Anyone else get that? I was at work crocheting a baby blanket and a customer came up to my desk and asked "Oh, that's cute, a baby blanket. Do you know if you're having a boy or a girl?"
One - the blanket is blue. Two. I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat.
This is a pretty low blow to me, because I've also got PCOS, so who knows if becoming pregnant is even possible for me at this point.
Oh, I have been asked that embarassing question , too, I never knew what to say except to mumble , I am not pregnant. I make it a practice to NEVER ask a woman if she is pregnant.
ive never been asked directly but my mum has, when my little brother was about 6 months old someone she hadnt seen for a while said 'have you not had that baby yet?'.
One time I asked a hairdresser that - I hadn't seen her before, she was new to the salon and she REALLY looked pregnant - I don't normally ask, but I was so convinced she was.
And she wasn't. She gave me a crap haircut (maybe cos she was rubbish, maybe out of spite) and I never went back. Lesson learned on both sides I think.
I made that mistake years ago too. I noticed a co-worker had a baby bump and she was small everywhere else so I asked her when we were alone if she was pregnant. I could have died when she said no. The very next day I saw her jogging down the road and felt horrible but never said anything else to her because I didn't know how to fix the situation. Lesson learned --- until I see the head I keep my mouth shut!
omg 6 months after I had my first I went back to waitressing and one of my regular customers came up to me SO excited that I was having another so soon. I wanted to die. And I was only around 165-170 then!!!!
And another time, somebody pulled my DF aside to congratulate him on the impending delivery. Still not pregnant, though we were trying lol.
People mean well, but thats is a pretty humiliating mistake to make.
I will not ask a lady if she's pregnant unless I see a child falling out of her. Almost everyone has a horribly embarrassing (for both sides) story, and it's just the safest route to take. In my experience, pregnant people end up talking about it sooner or later...might take them a while to bring it up, but I can wait them out. *grin*
That, and I've had a few friends miscarry later into the pregnancy...I'm terrified that I'll say something to someone I know is pregnant, only to find out that they lost it...
So, for me, pregnant people have to bring it up. It may seem a bit cold or callous on my end, but I'd rather seem standoffish instead of causing any looks of heartache or despair.
Just because the blanket is blue doesn't mean it is for a boy. Lots of people don't believe in gender-typing children like this anymore.
I also never ask anyone if they're pregnant anymore.
My dad is colour blind so yeah, this was out the window for me
I think that lady just had it in the wrong place at the wrong time, with you knitting a baby thing then this might have been like "oh is she pregnant...wait shes knitting for a baby, she probably is so i should congratulate her" or something like that. I can see myself making the same mistake >.< But its really sad that you have PCOS and it must have felt like such a low blow
I was with this guy that I was sort of dating and REEEEEEEEEEALLY liked, he was a super fit Marine, we went in to a pizza store to pick up our order and the young guy behind the counter asked "when are you due?" and I wanted the ground to open up and swallow me whole!!! Thankfully the Marine never heard as I was the one who went to the counter and there was much chatter in the store. I'm sure the pizza guy felt just as mortified as I did because I told him I was pregnant. One of the most awful moments of my life.
Just a thought, I've often wondered why this really attractive, super fit marine was with me.....I was so chunky and out of shape, odd.
Last edited by bananapancakes; 02-26-2011 at 10:35 PM.
Yeah I got mistaken for being pregnant once, it ruined my whole day haha...I'd taken my boyfriend to this mall to get massages and then to go to this chocolate shop that does amazing milkshakes and stuff...so we go to get massages first and the therapist says to me "Now, you are pregnant yes, we need to do special technique". I wanted to die. I didn't get a massage, nor did I get an amazing milkshake. My boyfriend and I were pretty new at that point so I didn't know what to do - just told him it was upsetting, he didn't seem to care....but still, embarassing.
Ah, I too have PCOS.... It is a rough thing. I'm 23 and the docs have told me that having a baby is going to be very difficult if it is even possible at all... I am accepting it, but I have had a few comments like that and each time I think "HA, oh honey... you are going to feel SO bad in about 2 seconds.."
Once I said "Omg! you think i am? I NEED TO TAKE A TEST, NOW!!!!" (i stood there wide eyed for a sec before laughing and saying "Ha, no im not. just kidding.... But hey, now I have new motivation for a diet!" (the person who asked me looked like they wanted to crawl in a hole and die right there)
Hey lady, I'm fat, not pregnant.
The very next day I saw her jogging down the road and felt horrible but never said anything else to her because I didn't know how to fix the situation. Lesson learned --- until I see the head I keep my mouth shut! 
