Jolly, speed bumps are always goign to be there but look at all the progress you have made! What a difference 51 pounds!! It was one day off, you can get back on! Tomorrow is a new day and a new chance to loss some weight. What kind of stress is it that is keeping you down? Is there an easy fix to it, or is it something you need to tackle before you move on? Hang in there!!
Day 20 is done for crunches and Day 9 will be soon with the journaling as I've been writing things down today and it's almost over...the day, that is. I can't remember whether I did the crunches yesterday or not. I think maybe not, so I took a pause day. Only one more day left til I'm through with this challenge!
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jolly -- I second Pink. Just get up, dust yourself off and start anew. That's all you can do. Beating yourself up, unless you enjoy it, doesn't do anything for you. And yes, you have come so far. What's a binge or two? I'm in a similar situation, shed a few tears wondering if I'll ever lose the weight as it seems whenever I take a bit off, I drink it back on. The beer kind of jumped at me too last night, but heck, I was seeing people I haven't seen in a long time and having fun. I think what bothers me more is that all day long I hung around with someone who never, ever eats, a thin-as-a-rail ex-jockey and the guys were saying how fat she looks. Oh, friggin' give me a break. I wish I was surrounded by big, big people. Then I can at least enjoy what I eat. I hate feeling that eating is bad. It's not bad! And if you want to eat, then do so! Just get that butt in gear and wear it off! No, I hear you. If it's emotional and stress-related, well, there's not much to do but just recognize that you'll have such days, then kick on!
dj -- Congrats on a successful liftoff!
sweet -- Excellent work! Glad to hear you're hanging tough.
Chic -- So happy to hear you were down 2 lbs!! Way to go!! No, we don't do weigh-ins here as the 21-day challenge isn't necessarily about weight loss. But you feel free to post your weight of course and make Monday your weigh-in day. Keep up the good work! Sorry to hear about the knee. Ouch!
JCT -- will write later...
Pink -- ditto that....
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Again, thank you all who mentioned my uncle's death. Your condolences are much appreciated.
Last edited by redballoon; 06-22-2006 at 03:54 AM.
Hey all. just a quick post before i head to the gym.
The stress - just life's little ups and downs really. That is just the excuse. Any little bump in the road, I want to soothe away with food.
What is worrying me is that the last several weeks have been like this. Off and on binging. And the underlying feeling that this is out of my control. It's not. Yesterday's binge was not a social event with more options, that I just couldn't say no to - I drove through the drivethrough for the sweet I was craving. I drove to the store to get the dinner I wanted. I did this. Nobody else. And I am not beating myself up for an occasional thing - I am scared because there is nothing occasional about it lately.
I just don't understand why my mind set has changed. What happened between one pound and the next, that I am not making the healthy choices I was a couple weeks ago? This is what I must figure out.
jolly- some people might think that i am crazy for saying this: it has happened the same thing with me, i kept cheating and cheating and cheating and didnt lose a lb for the longest time...you have accomplished so much more than I have...here is what i did...i took one weekend OFF and ate everything that was in front of me...stuffed myself with the crap that hasnt touched my mouth in months and on Monday i started off with a brand new attitude...just forget about dieting for 2 diets and get it OUT of your system and you WILL be fine... as long as you get right back to your diet and exercise you will do so much better, see and feel the difference...hope it helps you the same way it has helped me!
Thursday morning here. I'm starting out on my last day of my crunch challenge! Will report in later when they are done! Journaling was a wrap yesterday as well, so I am starting out on Day 10 there.
Where is everyone again? Let's get the focus back on the challenges here and see some action!
Later all!
Last edited by redballoon; 06-22-2006 at 04:57 AM.
i did my 21 days yday but i couldn't post last night. i was very cross i typed everything in but the server was down and it wouldn't post grrrrrr
soooooo i have done 21 days without pause of cardio exercise honestly never thought i could do it so thank you everyone who encouraged me, and prodded me to give it a go and stick with it!!! wahoooooooo
i have to go feed the pets and do some stuff so i will be back this afternoon to see how everyone else is going and catch up on the news. looks like lots is happening. i'm not here much during the day as i have so much to organise with my move etc etc
First and foremost: Way to go, Sweet Pea. You rock!
Red, I am here, and trying to focus on my challenges
Rebecca, I pretty much have done that the last several weeks I keep thinking if I get it out of my system, I will be fine. I even took a brief break from here. It just isn't working. I need to find my perspective again.
