in need of a buddy or buddies
 

hey ladies,

so when i started on this site i was SUPER motivated and joining all the challenges and loving it. i started going down that slippery slope of realizing no one really knew if i was keeping up or not, and began cheating myself. i've gone through some rough emotional times recently that screwed me up food wise and i'm slowly being able to eat regularly again, but i'm struggling to keep up my calories. i also am losing motivation to work out. i know myself and i feel like if i have someone i'm accountable to, i will stay motivated. is anyone interested in an accountability buddy? i need someone to kick my butt back into shape every once in a while, or to lay on the guilt for making a bad choice (i know it might not be healthy, but i'm catholic...we live on guilt haha). i need my very own jillian michaels. in return, i can do the same...or be the nice girl. whatever works best. anyone in?

I'm in!!!!!!!!

:carrot::carrot:

Stay strong! you can do it!

Let's do it. I'm a former Catholic school girl. You want guilt, I have it it DROVES :)

You just have to give it right back!!

done and done, looks like we've got ourselves a trifecta of fat-losing force. ok, that was lame. haha

May I join as well?

Like StellaRose, I have oodles of catholic guilt stored up for any occasion :)

Me too me too!! I did the same thing, I lost 4 lbs then gained 6 back, I have up. I could definitely use the support and some people to be there!

Don't know if it is too late, but I am interested also. I desperately need someone to hold me accountable and make me check in. I tend to fall off and hide from the fact that I am skipping out on my health and myself.

i think we got ourselves a pretty fantastic little group here. next step: someone come up with a creative name:)

Along the same lines. I would like to find a buddy as well. someone to chat with on aim 3-4 times a week for about 10-30 min a day at some sort of agreed upon time. Someone to be accountable to...ie go through how the day went, did I exercise, stick to plan etc.

A little bit about me. I've been on and off of South Beach for most of last year. I've been dealing with alot of anxiety from my parents in the last month and the cravings have been unbearable. Right now I'm around 200# at 5'10. I have about 50# to loose. I'm finishing up college this summer and getting ready to "join the real world". I'm going to try really hard and get through this summer, figure things out and not take every little frustration out on fast food. In addition I can't afford fast food anymore because I'm broke.

Anyway I would someone in a similar situation, but anyone would be great. If more than 1 person message me, maybe we could set up a 3 way chat or something. thanks guys.

Yay for buddies!
As far as a name... uh, I got nothin' :(

I have a name - The Shrinking Violets -

We're shrinking and, well, I love purple, so its a little biased, but I thought it was cute :)

Also, we could create a google group (I don't know how but I could figure out quickly) - I don't think you have to have gmail, and we all just email all day to check on each other.

sounds fantastic! i love purple too :)

I like the name, and think the google thing is a great idea.

I love the name...doesn't hurt my favorite color is purple also.

Amyleigh...how are you doing on your diet and exercise? Tell us all about it.

Also, we all need to check in (or at least I do) because it is a holiday weekend which means food and excuses not to workout.

So, guess I should start. I have the day off which is bad for my diet - I am watching my carbs and have done pretty well the last few days. However, I still have a hole to dig out of from cheating so badly on Tuesday. Worked out yesterday by doing an hour of cardio and burning 600 cals (after taking two days of rest which were really me just being lazy).

Don't know what it was about this week - maybe just the holiday and having time off. I also took Monday off so 4 day weekend :)

I plan to work out this afternoon sometime, but getting a manicure and pedicure sounds so much better right now. Talk to you girls soon!

Hi ladies! My week unfortunately is not going so well. Yesterday we went to a pizza place. I only ate one slice, BUT I also ate 2 pieces of garlic cheese bread. You know, I'm not really sure what my deal is. I know how to eat well and ww is easy for me I guess I just choose not to do it. I do good for breakfast and lunch, its when I get home and we eat dinner! I do ww from home and all I have is a points slide. I would really like more info. I also know it would be better for me to go to the meetings for the accountability.
Hope everyone elses week is going better than mine! Have a great 4th!

sorry i've been away...i'm not good at accountability:) i was really really bad last night. my cousins took me out to celebrate finishing my masters and they kept buying me drinks...which i kept drinking...and of course that was followed up with a late night piece of pizza and a few pieces of toast. grrr.
i'm going on vacation next week though which means i'll be eating well. i know that sounds odd, but i get to take part in the food shopping for the week so i can be sure we have stuff i can have. horray!

