Weight and Resistance Training - LWL # 212 Week of July 18-24




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Mel
07-18-2005, 08:31 AM
Good Morning LWL :sunny:
Personally, I haven't seen the sun since getting back from Colorado. We are fighting an ant and mold infestation here :p but the grass sure is green for mid-July!

Today I'm going back to my regular split and cardio schudule after a mixed-up two weeks of accerating my split, then just a few full-body session and intermittent cardio. It will be interesting to see how my body reacts. I'm sure I'm going to be sore and tired. :dizzy:

Not very busy at the gym this week- the least 4 "twice a week" clients are on vacation. The good new is it's not so busy...the bad news will be my paycheck next month!

Have a good one!

Mel


LKTS
07-18-2005, 12:21 PM
Hi, LWL!

Mel, it's cloudy here this morning too, which is odd for this area and time of year. Humid yuck! Hope your mold and ants go away soon...

My usual busy schedule this week - for the last two weeks I haven't missed a workout, which I'm really pleased about. I'm doing a 4-day split, a couple Nia classes a week, and some HIIT cardio a couple days a week. PMS kinda grabbed me a bit and I had some not-so-clean food this weekend, but I managed to keep the volumes down fairly well.

Greekgirl
07-18-2005, 01:59 PM
Hi everyone!

A bit belated, but yes to me too you are an inspiration, Sarah.

My weekend after the break-in was no fun at all. Hot hot hot, first, then, on Sunday, I worked the whole day at 100F ( 36 degrees C).
From 10.00 am I mowed the lawn, cleaned the kitchen, did the laundry, and then at 17.00pm, when I thought to go for a swim in our neighbours' pool, DBF, who'd been working on his car in the blazing sun (!), said I shouldn't because there was so much to do still. I am so pissed. But I'm worried more, he's shown more and more signs of diabetes onset: eating more and more sugar and caffeine in huge quantities, combined with not drinking water at all and instead drinking coffee and tea and beer, unreasonable behaviour (nagging) and irritability. No weight gain but even a small loss.
I'm worried sick, especially since his brother has heavy diabetes 1 and let it go until he turned into a disfunctional human being from a brilliant person.
I don't know what to do except for waiting 'till it's too late and he falls in a coma, and I refuse to do that.
The only thing I could think of was to set him an ultimatum: If he doesn't go to the doctor's until September, I'm leaving. I refuse to see him destroy himself out of stubborness and fear. I hope it works.

Wow, sorry I let loose ladies, I guess I need it...

'till soon, sad and unhappy (for once)

Lieke


Ilene
07-18-2005, 02:16 PM
Lieke -- :grouphug: you must have needed the venting because it's not like you to do that, hang in there, hope all is better for you and DBF soon...

Mel -- Mould and ANTS ewwww!!! What do you do for that?

LKTS -- I had a HORRID food weekend too... I was up 4# this morning :eek:....

I've already gone for my Dad's radiation so now I must get myself motivated to get to the gym to do legs...I'll lurk and post here a bit and then I am on my way... Man it's a scorcher here!!! Sure am glad we decided on this year for the central AC and my parents also had it installed, I sure am happy for that because the radiation doesn't seem to bother my dad so much, at least he gets some good rest in...

TTFN :wave: I'll report back later...

JuliaTN
07-18-2005, 05:29 PM
The only thing I could think of was to set him an ultimatum: If he doesn't go to the doctor's until September, I'm leaving. I refuse to see him destroy himself out of stubborness and fear. I hope it works


I know exactly how you feel about wanting to issue an ultimatum, just be sure that you really are willing & ready to follow through with it. It's easy to say it but not always easy to do it when you really love someone - I just ended a 4 year relationship via an ultimatum that didn't really go the way I wanted it to so I really do understand.

It's hard to understand why someone won't just do what they need to do when the bad news would be (relatively) easily manageable AND the good news would be a huge load off your mind:?:

Ilene - 4# OUCH - that's sounds like some good motivation to get back on track.