Pink, I meant to share with you earlier some advice a friend's mother gave me: "you can do miserable alone. If you are with somebody, it had better feel good!" You deserve the best! Don't settle.
I am here. Just trying to get back focused. I think I need to come up with some really small reinforcers for making good choices. Right now, the longer short term goals aren't working. Somehow find a way to reward each day, to build up to a bigger "prize." Any ideas?? I am also considering rejoining TOPS. Again.
My challenges right now:
1) NO soda. Day 3 successfully completed
2) Daily calorie intake under 2000. Day 1 completed.
3) Daily ab/core work at home. Day 1 completed.
I think I will start a 4th one tomorrow -
FOOD PORN ALERT. FOOD PORN ALERT.
4) NO chocolate, with the exception of sugar free fudgicles, and low fat granola bars. Henceforth, this will be known only as no but I wanted to outline my "rules." I will start this tomorrow, as I did have one piece of some high priced someone brought to work. Though, I am happy it was one piece, and I avoided the lesser quality crap that was also there.
So, that is where I am at. Suggestions for how to structure my self reward program would be appreciated. Everyone, have a wonderful day. Take care of yourselves, and remember you deserve only the best!
Day 6 done on exercise done!... starting over on the water part as someone in my house tempted me by bringing home a whole case of just after I had cleared it out of the house... which I of course gave into. I started jogging with my dogs for exercise and am happy to get back into the swing of things... seems like forever ago when I played soccer in high school and ran for miles... but I guess it really hasn't been so long. Anywho to Red and Sweet Pea!! I'm off to work on some papers for class :-(
thank you red!!! i bet you're due for congrats too. amazing i do feel better for the extra exercise. fitness probably only went from 2% to 10% but it's still a big step up
i went to ballroom tonight twice so that was 2 hours of dancing and i'm exhausted LOL. feel like i'm behind time for the packing so have to work on that in the next couple of days
Jolly good look with the no *** if you succeed please tell me how. it is my biggest downfall. for a period i can do fruit but never more than 3 days. i am addicted to sugar. i do have a couple of suggestions. the first is to think about visiting the "chicks in control" section. we have a wonderful group of gals who do a weekly thread trying to be binge free and we all have similar bad habits that are HARD HARD HARD to break.
second forgive yourself. be kind to yourself. as Pink has said you've lost > 50lbs it's a huge achievement. try thinking about the things that have worked well for you (what you've achieved so far) rather than focusing on the things that you are struggling with. you'll get there!!!
jolly - one more thing you could consider is a food journal...
need columns for:
date, time, why you ate (eg hungry, lunch time, bored), what you ate, how full you were when you finished (scale of 1-5, 5 being bursting), how you felt after eating
patterns e.g. midnight snacks, afternoon lethargy, weekly binge etc
mood cycles, when feel better or worse
sorry just some scrappy notes. very tired have to go to bed
Ok, everyone, I am done with the crunches challenge!! Hurrah for me! AND, Day 10 is done as well on journaling....or will be soon. As long as I'm up to date now in the evening..and I am....I'll be ok with that. I started really looking at all the food I stick in my face...oh, and further! I am disgusted that I have sooo much fat on me these days. When I think back some months, I had tons more muscle and less fat...oh well...so I have to remain optimistic, not get that old defeated feeling and just push on, try to still my hand...try to do other things than eat...I can do it....I can do it...I can do it....
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sweet -- Yup, you're right. I've finished the crunches!! And I'm glad you're feeling better with all the exercise you did. You should feel better!! And, yes, it IS a big step. Bravo to you!
Pink -- Well, too bad about the water, but starting over is fine! Excellent work on the exercise. You can get back into shape no matter what your age. Sure, it may not be the same, but so what?! And, I'm sorry to hear about the hard time you're having with your private life..but your attitude indicates you are well on your way to finding someone who is a better fit for you, and, like jolly said, if it doesn't feel good, move on! And, please, pour out anything here. It may take a little while to get back to you...if too long...give us another shout! but yes, we are here for you..or at least I am! It's so nice to have good friends. It's something I miss these days, but I do have good email friends and that's also certain to bring a smile to my face at times.
jolly -- I'm really glad to see you up and fighting...with new challenges and all...aiming for what you can do...not mulling over what you're doing that's not good...50 lbs is HUGE! no pun intended....there are sure to be times when things don't seem to be working...but IF you keep your eyes on where you want to go, you'll get there! I'll ponder that reward program. I need one myself.
dj -- Wonderful! Congrats on logging Day 2! 50 mins.!!!! Wow!!