Yesterday wasn't bad per say. I neglected to count calories, but made smart choices. I had veggie burgers instead of regular burgers, and didn't drink anything but what I allotted myself before we left for the BBQ. That being said, I didn't exercise which isn't so good. Oh well, on with being good!

I'm not going to call this weekend an "epic fail" but I counted nothing. I was aware of what I was eating and I was doing a lot of exercise - we walked for 5 hours in NYC yesterday - with stopping/starting, I count 3 hours of that as actual walking. Not to mention, I got a lovely surprise this morning, 2 days early. My eating was good today and I'm going to be super on plan starting tomorrow. I'm assuming the scale is going to go up on Tuesday, but that's okay, I had my weekend off.

I'm a bit late, but can I join in? I've tried the accountability thing with some real-life friends, but they don't really care that much. I posted weekly updates on my blog for two months, then stopped completely and nobody even said a word. Quite disheartening to see that nobody cares but me...

Anyway, I'm all for keeping you girls accountable if you'll nicely return the favour!

Nicole : Good job on the workout! I love your attitude : getting over a bad day, food-wise, by upping the ante on the workouts. I'll take a leaf off your book next time. Oh, and there's no rule that says you can't work out if you get a manicure! (You can bask in the glory of your perfect nails as you run on the treadmill, hehehe)

OakfieldMama: I agree, suppers can be hard. Breakfast and lunch are easy because, with our busy schedules, we have to plan them out. I always plan my breakfast the night before and, usually, I make my lunch too. But it's easy to slack off at supper because we have more freedom. Maybe you should start planning them out, just like you would for your lunches. It will help you become aware of your choices. Just an idea. And you're right, attending the meetings would totally help!

Amyleigh : Don't feel bad. You're allowed one night of celebrating, especially after finishing your masters! (congrats!!) I suggest you put in one extra workout this week to compensate for the booze calories :-)

Marbear : yay for veggieburgers! Good choice, girl. BBQs are hard on the diet. You should be very proud. How was the exercise today?

Stellarosa : Thumbs up on the mega walking. I feel your pain on the early visitor. Urgh. I had the same problem last week. Try to stay away from salty snacks and the bloating should be kept at a minimum for your weigh-in on Tuesday.

As for me, no exercise today (boo) but I stayed on plan food-wise : oatmeal and fruit for breakfast, salad for lunch and an improvised tofu-egg-bok choy Asian thing for supper. Goal tomorrow : one hour workout. No excuses!

can I jump in?? purple is the best color ever, I love "the shrinking violets", why don't we just keep chatting here instead of making a group - we can make new threads if they get too long, right?

amyleigh - alcohol is one thing I have temporarily cut out altogether... one of my mini-goal rewards is a bottle of wine :) in college, I looked up how many calories are in a shot of vodka (my then drink of choice) and was shocked... 60-70!! in that little tiny glass! CONGRATS on finishing your masters - I'm done with year 1, bring on year 2 :)

stella - where in maryland are you? I'm in baltimore... or as the locals seem to say, baldamore...

if everyone who viewed a thread would leave a little message, that would be a lot of encouragement...12 years of catholic school here

Good morning.

Cara, Mini, David - Hi!

Amy - I'm sure you deserved the night out after finishing your masters. I envy your ability to be 'good' on vacation. I'm always stuck around people that convince me vacation for work means vacation for eating well. Boo peer pressure!

Stella - Hope you enjoyed NYC. It's a great place :)

Cara - I understand with the blog. I'm not so inclined to write in it because I feel like I'm talking to myself, and I do enough of that already.

I'm in a funk today - I was yesterday too. Not sure why, but it makes me want to do nothing but sleep and be whiny. I didn't get up to swim yesterday, but I did walk 4.0 miles and stayed on target with the calorie counting. I weigh myself everyday, and I was up 4 pounds from yesterday which makes NO sense. I just got rid of TOM, I didn't count but didn't eat poorly on Saturday, and I ate according to plan and exercised yesterday. WTF? Bah. I actually got up to go swimming this morning, but was late and in this funk - so I only stayed in the water 20 minutes. Not even long enough to record it in my calorie journal. I guess the fact that I got up and went was a small victory considering how funkish I am. Perhaps I'll get on the elliptical later tonight... or just not eat dinner so I don't have to exercise. We'll see how I feell...


