If you're losing weight, make sure you're doing it for yourself-- to make YOU feel better, to make YOU feel more confident and healthy. Losing weight the healthy way creates confidence, endurance, and opens up people who are self-conscious. Screw men
But still, there's a lid for EVERY pot. If you have to change who you are/what you look like just to get someone's attention, they're not the right person. Don't change who you are to gain someone else's acceptance-- let them accept you for you... and if you want to change because it would bring out the best in yourself, we're all behind ya!
Christine