i dont define myself because of my weight. i dont worry if i will have an issue on a plane (its never happened) i dont worry about if i can get on a roller coaster ride (its happened once). i just worry about being happy. i have a career i LOVE. i have a very small group of amazingly supportive friends, i wear what i want, because i want to. i wear tank tops, i wear shorts, i go to the beach, in a bathing suit (a tankini even) by myself because i WANT to (and its good for your soul). i work in the most superficial business in the world, and people trust me to run departments, manage people, handle finances, and make sure things get done. just because im fat does not mean im stupid or incompetent and more than if i was gay(im not) or of a different race) its just something. like being a brunette (i am). it doesnt matter what anyone else thinks about me. i dont have the time to dwell on thier negative energy. and i hope that some of my positive energy rubs off on them.