Hope everyone has a great day.

Hi All!!

minitwinkie - I'm in Beltsville, down near Silver Spring, but I spent my college years in Baltimore. I love that place. Vodka = awesome. I don't drink as much as I used to, now maybe once every few months. I did have champagne sangria this weekend and it was SO good.

Marbear - Maybe your hormones are still a bit off? Also, you could be retaining water from working out, or your dehydrated. I know a lot of times when I feel sluggish its b/c I haven't drank enough water. Do NOT skip dinner - have something light or go try the elliptical later on, but skipping meals is not the way to go. I hope you get out of your funk soon!

Amy - belated congrats! And you do deserve to be out celebrating!

As for me, I'm in so much pain - thank you, TOM - so I didn't get up this morning to work out. I packed my gym stuff, and the plan is to go do the treadmill for 90 ish minutes (I have to satiate my vampire fix) and maybe take a yoga class. I don't want to work out with too high intensity b/c I won't be able to go spinning tomorrow morning, and that is the plan. I also have to go food shopping b/c I have NOTHING in my house.

Cara - what's your blog called? I'll care if you want to start writing in it again :). Mine is in a link under my avatar. Anyone is welcome to read it. Not all that exciting, sometimes it's just what I post here and sometimes it's a bit different.

Cheers!

'ello all!

Sorry i'm so bad at keeping up with this. I have started vacation YAY!!! and am in the outer banks, nc. We drove for 9 hours yesterday (wiht my cousin and her babies so we had to stop like every hour ugh). i was a hot mess yesterday because i didn't bring food so it was all fast food and no exercise, BUT today i'm back on my slimfast bars, its only 2 and i'm sitting down for the first time. did yoga this morning, went for a 1/2 hour walk, and a 20 minute bikeride and have been chasing kids ever since. goin to eat lunch now (chicken fingers, apparently they're low fat? or so my cousin says ) and then off to the pool. i love having the chance to be active. sorry i'm not checkin in on everyone, my food is ready and there's a chorus of loud italian family members telling me to get my butt upstairs.

hope all is well and i will update later tonight.

ciao!

Haha - loud Italian family members. Sounds like my life in NJ. Good luck Amy!

Hello ladies!
Hope everyones monday has been good!
I myself am a bit discouraged in myself. I just can't seem to get motivated! I can workout with no problem, I'm actually one of those weird people that LOVE it! My issue is food. I was never overweight until I had my boys. (my baby will be 2 Thursday) I guess that to me was free reign to eat whatever and whenever. I've tried counting points but I get frustrated with it after a few days. I went to the dr Thursday and I'm at 187.5 I almost cried. I was doing so good and had lost about 6 or 7 pounds. I was so proud of myself! I get so depressed about it yet I'm the only one who can do anything about it. I've gone without chocolate for 2 years now due to some problems I had after my youngest was born and at that time I went without sugar of any kind for about 6 months. I lost about 30 lbs then. Its like I NEED someone here telling me what and when to eat! I guess my real problem is portion sizes. But I have done ok yesterday and today. For breakfast yesterday I had a bowl of cereal with fat free milk. I had a pb and j sandwich and some watermelon for lunch a low fat string. cheese for a snack then grilled chicken breast cream corn and yellow rice for dinner. Today I had 2 whole grain waffles with peanut butter and a little cinnamon sugar sprinkled, chicken breast, yellow rice and watermelon for lunch a few pretzels. And for dinner I had a bowl of cereal. I know this is long but does anyone have any suggestions on what I could or should be doing? Or something to help me jump start? If greatly appreciate it!
Brandy

Good evening gals!

marbear: Sorry to hear you're in a funk. How odd that the numbers went up AFTER TOM. Strange. I agree with Stella, you're probably retaining water from the exercise. Make sure you drink plenty of water and keep at it. The numbers will go down again in no time. (oh, and do NOT skip dinner! Eeep! That's not the way to go, hun. Just keep doing regular exercise and things will get back on track.)

