and my tummy is saying FEED ME, So I better go get some food to shut it up. Look after yourselves everybody, and again, thank you for being such wonderful friends.
Ammi -- Again, I am so proud of you for not giving up. I know someday I'm going to have a meltdown of my own, and I hope that your example helps ME come back. You said earlier that I don't give in to temptation -- I do! Usually it's planned, though... Lately, however, I have been having all kinds of cravings -- maybe stress, and maybe I've been a little too easy going with the food choices. It is our last week of school for the term and I just feel overwhelmed! I'm just trying to hold my own until after the holiday next week...
Andrea -- Whoo hoo! Selling those clothes on ebay! I definitely now have a bunch of stuff that's too big, but haven't made the move to get rid of it yet... I am wishing I hadn't gotten ride of a TON of "too small" stuff back in January ... it may have fit someday. Ah well.
Sheri -- I hear you with the whole want to eat and never quit. I have definitely had a number of moments like that lately. Usually in the evening. Keeping busy helps. Tea helps. I have this great licorice tea I really love. I love the taste and the "mouth feel" of it. Makes me feel I've had something sweet. Course, that's a flavor not everyone likes!!
Last night I had my first calorie counting OOPS! Not bad for 3 months. It was the evening and I thought I could have a nice snack and not go over. Only after I ate it (and it was good!), did I remember I'd never logged an apple and a piece of cheese earlier in the day, and thus, was a bit over my calorie limit! Oh well. I refuse to beat myself up over this stuff... even though I haven't been under the calorie limit I shoot for in several days!
This is for life, right? Right. At least I'm still writing it down, and I'm not over by a lot, and I can and will get back in control at some point!
Wyllen - don't you just hate it when you think you have all your calories or points sorted out, and you are in your range and then you realise you have forgotten something. OR worse still that you have worked out the cals/points incorrectly and you are WAY over your limit because of that. I have a WW points calculator and although it does help me remember what I have eaten, I still have to remember to put the data in in the first place. Though to be honest I think I have a good idea now of how much and what I can eat a day. It's only if I am still hungry and want a snack that I get the calculator out to figure out properly what I have eaten. It's with the hope that I may still have 1 or 2 points left for a snack
I think you are doing well beating off the urges to eat. Yes you have had planned days off, but they are ok, it's the weeks like I had last week where you didn't plan it, you just pigged out for a week that are the naughty ones. I am going to be ultra good now (except on my anniversary which is the day before thanksgiving which we don't have anyway, so that can be my thanksgiving lol) and then it will be ultra good again til Christmas. I have had my break, now I need to work hard to carry on with the weight loss. If I can lose the 30 lbs before Christmas it will be a wonderful gift to myself, AND, I won't feel too guilty putting a few of those lbs back on. I mean hey, you can't have new years resolutions if one of them isn't to lose the weight you put on over Christmas (and more of course lol).
Ammi: I've had to do a bit of a restart myself this week. I'm getting fed up with gaining and losing the same 10 lbs over and over....I'm gonna kick this thing into high gear now!!
Wyllen: That is frustrating to go over calories because you forgot something. What a bummer! I'm tracking every bite now to see where I can make a difference in my eating. My big downfall is not tracking on the weekends, but that will change as well--it HAS to!!!
Good for you for starting afresh with renewed enthusiasm. You have done so well losing 30 lbs so far, I was already slacking off after just getting to 18 lbs. We have to remain committed and get this fat off for good!!
Ammi-I don’t talk about this much, but I did used to be a lawyer. If I can’t handle these forms, I’d be ashamed of myself. It would add at least $3500 to the equation to hire a specialist, and I’d still have to dig up the information for them. Try remembering the address you had in a dorm 25 years ago. I’ll get through it, and then I’ll volunteer with the refugee resettlement program at Catholic Charities when I get moved. It is a half a block from our house, and I’ll definitely have experience by then. As for you being a fruit cake, I’m from the south. We all have relatives who are a little “unwell.” I remember a quote on TV about it. “We don’t hide our crazy relatives in the attic, we put them on display in the parlor.” You are not the first chick who has spent time in the parlor, nor will you probably be the last. I think that the issues we deal with are every bit as big, complex, and difficult as any heroin or cocaine addict. We are just privileged that you trusted us with it.
