[Amberp]

Hey everyone I need a little advice. I have a friend who was around 450 pounds and had a gastric bypass. My sister also had one lost 160 pounds has totally stuck with is and is a size 2 now so I know a lot about the procedure and what people go through. Anyway my friend lost about 180 pounds and had more to lose but has never been really good about her eating and has gained back 40 of the 180. She has now decided she wants to try the hcg diet. I really don't think it's healthy for her. Should I just keep my mouth shut or should I tell her she should really think twice? She wanted me to try it and I said **** no! What do you think? I want to be a good friend but I don't want her to think I am telling her not to do it because I'm not doing it. HELP!

[sweetcakes736]

Ok, Amber, to be fair I didn't know what the hcg diet was, so I went and did some research, the statement I saw showed the owner/founder of hcg saying a person could safely lose 1 to 2 pounds daily and when I saw that all I could think was organ failure.
Here's the truth-THERE IS NO QUICK FIX AND NO MAGIC PILL!!
To successfully change your weight you must change your life, period.
If I were you and she was my friend, I'd be totally honest about the way I felt, not cruel or judgemental, just honest.
If she wants to lose the weight she has to eat less, eat better, and move more.
Be there for her, be a good friend because good friends tell us what we need to hear, not what we want to hear.

[Ev2]

i do not know much about the HCG diet. I agree with sweetcakes736 there is no magic pill. having had the gastric bypass and gained the weight back i know a little of what your friend is feeling. maybe instead of just advising against it have her research it with you, this will allow you to get a better grasp on what she is wanting to do as well as opening opportunity for you to express your concerns on the plan.

I think it is great that you are being such a great friend to her.

[Amberp]

Well I talked to her and told her my concerns. She said she doesn't care and wants to hurry and lose 40 pounds and so she is going to do it. I guess now all I can do is support her if she gets sick.

[sweetcakes736]

Amber I was thinking about this while doing yoga, since she won't change her mind about this hcg nonsense, what if you and her become exercise buddies? At least this way you'll know she's doing something positive with her body. As far as the rest of it, I think the best thing you can do for her, is to do it the right way for yourself. Sometime in the future, she'll be able to look at you and see that it is possible. Be her role model, sad part is you have to wait until she chooses a healthier life for herself.

[Amberp]

It is really sad. It has made me really sad for her. She put her family $30,000 into debt and it didn't work so now she is doing something which I personally think is really wreckless and dangerous. She is now using the excuse that she doesn't have to workout while she is on HCG because she isn't supposed too. I am going to keep on working on me. It is just hard to not feel bad that she is acting so unwisely.

[basketcase]

That's a shame. She has already committed once to a huge, life-changing operation. Then she gives up on it and wants to find something else.

Focus on yourself. Be supportive, but don't hurt yourself to help her. Good luck!!