Btw, I like your blog! I have a lot to read to catch up, but count me as one of your readers now :-)

Mine isn't really a weightloss journal. It's more a personal blog, full of nonsense about my daily activities. But I do try to post about my progress once a week or so. Feel free to check it out if you want : cara0017.livejournal.com/

Stellarosa : Treadmill, yoga and spinning? Wow, I'm impressed! How are the spinning classes? They look like fun, but really intense!

amyleigh: driving to your vacation spot is the WORST for diets, isn't it? I drove from Ottawa to Orlando a few months back and I gained 5 pounds just on the journey. It's HARD to make good food choices on the road. And exercise? forget it! Glad to see you've been doing so well since you got to your vacation spot. Keep it up!

oakfieldmama: Since you say your problem is food, that's what I'll focus on. For portion sizes, I've found that using smaller plates, bowls, etc really helps. For the past few weeks, I've been using a bento box for all my suppers. (Check out my blog for a picture: cara0017.livejournal.com/15884.html) It has small compartments and it really helps me keep my portions down.

Also, as for the food you're actually eating, I'd try to cut back on the peanut butter. It's hard, I know, but it's PACKED with fat. Two tablespoons of Peanut Butter contains 190 calories and 16 grams of fat - as much fat as in a Burger King hamburger. Now, I'm not saying to eliminate it completely. Just try to limit yourself to a tablespoon or two every OTHER day. It'll make a difference.


OK, as for ME now. I *did* end up with an hour-long cardio workout today, so yay! I even took the time to do a few sets of situps, *tried* to do some pushups (still can't do it properly. My upper body strength is zero), and even stretched properly afterwards for once. Woohoo!

Brandy,

This may be something you've already looked into, but have you checked to make sure you're eating enough calories? if you're exercising heavily, you need more calories just to function. If you don't get them, you actually gain weight because your body goes into starvation mode. That was my problem. I was aiming for 1300 calories a day, but after i lost some weight, i started exercising a lot more and began to put weight back on. I couldn't figure it out until I read it on here. Because of my exercise I can eat 1600/day, which is freakin awesome!! I also found that eating every 3 hours gave me a crazy energy boost and helped me drop weight by keeping my metabolism going. I know it's basic stuff, but maybe it'll help?

Thanks amyleigh and cara. This may be an awful question but how do I know or figure out how many calories I need? And how about watermelon? We bought a whole one because it was much cheaper but I'm the only one who eats it....3 have 2 large containers of it. Is that a bad breakfast?

hi all...i think we all get tired of this nonstop struggle...i was out of control on saturday and sunday...today i reeled myself in and am having a great day...i have to learn that just because theres a get together where food and drink are abundant, its ok to not overindulge...im on a one lb per week pattern and in a way i think that can be really good because every week on plan is another week towards getting away from bad habits....in other words stretching it out can be a path to a better way of life...we all know how to do it but sometimes its so dang hard....thats why we need each other....have a great day everyone!!!

david-congrats on the on day!!! i totally agree one lb/week is perfect for me. i started this weight loss deal up about a year ago and because i aimed for 1 lb/week, i've made lifestyle changes, not just diets. it works so much better. also, i always bring gum to get togethers. i have my first plate, and a bit of dessert, then chew gum the rest of the day, because if i don't i'll be picking at brownies and cookies all day:)

cara- no worries, i can't to pushups either:) i always do the modified ones but i can now do 15 of them without stopping! (baby steps)

brandy- check out www.thedailyplate.com it's through livestrong and calculates everything based upon your weight and exercise. it's not perfect, but it helps me. you can also track all of your foods, and estimate how many calories you burn exercising. it's a great site. i think to get it exact you have to see a nutritionist or doctor, but the website is free (they recently moved homepages but if you go to that one it should direct you to the new one). ps-i LOVE watermelon and eat it all the time for breakfast or snacks:)

I woke up at 10am (oopsie) and it's 11pm and according to MyPlate, I've eaten less than 800 calories today... this calls for a popsicle!!

Hello ladies.. Umm .. I'm new here.. BUt this sounds like im in the right place.. Went down and shot up.. Thats the story of my life.. I'm 21 and in dieing need of a big push..

21 - Welcome!

David - A one lb per week pattern is great as it is progress! Nicely done!

Brandy - I used to use thedailyplate, and it's a great site. I use calorieking now, but you have to pay for it. Paying for it makes me a little more accountable since I can't shrug it off because it's free :)

Cara - I will check out your livejournal :) I can't at work because it's blocked by corporate security... boo! I have a live journal as well, though I haven’t used it in forever. It was my teenage/early 20's drama diary essentially. It's actually quite funny... Anyhoo, I will make sure to find you on there :)

It's 7:30am. I'm sitting at work finishing up my yogurt, fruit and granola. My weigh in today makes me angry, since it's 3 lbs heavier than I weighed in last week. Does anyone else always weigh more on their weigh in day then every other day of the week?? Perhaps I should move it to a different day...

