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  •   #16  
    stilettolife's Avatarstilettolife , 02-27-2011 02:15 PM
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    Originally Posted by La Vie Boheme
    Thank you so much everyone! I so appreciate all of the kind words from all of you. I totally agree with what most have said about it being a cultural thing in some aspects. I think more than anything i really just needed to vent and be like "THAT SUCKED! AHH!!" Obviously, that is not the first or worst thing anyone has ever said to me... But, I think that since I am finally getting to the point of getting myself healthy it is the first time that it actually touched a nerve, does that make sense? When it comes to this particular person I am just going to keep my mouth shut and smile.

    Random story though... This person in a grocery store (whom I had never seen before mind you) walked up to me and said "You know, if you were skinny you would be really pretty!" I was a little bit shocked that she had said that.... then my brain-to-mouth filter totally went away and I replied with "Awe, thank you!! You know, I think you would be a good person if you weren't such a b**** and learned some tact!"

    It wasnt my proudest moment, but hopefully it made that lady think before she spoke next time. :-)

    I really appreciate all the comments. It helped put everything into perspective a bit more for me today.

    Oh, and I'm down to 245 today!
    I'm sorry sweetie, I've gotten these comments a lot and yes, it hurts but also these people are unhappy with themselves so they pick on us to make themselves feel better. It sucks that they have to be such Afaces because it makes me want to act like one right back. Some people just don't have tact or a heart for that matter.

    You got lost of love and support from us.
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    jmko's Avatarjmko , 02-27-2011 08:32 PM
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    Originally Posted by kooo
    ouch!! it may just be that Koreans are OCD about that though. I'm Korean myself and my mom will NOT let a day pass where she doesn't criticize my body. When I went to Korea for an internship this summer, one of the ladies in the office told me "I didn't know you were that chubby but when you sit down in the chair your thighs really expand!" And on Korean online weight loss forums, there are people telling you that anything above 105lbs for a height of 5'6" is fat. What's more, my cousin, who's the same height and age as me, is 98 lbs. AND SHE COMPLAINS ABOUT BEING OBESE.

    i hope you don't stress it too much...i'm trying not to. but some people are just crazy.
    I have to agree on this one. It's just the way Koreans are. They're blunt and have no filter. Whatever they think, they say. Even if it's not about weight, they just knock you down! I'm Korean, and I also married Korean. My mother in law is just terrible! She always points out how tired and sh!tty I look. You need to keep in my that they don't do this to be rude or hurtful, it's just how they are. I notice the closer they are to you, the worse the comments are. If they didn't say anything to your face, it means they don't like you.
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    Laneyy's AvatarLaneyy , 02-27-2011 09:23 PM
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    Originally Posted by eclipse
    It would be nice if we could come to a point in our culture where "fat" was just a descriptive word (like tall or short or thin), not laden with all the baggage that we assign to it. I mean, it shouldn't be an insult to describe some as fat, but I get that it is for a lot of people. I like it better than "fluffy," however. (that one makes me want to scream ). Anyhow, I think in many other cultures, fat is just descriptive - not meant to convey any sort of moral disapproval.
    I haaaaaaate "fluffy". I had a tiny little Japanese/Norwegian (strange mix, I know) who would say that to me ALL the time and I really just wanted to punch her for it.
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