Brenda-been there, done that. Yikes. I’d love to own stock in Clorox right now. At least you’re not in New Orleans and wondering what toxins are actually in there.
Catherine, if you are looking for a friend in a strange city just let me know, I would be happy to help you get to know our city!
Oh, Brenda, sorry for your bad luck, I hope some weight loss comes of it!
Ammi, Breakfast in bed without having to make it yourself! Great way to start a day.
Jen Right on that's the way to go, you can do it!
I weighed in today and lost .8 thank god for scales that measure ounces! I remember the old days when we had those old stand up kind with the weights on them. Glad we are in the electronic age.
I felt that I should have lost more and figure it may have been the fact that I ate chips (yes I counted them!) 3 days in a row. I guess that was not such a good plan.
Catherine - WOW I didn't know that it would cost that much for a specialist. Like you said though, being a lawyer you sure do know about filling all those forms in. Thank goodness you do too, that added expense is something you could do without!!
That is wonderful that when you are living in Canada you will be offering to help out at the refugee resettlement program at Catholic Charities. What would that involve?
You have such a wonderful way with words, I really appreciated reading what you put about being from the South and having relatives that are 'unwell' etc. I am even more sure now that your book is going to be a fantastic read!!
Sheri - oh yes, gotta love the more modern scales that show us our weight in losses of ounces as well as lbs. A .8 loss is still a loss, and I am glad that you did lose even after having chips for three days. I bet next week you will lose even more.
Things are rolling right along here, or should I say blowing right along - it's VERY windy and cold! I guess winter is really going to come this year!
Weighed in today and the scale finally moved - was down 2.8 pounds - thank goodness for that! I wasn't a happy camper going two weigh-ins in a row without losing!
SHERI: I love the ounces too! Of course I only love them when it shows ounces DOWN and not ounces UP!
CATHERINE: Although I've never done immigration papers, I did the adoption papers to get our girls home from India. There were pages and pages and pages on my DH, our DS and myself. Doctor's visits, fingerprints, tons of security checks, home visits, psychologist visits, courthouse visits, etc. etc. Don't know where I got the energy, but my girls are certainly worth it!!
AMMI: Well honey if you are a fruitcake, I'm the whole bakery! Everybody has "stuff" and nobody here is the type to judge you! Just glad you are doing better!
I need to get running here and finish homework with the kids - Hope everyone is doing GREAT!
Ammi: I'm so glad to see you back! I'll be glad to chat whenever. It's great that you didn't let things keep you down. And congratulations on the loss!
Catherine: I had to laugh when I read your post about being from the south and "unwell." I think I remember that quote from the TV show, Designing Women, maybe? I have four sisters and we have always joked about our family and how crazy we can all be. Good luck with your paperwork. Makes me feel like I should stop grumbling about the four pages I have to fill out to volunteer with the kids at church.
Yay, Lori! 2.8 pounds is great! The eight pounds that I 'gained' last week is gone, so I'm happy about that. Short post tonight, I've been rearranging my kids bedrooms and I have lots more to do.
Morning eveyone! Just checking in to let peope know I am still here... I worked hard yesterday it was my day off and I spent 3 hours cleaning up the back garden for the dog for winter.... looks much better all that scrubbing was backbreaking!
I am again back to work again, first Monday then I get a day off and gotta go back today.... but for some reason I keep waking at around 2am every morning! So far my body can cope but I am not sure how much longer... I don't eat or drink after 7pm and am normally in bed for well before 11pm.... grrrrrr I guess I'll adjust back to a routine soon!
Hello ladies. I can't believe how much I've missed since the last time I posted. I've gone through all the old threads, but suffice it to say I'll never be able to respond to everything that was said. I feel very guilty because sometimes it seems like I take this place for granted, but I really don't. Even when I'm not posting, I'm always around reading and including each and every one of you in my prayers.
