I hope you will indulge me for I need a little rant. Today I was out and some guy just looked me up and down and said '***king ****'. I said excuse me?? And he just laughed and walked off. It isn't just that though, it is a cumulative thing... nearly everyday of my life, people staring, laughing, or making comments, jokes or insults. Sometimes I just know they are coming anjd have to brace myself. It just chips away at me, I know it is my fault I am fat and I know I am starting down the road to change it but it just annoys me... is being fat so so offensive to people that I have to be insulted the whole time? Sometimes it makes me just want to hide away. Sorry to go on, I will stop now. I just wanted to say here because maybe some people here know what it is like
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Hold your head high you have nothing to be ashamed of. There are people who are rude, ill mannered and unkind. I don't know why these sorts think it is OK to ridicule and insult people.Try to ignore them, you know you are so much better than them. When you reach goal and are beautiful and healthy they will still be rude, ill mannered and unkind.
I hope you will indulge me for I need a little rant. Today I was out and some guy just looked me up and down and said '***king ****'. I said excuse me?? And he just laughed and walked off. It isn't just that though, it is a cumulative thing... nearly everyday of my life, people staring, laughing, or making comments, jokes or insults. Sometimes I just know they are coming anjd have to brace myself. It just chips away at me, I know it is my fault I am fat and I know I am starting down the road to change it but it just annoys me... is being fat so so offensive to people that I have to be insulted the whole time? Sometimes it makes me just want to hide away. Sorry to go on, I will stop now. I just wanted to say here because maybe some people here know what it is like
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I am right there with you when i started i wa 425, adults were better, but kids were the worse for me. In a store they would litterally stare and thier eyes would follow me. Some would say "Mommy she has a big tummy" or two kids would wisper and snicker and look at me. My husband bless his heart didnt notice, but it was ALLLLL the time, i remember we were in London at the Winterwonderland and i finally asked him if he noticed, he said not, once i mentioned it he noticed it, its hard to get over it, i just ignore them, sometimes a mom would hush then or ignore them. Its tought to be judged and looked at (i didnt think i looked that BIG).
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don't listen to him!
That guy was a jack a$$. Don't let him get in your head. He's the one with something clearly wrong with him. I think society in general has a real lack of compassion and kindness but that is something altogether different. To verbally attack a stranger unprovoked in such a cruel way tells me that guy has issues. I'm so sorry he took them out on you. *Hugs*
Joselo....think of this! We may be fat but we are attempting to do something positive about it. The people who tease/bully and humiliate us will ALWAYS to88ers!!
Thank you everyone... sorry, over it now. It happened AGAIN when i was swimming today. I get sick of it! But I won't let them stop me doing my swimming, or going out, or even thinking positively of myself- I agree with them that I am fat, I don't agree with them that I am disgusting/a pig/weak/whatever.
I am trying to do something about it but their problem is even bigger than mine because I would rather be like 17 stone overweight than be a mean person. I know for sure I never made rude comments to people and never would!
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Ugh, sorry to hear that random people around you are so negative! It is definitely more their problem because they are the . Even if you aren't trying to do something about your weight that doesn’t give them the right to treat you like that. Basic human decency should never be conditional.
When I had lost well over a hundred pounds, many years ago, I was feeling so thin, so vibrant, so healthy. I had on a pretty dress and heels and went out to the club with a friend. A man who looked me up and down said "you'd be such a fox if you'd lose 10 pounds". Do you know, that 30 years later it still haunts me? Coupled with past family issues, it only further confirmed that I was never good enough to be accepted as myself.
There will always be inconsiderate people. Some are ugly in their hearts and feel the need to hurt others. My incident that I let haunt me, made me also realize that not being good enough or pretty enough was my own perception of value. Strangers cannot possibly know me as I know myself. So why would I let them have the final say?
Not that I recommend tit for tat, but you could strengthen your resolve to get healthier by saying it out loud. Next time someone comments, earnestly say that at least you are working on it and ask if they are working on learning manners in public or how to be kind to others?
Just grinds me down...
don't listen to him!
Don't let him get in your head. He's the one with something clearly wrong with him. I think society in general has a real lack of compassion and kindness but that is something altogether different. To verbally attack a stranger unprovoked in such a cruel way tells me that guy has issues. I'm so sorry he took them out on you. *Hugs*