Have to admit that I'm skipping the workout today so I can take my car to the aforementioned ex's house and make him help me fix it. I haven't seen him in 15 lbs (how's that for a measurement of time) so I may wear something really skimpy so he can see what he's missing:lol:

I did get in 70 minutes of cardio, 30 minutes of lifting and 90 minutes of soccer yesterday so I feel like I'm entitled to a day off.

Mel
07-20-2005, 02:26 PM
Quiet week here at LWL :)
I just finished munching my way through a bathtub of salad greens and broccoli topped with cold ground turkey-black bean-chickpea chili. Yum! I was starved after a long leg workout, then half an hour of moderate cardio on the elliptical. I've discovered how my body is reacting to going back to my regular split and cardio: I'm starving all the time!

Lieke- I hope things are working out for you and BF. My brother is in the process of killing himself the same way. I wish his wife would issue an ultimatum...nothing else seems to be getting through to him. Maybe she's afraid that wouldn't either. In his case, he has a 4 yr old child. I wish that living to see his son grow up would be enough incentive to change.

Julia- Did the ex get a good eyeful of what he was missing? I got a chuckle about how you measure time.

Ilene and Laura- Hang in there!

Where is everyone this week??? Roll call time! Pat, Ellen, Tiki...what's everyone up to?

Mel

EofAZ
07-20-2005, 04:26 PM
Boy it has been a really busy July. I've had my granddaughter visiting me from NY and I've been going a mile a minute trying to make the visit fun, she's 6 years old. She lived with me for 4 years and then her mother re-married and her new Daddy is in the service so she's dearly missed and living in NY State now. Weíve been bowling, visited Seaworld, and attended 2 different bíday parties. Wednesday weíre going to go see Dora the Explorer Live and then two more grandkids (my husbandís) will be here this coming weekend so we plan on going 4-wheeling Saturday. Weíre going to have a blast.

Anyway, my eating has been very good this week, can't say much for the rest of the summer but I've reined in and doing much better. I'm stilling meeting with my PT 3 times a week and making great strides there. He had me on a (new to me) piece of equipment that is kind of like a pull down machine but at an angle, kind of cross between a row and a pull down. Anyway my back is to the weights so I don't see how much he is loading on it and he had me up to 110 lbs last week, I was able to do 8 reps at that weight. I think he was more proud of me then I was of myself. He will be moving to Florida at the end of the month to continue his education and Iím going to really miss him, Iíve learned so much from him. He is studying to become a physical therapist and he will be a great one.

Lieke, venting is very healthy so Iím glad you didnít just hold it all in. Hopefully you DBF will listen to you.

Ilene, Iíve had a bad food year so far. Gosh Iíve been struggling but finally this weekend I decided to give up. It was like I had lost my support around the house and when everyone realized I was going to cancel my appointments with my nutritional counselor it seemed to wake everyone up to how difficult it was becoming around the house. Hence, everyone stopped expecting me to do all the cooking and shopping and Iíve been pretty stress free this week and 100% on plan since Saturday. I havenít been this focused since before Thanksgiving and I feel so relieved.

Mel, We have sunny skies in AZ, in fact we may match our record this week for number of days in a row over 100 degrees. Our monsoons should have started mid June and we had our first rain storm the day before yesterday. It makes it a little too humid but we need the rain so bad Iím willing to suffer. We went out on the patio to watch it rain (rain is special in AZ what can I say) and my husband lit a cigarette as soon as he stepped out the door. He didnít have time to finish it before the rain was over. Pretty typical AZ monsoon type storm.

Ilene, I priced having central air installed this year too, the contractor recommended I not do it because my house was just not a good candidate for central air. All of the estimates came in between $9000 Ė $10,000 so I decided to stick with our evaporative cooler. It works just fine accept during the monsoons and of course that is the hottest time of the year. I did finally find a portable window air conditioner that will fit into our sliding windows so now we can at least have a comfortable nights sleep when the humidity creeps up.

Well Iím going to go warm up my soup and have some lunch.

TTFN,

JuliaTN
07-20-2005, 04:39 PM
Got to the gym late last night, did an hour of cardio, then only had about 15 minutes of lifting before they closed. Might try going to the other branch tonight since they close an hour later -and they have an evil stair climbing machine & a treadmill that goes up to a 50% incline:eek: - it's past time to mix up the cardio a bit so those may be just the things.