Ah crap. I just remembered the guy who normally makes coffee isn't in the office today. BOO. Maybe I'll just go buy some, the stuff we have here tastes like water anyway because it's a mild blend.

While I was swimming this morning I realized, I should not count the 30 minute swim as exercise calorie wise. I need to consider it mental exercise - as it's really a way to relax myself and stretch out my body. Sure, I burn calories but that's not the main reason I chose to begin swimming again. I can run to burn calories, but I hate it. Swimming is... euphoric. I’ll have to get a second workout in at least 4-5 days a week to count as my exercise.

I’m rambling… I should stop now. Have a great day ladies & gents! :)

mar-exercise is exercise no matter what the reason! as long as it's not "swimming" in my mom's sense as in wading around the pool moving your arms every so often and actual swimming, you're still working out. i do yoga for my mental health, but i still count it as 20 minutes exercise. doing something in addition to that is great, but don't think because you're not thinking about exercising that it's not:)

21-welcome!!

twinkie-popsicle??those things have no calories! go for the fudgcicle:) haha

as for me, i was just rudely awakened by my father banging on my door yelling at me that i was going to be late for the beach. what's the point of vacation if it is exactly like home? did he forget that i hate the beach? i know i'm a horrible person. i love the IDEA of the beach, but i can't stand humidity, salt water grosses me out, i freakin despise sand, and i'm pale as a ghost so sun=pain. i only like the jersey shore cuz there's a boardwalk. i have NO desire to go and sit by the water and have to be in charge of the kids for five freakin hours. no thanks.

instead, i'm going to eat my slimfast bar and pineapple, do yoga, take a nice bikeride down to the lighthouse, take some pictures, and maybe go for a run. apparently i'm "wasting my vacation." gotta love my family. grrr

Marbear : I wish I could do 25 pushups! I'm slowly making my way towards it. I'm doing the 100 pushups plan. (hundredpushups.com) a week by week plan that builds you up from 0 (like me) to a hundred (woohoo). So far, I've had to repeat week one three times, but I'm determined. I WILL make it to 100 in the end. LOL.

amyleigh : I'm pale and freckly, so I understand your aversion of the sun. You are so totally NOT wasting your vacation! (argh, families) Enjoy your bikeride! And if you post the pictures of the lighthouse online, do let us know!

ME : Weigh-in day and it SUCKS. Just like Marbear, I usually weigh more on my weigh-in day. Somebody up there has a twisted sense of humour. I had lost 1.5 pounds during the week (going from 164.7 down to 163.2) but it would appear I magically gained them back while I slept so I weigh the EXACT same thing this morning that I did last week. 164.7 again! Quite frustrating, considering I've worked my butt off and been so careful with my diet. Stupid scale!

Good morning!

So last night was weird. I went to the gym with full intention of walking for 90 minutes, but the treadmill only accepts 60 minute increments. After 60 was up, I walked to the bathroom and got right back on when a HUGE dizzy spell hit me. I was like whoa. I just started TOM and sometimes I get anemic. My months kind of alternate between being tolerable and horrible, and this is a horrible month. I went to Giant and got 4 pre-made hamburger patties and wound up eating two of them. I did the whole eat one, wait and see, and after that I needed the other one. Over points? Yes. Did I feel 100% better - YES. I have to get weighed today, so my diet today is mostly fiber (veggies) and hopefully I didn't gain too too much.

Its off to spinning tonight!

Cara - its been a while since I took the yoga classes at my gym. I'm thinking of getting back into them, especially when I start school again. I'm going to need the relaxation. I have a panic disorder and I don't like to take medication (I have Xanex to use as needed, but I've used it 3 times in a year). Exercise helps keep me balanced.

Hi everyone, I am new to this site. I just started doing weight watchers 2 and a half weeks ago, and i have lost 7 pounds so far. That puts me 24 pounds away from goal of 160. Ive dieted before and lost a good amount of weight but somehow managed to fall off the path. So I was hoping to receive some support. :) good luck to everyone

Hearts - welcome!

David - I clicked on your picture to check out what your shirt said, since your location was Oakland... Should make for some interesting conversations come August/ September - as I am a big ol' Broncos fan :tape: