We are a group of individuals who weigh or have weighed 300+, or near there. This group was formed to provide a place for others like us to find support, inspiration, and hope. We are aware of the distinct problems that come with weighing over 300 lbs.
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Hope everyone had a good weekend. Hubbys party was good. Everyone had a great time..and everyone stayed til 3am..UGH! I was a sleepy lady yesterday. BUT it was cool enough to have a fire outback which everyone loved.
As for me tonight I am going to start my strolls in the park. I dont know what is going on with me still. Maybe it is adjusting to the surgery..maybe I have IBS..I dont know. All I know is that I dont wanna be FAT no more. So I am going to take it easy..baby steps..and today after work I am walking at the park that is right by my house. I know loosing weight will be good for me..even if everything else is not. So here we gooooo.
Good morning ladies...just finished a 45 min workout and feeling good..i did pretty well yesterday at my parents house it was my stepdads birthday but i didnt over do it with the snacking so i am proud of myself that i didnt blow it.
Cyn...just start out with baby steps that is all you can do just dont overdo it and everyday you will get a little bit stronger and before long you will see that weight flying off!
Good morning everyone. I am really struggling. I spent all day yesterday sobbing. I sobbed through church,where we were celebrating All Saints Day, and just sat there wishing it was me who was dead and not the people who are loved so much. Then I spent the rest of the day crying and emailing with my pastor pathetically. I am having such a hard time.
I need to get with it. I am just drowning in misery.
Hi everyone,
Today for me it's a rest day. My DH and I did a marathon house cleaning yesterday and my calves for some reason are killing me. I know I was awaken last night when they cramped up on me. So today I am resting them on a heating pad and then I'll try to get back to a normal routine tomorrow.
Heather- Thanks for getting #1235 started for us.
azcyn- A stroll in the park sounds lovely. Enjoy yourself!
hbieber2006- Glad you had a good time at the birthday party and stood your ground by staying on plan. Way to go!
PinkFlamingo- Talk to us girl, let us know what's hurting so much. Did it help emailing back and forth your pastor? I deal with my own depression everyday and just know that my ear is available if you need it.
I'll listen!
Ladies, have a wonderful day and I'll peek back in on you later.
learningtolive - Thanks hon. I just hate myself so much and it hurts so badly soemtimes. I'm lonely and the people I love keep leaving or dying or moving away. And it's hard being in this body. I'm sure you can all relate? I haven't been to class in 2 weeks and I am going to need a reference letter at the end of this term. FAT CHANCE I will be able to get one. My mom told me yesterday at church that I smelled and looked like a bag lady. I don't care. I ust don't care what I look like nymore. I used to be aa makeup artist. I am only 27 and I have given up on myself. I have been wearing the same big wool sweater for weeks now because I can hide behind it.
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learningtolive - Thanks hon. I just hate myself so much and it hurts so badly soemtimes. I'm lonely and the people I love keep leaving or dying or moving away. And it's hard being in this body. I'm sure you can all relate? I haven't been to class in 2 weeks and I am going to need a reference letter at the end of this term. FAT CHANCE I will be able to get one. My mom told me yesterday at church that I smelled and looked like a bag lady. I don't care. I ust don't care what I look like nymore. I used to be aa makeup artist. I am only 27 and I have given up on myself. I have been wearing the same big wool sweater for weeks now because I can hide behind it.
WOW! Pink, let's stop and breath for a moment. I think you do care deep down inside, otherwise you wouldn't be here on 3FC. I felt the same way about myself only a year ago. I went to my regular doctor and before I could finish saying, "I wanted to talk to you about anti-depressants!" I was bawling my eyes out. They did help me a lot, even though I don't take them anymore due to being allergic to them. I truly felt better mentally on them, especially Lexapro, and I was willing to endure the horrible hives I was getting while on it, but my doctor took me off when he saw what was going on. I was scratching myself till I bled. Please talk to your doctor before this gets worse. We are here to support you, remember that!
Thanks Learn, I have been on ADs for about 9 yrs now (I am 27 and have been on them my entire adult life). My main problem is OCD, and my new psychiatrist is taking me off my old meds and putting me on new ones (zoloft right now and adding some other stuff). I think part of the problem is that I am withdrawing from Effexor. I am a ministry student, and right now I do NOT feel filled with God's love. I feel like I want to crawl into a hole and die. I hate how I look. I am so depressed about my body. I am depressed because I'm not sue right now I believe in love (any kind of love). Because everywhere I look there is ugliness and loneliness and pain. And I don't understand why we are here because life is just pain. I am so lonely and desperate. Spending yesterday with my mother didn't help. She doesn't believe in love or goodness or God or anything that keeps me going. And then i really needed hugs at church nd we are not hugging right now because of the H1N1 paranoia. Sorry, this is a total rant. I just... so alone, you know? Thanks and bless you.
I hope everyone is doing okay. I know some of us are struggling, including me, but we can do this, we can pull together.
Making loads of change this week...totally was not going to exercise today, but I did it after much debating within myself. Of course I'm new to the kickboxing stuff so today I managed to hurt my side lol. KICK OYYYYYYY NOOOO! lol...i'll be fine in the morning. I might go for a walk tonight, but I doubt I'll have the time.
Fixing to go get clean and such...going to make a few healthy dishes..my stomach is out of sorts from all the bad foods I've eaten. EW! So, I need to give it a bit of a break.
Just been stressful. My relationship is problematic, family drama, and just missing my Mom a lot. I really wish she was here.
Pinkflamingo -- Honey, you sound so so down. I know there's nothing I can do right now to make you see the beauty and goodness in the world, but I hope as you get the meds straightened out you can see it. For now, know that it IS there and waiting for you.
As for school, from whom are you asking for a reference? I'm a college prof and write a lot of those letters, and it makes a difference when I know why students are having problems. Can you talk to your professors?
Pinkflamingo, I've been where you are before & I bet there's a few others on here who have too. If things are getting so bad maybe another visit to your Dr might be in order, even if he/she is just reassuring you things can & will get better. Try forcing yourself to go take a shower/bath;it ALWAYS makes me feel better; whilst you're soaking/soaping you can get your sweater in the washer & then get it dry. It might sound stupid but everytime I feel cr*p if I shower I feel better, especialy if its some nice scented stuff that makes me feel special. There is a lot of beauty in the world, lok through your windows, see the leaves falling from the trees, listen to birds singing. There are good people out there, it's just that when we're stuck in a depression we only seem to see the bad stuff. Try it, look for three beautiful things, your pastor sounds like one, a kind & compassionate woman.xxxxxx
Well had a call from a counsellor my Dr arranged, it was weird telling her 'everything' that was going on, I felt very tearful. As I told her stuff I thought GOOD GRIEF my life sounds sh*t! She will be ringing me every week to talk over stuff though it seems weird that it's over the phone, she says people are more open when it's over the phone, feeling more able to 'open up' about stuff they wouldn't face to face. I'l give it a try & see.
I sent a message to Annie(Dogpal) she is hanging on I hope the Drs sort her out soon.
xxxxxxsharon
Pink - Hang in there. I've been there, as have many of us. I remember being so down in the pit of depression that crawling my way out took a very long time. I was in what I call "darkness" and today I'm a completely different person. Healing takes time and you do have options, like seeing professional help, turning to your family, or even in your case turning to your religion. There are options for you out there and you are far from alone. I've been through A LOT of pain and trauma, a lot, yet all I see when I look at the world is good and positive things. Sure there are ugly things out there ,but that isn't who I am. I still DO get depressed, I still DO struggle, but at the end of the day I'm here...and I'm living. You can do this and get help and you have us here by your side. *HUGS* Believe me there is a lot of good in the world. Take me, a woman who was abused since she was 5...sexually, emotionally, verbally...kicked and kicked and kicked. Now here I am years later, still have issues yeah, but I'm here and I'm glad to be here. Takes time...all healing does.
Hi Ladies...i was suppose to do my circuit training workout today but i just dont feel good..i have a headache, cramps and i am bleeding pretty heavily (TMI sorry) so tomorrow i will do my circuit training workout instead and just take today off to relax and deal with having my TOM
Another fly-by post. I hope to do a proper post with personals tomorrow night; I'm getting used to this schedule of work and my Internships, and I've been so ridiculously busy. I apologize. I hope you are all having a wonderful week thus far, and I'll be back tomorrow evening, while I'm catching up on The Biggest Loser that I'm DVR-ing tonight. *hugs to all*
300+ Weekly Thread #1235
I know there's nothing I can do right now to make you see the beauty and goodness in the world, but I hope as you get the meds straightened out you can see it. For now, know that it IS there and waiting for you.