Mel- Don't envy you the cold chili but black beans sound like a good substitute. I've always liked the idea of chili but never really eaten it because I HATE kidney & pinto beans.

Did the ex get a good eyeful of what he was missing?
Erm...yes, he was most appreciative (with only a teeny bit of fishing) and I got in a bit of cardio that day after all :p

ellenuw
07-20-2005, 05:05 PM
Sorry Mel - I haven't meant to be MIA. How did it get to be Wed already? Workouts are going well, I know food will follow. I went to the Urologist yesterday for a test and he ended up doing a 'stretch" while he had me there. Hopefully that will "fix" everything. On the other hand, my medical records now show that I have been using my abs to pee, so I guess Pilates has paid off. I wonder if I can write them off as a medical expense, too :lol:

I was stressing this appointment - more fear of the unknown than anything else. My trainer got messed up with our session on Mon so he offered to make it up to me on Tues. My doctor's appointment was at 9, and I was already stressing on Mon (after a 40 min run - imagine how I was before), so I wanted to meet him at 6:30am Tues. DH thought it would help me burn some stress before I went in. Now, my trainer is a real sweet guy, he would give you the shirt off his back as long as it was oh, say, 2pm when you asked for it. I know some of my 9am appointments hit him harder than me - I also know he has a 5:30 am Mon and Fri, so I was very touched that he offered. Yes, I am selfish, and I took him up on it. He was very good to me, pushed me like I needed to be pushed ...and ... ta da ... I did "boy" pushups - 2 sets even!! Woo woo!! Right there on the floor - no Bosu, no Smith, no bench, no knees on the floor ... YAY!! Today was shoulders and legs. Tomorrow is a 30 min run and back to yoga - it has been almost 2 weeks and I am feeling it. Then I have a 10 mile run (5 uphill to the zoo and back) on Sat.

Evangeline - good for you for getting your food back under control. Sometimes we just need to let those around us know we need help. I know my eating has been quantity driven, but with no junk in the house, no real permanent damage. I just got back with a "double" load of produce from Costco - we have been invited to a BBQ this weekend, and now I know I'll take something I can munch on. I hope you are enjoying your time with your granddaughter. But seriously, who is running who? Did she drive you to Seaworld? :lol:

Lieke - I know this is hard, but you needto be true to yourself. He will come around, or he won't, but you will know the ground under you is firm. Good Luck (*hugs*)

Julia, Ilene, Laura: HI! it is hot and humid here, too. I am ready for it to break.

Pat, Tiki, everyone else ... Hey there :wave:

WaterRat
07-20-2005, 06:10 PM
I'm here reporting in. :wave: It's been crazy buzy at work, and lots of stuff going on during evenings and weekend too. Gads, summer is just screaming by and I'm running to catch up. :spin:

I did an upper body :wl: last night, but no time for cardio before a meeting. Oh darn. :lol: I'm going back tonight for legs and some of the :tread:

I had an eating epiphany this weekend too. I won't say that I've completely cleaned up my act, but it's so much better this week than last that I'll say I'm on the way. Need to get to the grocery though. We're out of a lot of my staples, which always leads to trouble. Now I think Mel's cold chili sounds yummy, and in fact that's what I'm making for dinner tonight! I like mine with any kind of beans, mostly it's what I have. :lol:

And a week from tomorrow I go on vacation - a week on a friend's boat in SE Alaska, followed by a 3 day conference in Sitka. Don't hate me. :)

lessofsarahtolove
07-20-2005, 10:24 PM
Hello, ladies! :wave:

Finally checking in after a hectic little time! First off, I want to most sincerely thank Laura, Ellen, Ilene and Lieke for your very sweet words of support. When we reach out to one another on here, writing messages that we hope will impact another positively, we do our best and send it out into the void -- not knowing if it will make contact as effectively as we'd like. It can be a difficult medium. I want you to know that your words went so far in bolstering me and reminding me that it really will all get easier. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. :grouphug