JCT -- Where are you?! Come back here and post! Have you clinched Day 3 or 4 yet? I hope so!! Yes, thank you for mentioning my uncle. My father had been caring for him a lot recently, as the uncle's mind seemed to be slipping and my dad was worried and was driving in to care for him a lot. It was a big burden for my dad but he did it happily. I'm sure they were close, but my dad is not one to express such things in words...I'm sorry about the boy in your neighborhood. Did you know him well? Was it an accident, illness? How sad...
Ok, everyone, come in and post. Let's hear how those challenges are coming along. Shad, carla, you hanging around out there? Chic, Sushi, MyOwn, Apple, Obsidian, Rebeca, are you there?!
Last edited by redballoon; 06-22-2006 at 06:12 AM.
Good morning all. Just a quick pop in before the gym.
Way to go Red!! Congrats on the crunches. You are doing great!!
Pink, great job on the running. I really should try to start again. Unfortunately, neither of my furry trainers are up to the challenge. That makes it a bit sad too. it is so hard when they age.
Sweet Pea - I do food journal. I will try to add in the whys and hows of when i eat though. That's a good idea.
Everyone else Hope to hear from more of you soon. Take care!
I posted on wedesday about a new challege, but I can't seem to find it.. The work out think isn't going to happen everyday as long as I am looking for houses, so my challege for this board is not buying any food except grocery and the salad for lunch every day. I just seem to be eating anything and everything.
So rather than try and pick and choose I am going to try not eat anything I haven't cooked except my salad.
Will post more, later....
Last edited by Obsidianbbw; 06-22-2006 at 09:56 AM.
1 more day on crunches!! 12 for journaling....
I'm in a similar situation, shed a few tears wondering if I'll ever lose the weight as it seems whenever I take a bit off, I drink it back on. The beer kind of jumped at me too last night, but heck, I was seeing people I haven't seen in a long time and having fun. I think what bothers me more is that all day long I hung around with someone who never, ever eats, a thin-as-a-rail ex-jockey and the guys were saying how fat she looks. Oh, friggin' give me a break. I wish I was surrounded by big, big people. Then I can at least enjoy what I eat. I hate feeling that eating is bad. It's not bad! And if you want to eat, then do so! Just get that butt in gear and wear it off! No, I hear you. If it's emotional and stress-related, well, there's not much to do but just recognize that you'll have such days, then kick on!
Glad to hear you're hanging tough. 
No, we don't do weigh-ins here as the 21-day challenge isn't necessarily about weight loss. But you feel free to post your weight of course and make Monday your weigh-in day. Keep up the good work! Sorry to hear about the knee. Ouch! 
I was craving. I drove to the store to get the dinner 
finish line is right before me!!
Will report in later when they are done! 
Journaling was a wrap yesterday as well, so I am starting out on Day 10 there.
**** 21 days done ****
i typed everything in but the server was down and it wouldn't post grrrrrr
honestly never thought i could do it so thank you everyone who encouraged me, and prodded me to give it a go and stick with it!!! wahoooooooo
I keep thinking if I get it out of my system, I will be fine. I even took a brief break from here. It just isn't working. I need to find my perspective again.
I am disgusted that I have sooo much fat on me these days. When I think back some months, I had tons more muscle and less fat...oh well...so I have to remain optimistic, not get that old defeated feeling and just push on, try to still my hand...try to do other things than eat...I can do it....I can do it...I can do it.... 
It's so nice to have good friends. It's something I miss these days, but I do have good email friends and that's also certain to bring a smile to my face at times.
Come back here and post! Have you clinched Day 3 or 4 yet? I hope so!! 
Yes, thank you for mentioning my uncle. 
My father had been caring for him a lot recently, as the uncle's mind seemed to be slipping and my dad was worried and was driving in to care for him a lot. It was a big burden for my dad but he did it happily. I'm sure they were close, but my dad is not one to express such things in words...I'm sorry about the boy in your neighborhood. Did you know him well? Was it an accident, illness? How sad...
