Originally Posted by niafabo
It's kinda hard to give you advice when all you say is that you just can't stop eating. You can. No one is shoving it down your throat.
Jeesh. Harsh much? None
of us got to be a fat chick in the first place by picking at vegetables all day, or having willpower of steel ya know. She's down and asking for support from her peers. A quip like that is just hurtful, and since you have been here yourself you should already know that.
Honey we have all been there. That exact feeling of being out of control, feeling like the changes you need to make are too hard, the guilt when you slip that leads to more slips....you certainly are not alone.
Food is a tougher addiction than some can understand. Not to belittle other problems.....but it's not like alcohol or drugs or gambling, in that you can physically take yourself away from the temptations. You don't have to gamble or drink to live- we can't just avoid food.
I have 4 people living in my home that are definitely not on a diet. I have to look at chips and twinkies every time I open up my cupboards to get something to eat. I've had people tell me that it's as simple as just keeping that stuff out of the house because it isn't healthy anyway....but in real life it just doesn't work that way. No one else here has my problem-and I can't force everyone else to never have a treat because I have an issue with self-control.
I have lost this weight many times over and I'm hoping that I have finally found something I can stick with, but I am the last person that can feel entitled to lecture anyone. I can, however, tell you what works for me...and I think that's what you're asking for.
I am addicted to food, sweets in particular. I cannot maintain a loss if it means restricting anything permanently. I will deprive myself right into obsession and end up right back with the mentality you are describing. I have PCOS so I can gain like nobody's business.
I think the trick to getting down the right path is to learn to recognize your weaknesses and work with them. I love junk. If I tell myself I can never have it again it only calls to me all the more.
Make a plan with some structure and accountability. Write down every morsel that finds it's way into your body. Find healthier substitutes for the things you love and reasonably work them into your plan rather than trying to eliminate them altogether.
Know ahead of time what you are going to allot yourself in the course of a day and plan it ahead of time. I know I am allowing myself x amount of points in a day. If I go overboard in the morning, I know that I have to stretch out the rest of my points so that I don't go over. I don't tell myself that I can't have chocolate-I have some every day-but instead of a candy bar I have a fiber one or sugarfree pudding cup, and I have it in the evening while I'm watching tv (when I know the craving will hit).
I think most of us need the structure of some kind of plan, even if it is as simple as calorie counting. No one makes it through without ever slipping. When you have a bad day, forget about it and move on. Give yourself something to do as a substitute for reaction to your triggers....for example, when I feel like I am about to do something that will throw me off track, I make myself come to this site and just read. It takes my mind off the trigger, reminds me that I'm not struggling alone, and helps me keep feeling inspired when I see all the successes.
If you have some more specific problems that you need suggestions for-don't hesitate to post! Most people here are helpful and supportive and plenty have been right in your shoes. The most important thing is that you don't ever give up!!!