My eats have been stellar, and my exercise, while good, has fallen just a bit only temporarily. I had my port-a-cath removed from my chest two days ago (if only there were a JUMPING banana to express my jubilation!!) The surgeon put the kabosh on exercise that evening and the following morning, and limited me to lower body exercise the following evening -- so I did lower body weights (a little tough because holding the dumbbells pulled on my stitches a bit, but whatever.) Today brought now fewer than 3 doctor's appointments -- including two for my dear partner Lorraine, who, it turns out now officially has Lyme Disease, which has damaged her beautiful heart muscle. :( It caused the muscle to weaken significantly, so it's output is greatly reduced and may call for a pacemaker. It also caused a left bundle branch block. Anyway, we ran around so much today and it was so emotionally draining, when we got home at 8 I just wanted to cook us a healthy meal and decompress. Of course now I regret not having decompressed on the treadmill or exercise bike!

On the agenda tomorrow: another doc's appt. (sheesh! :rolleyes: ) and no less than 50 minutes of cardio, as well as upper body weights. (I'm trying to catch up, so I can get back to my planned 3 x week full body workouts.)

My weights not moving, which I was told to expect, but thought I might escape because I'm so special. ;) I had a nice conversation with the surgeon about it when he had my chest open and was pulling the port out of my main artery! :lol: He explained that the body, after extreme physical stress, dramatically slows its metabolism and retains fat in particular in its desire to preserve itself. How clever our bodies are, no? Ah well, can't argue with that kind of physiological intelligence, even if I'd very much like to reason with it! :dizzy: I'm sure the exercise -- and time -- will eventually convince my body that it's ok to relax, cooperate, and give up the fat. In the meantime, I'll stick with the daily cardio, the 3 x week FB weights, and the 1500 (average -- I cycle them) clean kcals. :dunno: What else am I gonna do?

Lieke, a word to you -- I'm sorry you're at this point with your DBF. I reached that point with my partner and her smoking. I finally gave her an ultimatum (I'd been begging her to quit for 7 years, and she was up to 2 packs/day :( ) I gave her a deadline -- of September, coincidentally -- which she reluctantly, sort of disbelievingly, accepted. Fortunately (or unfortunately, depending on your point of view,) the heart difficulties were discovered and it was first thought that she'd suffered a heart attack. That was enough to put the fear of God in her, and today marks Day 15 of her new, smoke-free life. :smug: I'm so proud of her. I know that when I told her very seriously that I was not kidding, and that I was not going to sit by while she killed herself and held our future -- and my health also! -- in so little regard, she was pretty taken aback. I can only imagine that it was the same for your dear boyfriend. My heart goes out to you -- I know your pain and worry. He'll have to do it for himself, of course, but it's important that he understand that his health has an impact on your relationship and on you, who love him. Big hugs for you. :goodvibes

tikanique
07-21-2005, 11:34 AM
Lieke,

You and the DB are in my prayers. I remember how bad things got when my dad became diabetic. Our house was not a happy one but at that point, none of us understood why. Your DB is lucky that you are recognizing the symptoms and pressing him to get help. Now I pray that he listens and follows through.

Sorry to have been so quiet this week. I have been spending my time at the Harry Potter thread (yes I'm a crazy fan). I was hungover all day at work yesterday (drank1.5 bottles of pinot grigio on an empty stomach) but otherwise, food has been on. Exercise is taking a serious hit in that it doesn't get dark here till 10PM and I am not getting to bed until midnightish so 4:30 AM workouts during the week are non-existent. I wish my gym stayed open later. Oh well, I'll keep up with the running at cheer practice, weekend mega workouts and the clean eating.

Tiki

srmb60
07-21-2005, 02:41 PM
I humbly and plumply creep back in to say hello all. I have been a horrible schlump for waaay too long. Honestly, I've been so back-slidden that I haven't even been here reading. I only popped in because finally, finally I did a fabulous upper body work out today. I've been working on my eating and feel I'm making some progress.
I don't know why I stayed away so long. It's been so encouraging to read here a bit. I must smarten up.

