QTIP.
(Q)uit (T)aking (I)t (P)ersonally.
Now you know the situation best -- you were there and know the man.
Is this a case of man clueless? Cuz they come at everything all "Boot Camp" and think somehow this is helping/supportive? Don't get hung on the words -- look at his feelings
behind the words if you think he's basically a friend with bad communication skills with women.
- "my belly wiggled when I walked" (True enough? ok, clumsy, but then get it go.)
- "I grunt because I have a belly" (True enough? Ok clumsy, then let it go.)
- "I should not be bragging about how much weight I have lost because people would be saying that I need to loose alot more." (How are you "bragging?" And why does it bug him so? Or does people talking about you bug him? Why is HE anxious about YOUR body? Why is he worried about what others say or think about you? That one I'd want clarification on.)
Or is this a case of actual mean?
If former, tell him to knock it off and boot camp his man pals. With his women pals, he needs to talk woman talk or else he comes off sounding like a dunderhead.
If mean, dump him. That's not a real friend.
Either way -- QTIP!!! You were working out and have lost 81 lbs already. A HUGE ACHIEVEMENT most people will never have to do! Including him probably.
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