Hurt about it for a while, and then get angry. Turn anger into passion, and use it to drive you forward. You are doing this, and that's the important thing. You're making changes in your life, and you are obviously a strong woman, and you deserve a lot of credit for that.
I can definitely relate.. A while back, after I had just regained 22lbs after hurting my foot and getting depressed, we went to a friend's house for a birthday party. My dh's boss was there and his 5 year old says "How'd you get so fat again, Miss Dee?" just right in front of everyone. I was mortified. How do you respond to these things? Just remember, we can do this... and hopefully the question will one day be How'd you get so skinny??? Hang in there Sandi!
Oh Sandi! I feel so bad for you. I've been there on a couple of occasions...one I remember very clearly at a consignment shop....the saleslady asked me when I was due....sigh....it's SO embarrasing......
I agree with Robin...some day Jacob will be asking questions that you won't have to dread!!!!
With children it's more likely they're just asking innocently,but with adults it's hard to tell.We invited brotherinlaw and his family to eat and when I mentioned that I can never open bottles after husband closes them BIL comments,"It's probaly to stop you from eating!".I was at a funeral last year when my Aunt walked up and started rubbing my stomach,"When the little one due?!!!" She exclaimed loudly.I looked down at her and said,"I'm not pregnant.....just fat."...She laughed and apologized.After this,we decided to develop some photos from Thanksgiving and look at the videotapes from that eventand I didn't even recognize myself.I DID look pregnant....I tell myself now,"Just because you feel or look a certain waydoes not mean it really is that way"I've been lying to myself...I'm not doing that anymore.I look good at 135-140 pounds..until I weigh that much I'm sticking to my plan.Period.
For two years my son (now age 6) had been going around telling everyone that I had a baby in my tummy. I was constantly being asked when I was "due" and getting "congratulations". I gave up telling them I wasn't pregnant, it was less embarassing to both myself and others if I just nodded and smiled.
I know how you feel!!
I've lost almost 20 lbs, and my tummy seems to have gone down a tad but there's still more work to do
I think any of us who are or have been heavy really feel the pain right along with you because we have all been there. I remember when my oldest DD was in kindergarten and a little girl asked her why her mommy was so fat. Actually that was 15 years ago and ironically i weighed much less then than now! It hurts, but don't let it eat you up. Your son loves you and is proud of you, no matter your size.
Mine told me I was the "Big mommy" and she was the "little girl"... And I know it was innocent enough but that stung.
Not to mention that I can't help but wait for a Junior Kindergarten to say something about myself or the one other parent who is not so slim really when we drop off our kids.
I wish for you the comment I had this weekend:
"Mommy... You're just not comfy anymore. HERE! Put this pillow on you so you are more comfy!"
.sigh....it's SO embarrasing......