Ilene
07-21-2005, 03:11 PM
SusanB -- YES, smarten up girl :lol: .... Welcome Back !! :grouphug:

Tiki -- Just cause you're not getting into working out at the gym in the AM, sounds like you are doing just fine with running and cheering and workouts on the weekend PLUS clean eats, that's just perfect in my books... Sometimes we have to accept plan B as plan A, for the summer time at least till we have a routine again...

This is what I am doing for workouts these days, plan B, because plan A which for me means a ''routine'' for me is phft out the door!! Plan B isn't so bad after all, just a bit more screwed up :dizzy: :lol:...

Sara -- You are in my prayers with all your appointments... I hope all goes well with you and your partner. Your posts are always very inspiring and I read your blog and enjoyed of reading of your journey... Hang in there...

Like I said I am hanging in there myself... Today, since yesterday I've had a splitting headache... Maybe TOM who knows... or the sun I had yesterday walking around a pioneer type village with the kids, it makes me so happy that even at 15 and 17 they still love to visit museum and do stuff like that with us. Although DS has to bring the new BF :rolleyes:, but that's ok, he's a good kid and at least I know what they are doing when they are with us :s: ... This morning drove my dad to radiation... Then I went to the nursery for more pots and plants and am now taking a break from the sun because I have a headache...

I haven't decided yet if I am going to the gym or just counting the gardening as exercise today since I do not do well with a headache in the gym...

EofAZ
07-21-2005, 04:19 PM
Man, I thought I had a 6:30 appointment last night and it was at 6:00 so I was 10 minutes late when I got to the gym. Fortunately my PT is a great guy and rescheduled me for 5:00am this morning. Now that I think about it maybe he was just getting even with me, but I did get up and have a really great leg day today. He had me do this one move where you stand on one leg, touch the dumbbell to the floor and then stand up (staying balanced on one foot all the time) and press it over head then repeat. I can only do that stupid thing 3 times on each leg before my ankles and the sides of my calves are just screaming at me. If I had both feet on the floor I could have sat there and done them all day long but lift one off the floor and watch out. If any of you need to strengthen your ankles (and he said the hips but I didnít feel it there, probably because my ankles gave out first) this is a really good exercise.

TTFN,

silverbirch
07-21-2005, 05:42 PM
When we reach out to one another on here, writing messages that we hope will impact another positively, we do our best and send it out into the void -- not knowing if it will make contact as effectively as we'd like. It can be a difficult medium.

Thanks for expressing what I often feel, Sarah. It is a difficult medium but we do our best. It is most definitely worth trying to reach out. Words of kindness from people here have made all the difference some days.

I'm in a lurking period and I've been wondering why. I think it's because I can scarcely put one foot in front of the other (illness, tiredness, pressures of time), let alone manage to tell anyone else what I've been doing. But coming here does help.

Glad to see you back again, Sarah. I enjoyed your earlier posts when I joined 3FC just before your illness.

Lieke: you are going through the wringer at present, you poor thing. I am thinking about you, your sister and your DBF.

Ilene: plan A, plan B. I'm talking plan C and plan D here. Is that OK? Is it in the manual?

I can't get to the gymn at all at present so I'm working out at home. Mobility routine, heel stretches and straight leg exercises for the Achilles tendon and knee, rebounding twice a day for cardio, some abs. Periodic, unpredictable, forceable lifting of an angry five-year-old. Fall into a chair and close eyes for a long time.

Food needs more attention (or should that be less?)

Hullo to all you other Excellent Ladies Who Lift.

P.S. Tiki: I expect JKR drinks pinot grigio.

Ilene
07-21-2005, 07:21 PM
Silver -- Plan C and D definitely works as long as something is done....

Gotta go, I still have a headache!!!!! So don't talk so loud k? :sssh:

JuliaTN
07-21-2005, 07:33 PM
First: I have to say that it is amazing what a great community this is. Hugs to Sarah & Lorraine, Susan, Silverbirch, Lieke, Ilene & dad, & everyone else who needs one.