I haven't even gotten close to staying on track. I'm back to drinking 2-3 cokes a day (ugh, this will be changing starting tomorrow!), maybe one meal a day, and eating snacks and foods that I really don't need. I honestly can't tell you why, because I just don't know what sparked it. I do know that I need to change it NOW rather than later.
Unfortunately, I have high blood pressure and high cholesterol now. I'm also borderline diabetic and have had to check my blood sugar 4 times a day for the last few weeks. It's a big wake up call, and it's one that I'm not enjoying. I always took it for granted that since I hadn't had health issues before, I wouldn't now. That's not the case, and now I have to fight my way back to healthy. I have another appointment next month, and I hope to lose at least 5 pounds before then - otherwise, she's going to suggest that I go on diet pills and I'll refuse, which would create havoc with my insurance company.
Since I've been gone, I got married. C and I finally eloped on November 1st. We chose to do so for many reasons, but I have no regrets and am enjoying my time with hubby. I don't get to see him much anymore because they moved him to nights, and with me working days, it just doesn't mesh well. I miss him, and I miss the time we spent together, but I think it's helping give me the motivation to get my butt back in gear. We want children, but I've set a goal for myself before we plan on having any. I want to be down to 275lbs before we try. That, if nothing else, is going to keep me motivated.
Congrats again on all the losses, all the successes (on the scales or otherwise!), and all the good news. As I said before, you're all in my thoughts and prayers, and I wish you all nothing but the best!
I thought I'd better post, brandnewme, CONGRATS how's married life treating you? You are still quite young so you should do ok losing the weight before trying for a baby, I was big when I had both of my younger sons and the pregnancies went well, even though I was in my mid and late 30s.
Lori I pm'ed you about the postcards, they're on their way. Well done with the weight loss.
I'm not doing so well, with hubby doing loads of overtime at the weekend the shopping has had to wait so I've not been eating healthily. I don't drive and its too hard going shopping with two small boys and the pushchair does'nt hold much, also with gareth being autistic it can be a really upsetting experience if he acts up, his little brother gets upset and everyone stares, so I ate what we had in. I have been exercising, walking or aerobics (on video) every day, so hopefully its done my weightloss and health some good. It's so cold here, its made me want to eat everything in sight, I see some of you are having a case of winter/hibernation type food cravings too.
I saw the thread Jen did about tv stars being 'FAT' for a day. I have never had that much abuse, the odd stare or remark but nothing like that, does anyone think it might have been a set-up? Or has anyone had this sort of abuse regularly? Is it a city thing, or an American thing? maybe I look too 'hard' for people to bother me, my son said loads of his friends and their mum's thought I was 'hard' it came as a shock, I'm polite, always in clean, tidy jeans and a top, just coz I wear a leather and have my nose pierced does'nt make me 'rough', a thought though, if it stops you being upset, abused or stared at it might be worth buying a bike leather, lol
Hope everyone is well and managing losses or at least maintaining.
sharon
Okay, horrible and miserable day, and after I've been feeling so good for weeks!
I had to wake up at 5 am yesterday, after dealing with my sick kitty at the vet and superhuman day of nonstop work, and go on a business trip. I was headachy and jetlagged all day. Therefore, my 'good food choices' stopped after lunch, after which I devoured 3 brownies (they were small at least but...) over the course of the afternoon, and then a huge MOUND of fries and a fried chicken sandwich patty for dinner, because I couldn't find anything on room service. I was going to get a chicken sandwich (thinking it was grilled, ha!) and salad for delivery, but they said they had a minimum charge of $10 to deliver and were like, "Do you want fries with that?" So I succumbed, it didn't even taste good, now I feel more sick, I still didn't sleep, and it all just is miserable.
I want the weekend and it's not even midway through the week for me yet.
300+ And Ready to Try Again...#784
Just checking in to let peope know I am still here... I worked hard yesterday it was my day off and I spent 3 hours cleaning up the back garden for the dog for winter.... looks much better all that scrubbing was backbreaking!
his little brother gets upset and everyone stares, so I ate what we had in. I have been exercising, walking or aerobics (on video) every day, so hopefully its done my weightloss and health some good. It's so cold here, its made me want to eat everything in sight, 
I see some of you are having a case of winter/hibernation type food cravings too.
