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Old 06-04-2009, 12:34 PM   #31  
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Everything all the ladies have said above me.

This has NOTHING to do with you. This guy is the type of guy mothers warn their daughters about. Chances are he was married and his guilt caught up to him. I hope to God you realize how much off a jerk this guy is and realize it has nothing to do with him.

Don't try and loose the weight because of this situation. Don't let his dishonest words about your body motivate you. If you want to become healthier then do it for you. Be thankful you came out unharmed and let this be a warning to all those who begin online relationships with men online. You only see the part of that person that the person wants you to see.

I've seen many successful online relationships but please, go into it was caution.
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Old 06-04-2009, 01:21 PM   #32  
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. I agree with what all the others have said--this is not about you! He's a scary, predatory, a--hole. I think you will need support for a while to move on from this, and 3FC can be a great place for that.
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Old 06-04-2009, 01:29 PM   #33  
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I agree that this has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU!!! If you do not lose weight, there are loving, kind, wonderful men who would be honored to be with you!!! My hubby knew me when I was 270, we got married when I was around 240 or 250 and he loves me no matter what size I am, and he is AWESOME!!!

You didn't do anything to deserve this. I am sure this guy was married like some of the others have said. You deserve the same treatment as someone who weight 120 pounds. Do not ever settle for anything less.

If you do decide to lose weight, do it for yourself! Do it for your health and your life and YOUR OWN REASONS. You are awesome!!!
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Old 06-04-2009, 07:49 PM   #34  
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Or you could give us his address, and we'll go round to his place and sort him out for you. There's some pretty fit types on this forum that do kickboxing and the like - and the rest of us can sit on him. Squish.
Riverside, California, his name is Curtis!! lol

Thank you for this, it made me chuckle and I needed that!
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Old 06-04-2009, 07:53 PM   #35  
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Thank you for sharing these videos. They really hit home and help! **hugs**
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Old 06-04-2009, 08:14 PM   #36  
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Wow, you ladies are AWESOME!!!

Thank you all so much for pointing things out that I honestly never thought of and can't believe I didn't think of.

You all are right. He could have hacked me up and hid me from the world.

This happened a few weeks ago and so much has gone through my head. NEVER and I repeat NEVER will I go such a long distance to meet someone. If they want to meet me so bad, they can come here. I'm not doing that to myself again.

I lost weight before all this happened because I need to for medical reasons, that's what I need to focus on again.

I LOVE and adore this community. Thank you all again so much!!!
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Old 06-04-2009, 08:18 PM   #37  
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You'll SO get through this!!!
And you'll be much much stronger for this.

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Old 06-04-2009, 09:33 PM   #38  
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Don't you wish that character building learning experiences didn't have to be so painful? I think you did a great thing by talking about what happened. It would have been very easy to label it "humiliating" and lock it away. But by sharing with us, I hope you can see that you have nothing to be humiliated or embarrassed about. He's the sociopathic creep. There is nothing wrong with you. You learned that you are worthy of someone better, someone that loves you no matter your size. You learned that you deserve to be (and should be) more protective of who you give your heart to - not everyone guy is deserving of it. You learned that you don't need to lose weight for anyone but you. And you learned that support in any form is better than going through it alone.

You are going to be okay...
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Old 06-05-2009, 11:17 AM   #39  
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My friend had a similar experience. The man was telling her that she is love of his life and so on. And did the same thing. After a weekend together he told her she is fat, and that hi is not attracted to her and so on. (To explain-they had sex a few times that weekend!!!). He said that she is ugly, not interesting e.t.c.

And you know what? HE WOLUD DO IT TO ANY GIRL IN HER PLACE. EVEN A MODEL!!! Keep that in mind!

Why? Because he is mentally ill and that is his way to feel dominant over women and to feel good about himself. He enjoy the fantasy and feeling loved by a women and than he is the one who can go away from a woman. Probably he was mistreated by some women before.

My advice to you is that you have to realize that it does not have any connection to you, your looks or whatever. NOTHING! And my best advice is DO NOT CONTACT HIM IN ANY WAY EVER because you will just feed his sick mind and not have any results from his side.

Be smart and forget that poor man. And trust me - he needs medical help, not you. You just have to lose weight and that is easier! OK?
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Old 06-05-2009, 11:20 AM   #40  
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Try to be open anyway. I had a friend that met a guy over internet, left a boyfrend that she sholud merry and merry the man from the internet. They have 2 kidds and she is the happiest girl in the world. And with the first one she was kind of depressed girl. So...there are allways good and bad examples, try to be open in future
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Old 06-05-2009, 11:37 AM   #41  
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Everyone is right here! They only thing I wish to add is we should all go kick his ***!
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