Second: Went to the other branch of the gym last night, managed 20 minutes of the incline treadmill going 20-30-50-10-50-15-50-40% etc at only about 2.5mph. The only thing I can compare the 50% to in real life is hiking the last part of the Chimneys trail in the Smoky Mtns where you have to grab onto whatever brush there is around to pull yourself up - it's that steep. Luckily there is a huge bar at the top of the treadmill to hang onto, otherwise I would have been in a heap in the floor:dizzy: . Also did about 25 min on the "Gauntlet" stair climber.

Tried to do some lifting after that but I just wasn't feeling it so didn't accomplish much there. I think being at the "wrong" gym I was just enough out of my comfort zone to be a little off kilter. About to leave to go back tonight and try for a real workout.

I think my problem is that I need some structure and more discipline. I find myself just sort of wandering around the gym until I see something that I want to do instead of buckling down and doing what I need to do. Hmm, will have to ponder this further whilst I do my cardio.

Tiki - The other night I had a Smirnoff Ice Watermelon flavored thing (someone left it after a party). I would *rather* have had 1.5 bottles of wine on an empty stomach than that awful cack, blech.

srmb60
07-22-2005, 09:08 AM
I had one of those cooler things one time that tasted like kids cough medicine. It was vile! Give me a nice big glass of Yellow Tail any day.
Today is legs, which is normally my favourite. For some reason, I'm sitting here still in my night-shirt, thinking what a chore it is to get dressed. Goofy, I know.
I made a super duper effort on eating yesterday and did OK. If I hadn't got into the tortilla chips after dinner, my percentages would have been great. I'm taking my Mom out for lunch for her 75th birthday today (ooo restaurant food) and then I plan to scour some fancy grocery stores in London. Maybe I'll come up with some awsome proteins. New fish?

tikanique
07-22-2005, 11:00 AM
Hi all,

I guess we are grown ups. I used to LOVE coolers but now? No way Jose.

Hugs to all that need them and hugs to those that don't. A good hug never hurt anybody, right?

For some DUMB reason, I woke up at 1:00 AM and started working on a cheer. Finally finished it and then went back to bed at 4:30 AM. Then I dreamed about cheering the rest of the night. This is getting to be weird.

Tiki.

ellenuw
07-22-2005, 12:36 PM
Hello all - just a fly by to say all is well and I hope you all have a great weekend

silverbirch
07-22-2005, 05:32 PM
Quick post to let you know that rebounding is *the* way to go. I managed 13 mins this morning and 14 mins this evening. This is good progress.

btw Ilene, nice to see your DS isn't quite as shy as this time last year.

Ilene
07-22-2005, 06:03 PM
btw Ilene, nice to see your DS isn't quite as shy as this time last year.When I read that silver I had to go back and re-read what I had written, and good grief it's DD who brought the BF on the day trip :lol:... What a typo that was :) ... Unfortunately DS is still shy but he's come a long way, he's now a certified lifeguard with NO lifeguard JOB, but that's ok, that's in the works...

silverbirch
07-22-2005, 06:08 PM
What a typo that was :)

Ah!

Sashenka
07-22-2005, 06:54 PM
Ilene,
When I read about your 17 y.o. son and his BF I thought - well, probably he has to move to Vancouver where everything is much easier for boys and their BFs :) Funny, we are now so used to announcements of gay marriages that I did not even have a second thought about your typo mistake. Now however I am glad it was your daughter, not son! Even though it happens all over the place, I am still way to conservative!
On the other note - when kids are teens everything happens so fast that it does not make sence to stress out about it. It took me longer to get used to my DD asian BF than for her to swith to italian BF. Now I don't care as I am sure at age 15 it does not matter!

Sandy.

Mel
07-22-2005, 07:51 PM
:rofl: I guess I don't read very carefully!

JuliaTN
07-23-2005, 01:50 AM
I noticed but I just thought, "good for her not making a big deal of it."

Greekgirl
07-23-2005, 11:31 AM
Hi everyone, first of all, thank you all so much for your support, because although I have not been able to post this week due to clogging PC's at home and a frantic situation at work, I have been sneaking in and reading the thread anyway.

