[Phoenixsmommy]

OKay i have been p-e-r-f-e-c-t for 3 months, i am on WW and i havent even used my flex points but today me and hubby decided we would eat out...i feel so guilty and so bad about it and i dont know why.

I will say that i have only used 2 of my flex points and all of my daily points..our dinners are around 10 points so i now i will still be in my range and i know this is technically not cheating.....someone say something to make me feel better

[Helen ready to lose]

Stop beating yourself up!!! You are doing great. Aren't you the same woman who has lost 27 pounds! Be proud of yourself. The first couple of months I did not cheat. Now, my husband and I plan to go out every week to 10 days and I have whatever I want for one meal. The next day I go back to my plan.

[preetyladyserenity]

Hmm maybe you are feeling guilty because you have been doing so good for so long.

I have noticed that most people on diet (me included) have the whole "since I cheated, I failed. Since I failed then I might just as well quit". I hope this is something you can avoid because this kind of trap just makes you fall of the wagon for a long time. And seriously, if you forgot to brush your teeth one day, would you let the rot?

[ValentineNicole]

Flex points are there so when special occasions happen, you can be flexible. Going out with your husband is certainly a special occasion. Enjoy it! You're still 100% on plan. There's a reason they give you those points!

And on an even more exciting note, sometimes a day of slightly higher calories jumps your metabolims making you lose more!!

[tkm256]

I'm not sure how the WW points sytem works, but I'm pretty sure they designed it so that if you're within your range, you will not gain weight. Worst case scenario: you ate enough to maintain your current weight. So now you will have to delay the achievement of your ultimate goal by one whole day. Instead of hitting 145 on a Tuesday, you will have to wait until Wednesday. So horrible, right?

[asweetchicagogirl1]

First of all, you did NOT cheat. While it is good that you've had the willpower not to use a lot of your flex points, that is what they are there for. In the end, this is a lifestyle change right? You have to know that there will be weddings/vacations/anniversaries/days you feel like mac'n'cheese till you can't stand it (ok, sorry that last one was all me) and if you deny yourself those things you will, eventually, truly cheat and possibly fall off the wagon. 27 pounds is HUGE and something to celebrate!

[pinkalarmclock]

i have been doing this to myself too; i'll eat something that I don't normally eat on my diet and it won't even necessarily be bad and it won't even take me over my calories or anything but I still get angry at myself. And I know I shouldn't and that it's fine if I do it but for some reason I just feel guilty. Seems you and me both need to learn how to not beat ourselves up over these small things!

[shortandfluffy]

Originally Posted by preetyladyserenity

I have noticed that most people on diet (me included) have the whole "since I cheated, I failed. Since I failed then I might just as well quit".

This is something I am VERY guilty of.. this is what always causes me to fail and it shouldn't be that way. One meal is ok! Its life! It happens! I think you are doing a great job!

Originally Posted by preetyladyserenity

And seriously, if you forgot to brush your teeth one day, would you let the rot?

Love this! Great thing to think about.

[diornotwar]

one meal is totally fine! i struggle with this, too.

[Phoenixsmommy]

Thanks everyone...its amazing how i used to take so much pleasure in food like these and now my stomach turns just thinking of all the calories i consumed.

I appreciate the advice and compliments and the help, i know this is a lifestyle change and i know this is forever...one day in the rest of my life is not a big deal i just wish i didn't beat myself up..i was worried i would come home and consume whatever i wanted because of the mentality"well i already screwed up today" but i didn't..i have a regular sensible dinner picked out and im happy about that!I think its because i came on here right away and it help me accountable. think i will finish this day with around 15 flex points still accessible

[Sskar]

I don't consider it cheating if I plan for special occasion eating. I allow myself to enjoy the taste of food - but not overindulge the way I once did. (That's how I lost 4 pounds on a 2-week cruise eating like "regular" people!)

You are embarking on life-long behavior changes, not just lowering your weight. So, eating out is fine - just plan for it.

[amaniesa]

Everyone has given some great advice. Just get right back on the saddle. You can do it!

[akacutie]

Did you get to a meeting this week? The topic was really about this issue specifically. (at least our meeting was) You DIDN'T cheat. You ate, tracked and didn't go over your points. What's the problem? You can be perfect for the rest of your life so the quicker you adjust your mind frame the better. You have to be able to live your life in a healthy manner, not be on a diet and off a diet when you go out for a special occasion. I will say that you have only been doing WW for 3 months so it takes time to change the diet mentality. I have had this same issue in the past, but when I "failed" I really did a number- a week at a time of binge, etc. then I would stop going to meetings when I gained.... I have been going no matter what for a year and 2 months now and I have ups, and downs and I try not to let it get me down. It's still hard sometimes! LOL

[reagansquad]

It is so okay to eat normal food once in a while!!! It's healthy and normal and good and will even help you lose weight. Enjoy it, take your time, taste and enjoy every bite... then when you're done with dessert, right back into your real life again working hard and losing weight.