Things have gone upwards again and started to do so from Sunday onwards. DBF got a real scare I guess, but still refuses to have me make a doctor's appointment, saying he will look at it himself. I wonder what to scare him with so he goes.
That said, I had a good week, with my sister coming to stay for a few days and having a look around the neigbourhood.
We went to a cave near us, which was a nice surprise, went to town (no shopping alas, because no money) etc.
They left this morning to go back to The Hague (NL) so I'm a bit sad.
One other good thing: I have a job interview on Monday morning at 09.00, I hope it works out as it sounds the kind of job I'd be good at (customer service and product tracking).
My lookout on life has changed over the years and this past week, but I will not let go of the things that are important to me! Anyway, I feel a lot better for having found that out about myself.
Gym: no gym at ALL this week, BUT: went up about 700 steps (in the cave) and did another 4 hours of walking up-and downhill in Lyon, both times no sweat...
Next week is the last week before the gym closes for 3 weeks, so I have to figure out someting else. Might buy myself some weights when I get paid, everything is on seasonal sale these days...

Ilene, When you read this, I'm thinking of you...

Julia, I hope DBF does listen, he's so stubborn you can never tell. If I know him, it'll be his own idea in a little while.

Sarah, thank you for your words of support and the hug, DBF does smoke too and I HATE it! I believe that's what got my mother down. All around him people are stopping and he just goes on. He does smoke outside now, though. I wish I could make my DBF do the same as you made your partner do. On the other hand, women are so much more reasonable than men, AND they usually listen to what you say, too...

Hello to you Silverbirch, I was wondering what had happened to you lately!

Bye for now, next post will be Monday at the latest, to let you know about the job interview

Lieke

PS. you know how the French pronounce: PIZZA HUT?
PEETzzahh 'uTh... when I had finally understood what chain was meant (radio ad) it had me in screamers for 10 minutes on my way to work...

Ilene
07-23-2005, 04:28 PM
Greekgirl -- I just remembered something that my Mom does with my Dad when he won't go see the doctor.... SHE makes the appointment and tells him if it's the wrong time or for whatever reason HE wants to cancel it, HE has to call to cancel... Sneaky, but it worked for her, and Dad has never cancelled... Worth a try anyways....

Julia -- If one of my kids where gay it would not bother me in the least... I think a tattoo would bother me more :lol: .... The way the world is changing these days though, the tattoo probably wouldn't bother me that much, but I wouldn't like it specially if it were a big ole obvious one :o !!

JuliaTN
07-23-2005, 07:04 PM
Lieke- good to hear you are feeling & doing better. Good luck on the interview.

I just have to vent a little - the ex came over to my house last night, saw my scale in the kitchen and got all excited saying that he hadn't weighed himself in ages. Do you know that scrawny thing only weighs 133#'s? How disgusting is that?

SHE makes the appointment and tells him if it's the wrong time or for whatever reason HE wants to cancel it, HE has to call to cancel
My mother tried that with my sister when she was about 6. She was PAINFULLY shy and wouldn't even order in a restaurant but would instead whisper what she wanted to my mother. Mom tells her "If you don't want to go the dentist you'll have to call and cancel the appointment" never dreaming that she actually would. Well, she went straight to the phone and did it.

I'm not going to talk about food or exercise. Today I went to the funeral mass for a good friend who died last week & I've had trouble getting motivated to do anything other than eat comfort foods (probably also the reason that the ex was at my house last night - do the words "don't drink & dial" mean anything?).

tikanique
07-23-2005, 11:11 PM
Lieke,

I was glad to see your post, glad your sister came to visit and glad about your job interview. I hope all goes well with your DBF and the job interview. I especially liked Ilene's idea. That might work.

Julia, I always drink and dial. In fact on Tuesday night I called up a fav cousin who has been missing from a lot of family functions due to his new girlfriend and told him he was P-whipped. Luckily, he isn't mad and just laughed at me instead. I can't wait to go to Tennessee next week to visit him.

I spent about 20 minutes this AM at the track, 40 working legs at Ballys then spent the rest of the day in a pool at DD's birthday party. I bought a new swimsuit today SIZE 10 and it felt great knowing I looked normal in a swimsuit for a change. I hurt my leg trying to do somersaults off the diving board but will still get my butt into the gym tomorrow.

Good night all, I need to go take some drugs for this leg.

Tiki.