Would you rather be THIN/BEAUTIFUL or SMART? I know I've read surveys in women's magazines and the majority polled say they'd rather be thin/beautiful? Is that so?
I've always felt that I was more on the smart side then the beautiful side although for the most part I like my tall figure (less the belly blob I'm working on) and my looks (despite a few quirky flaws).
Being smart and into business I've downplayed my looks, wanting to be respected for my mind. But now getting a bit older I'll admit that I'm having to "work" more at being attractive - in the old tall/thin days I could wear anything without much thought, now it's more about certain colors, clothes to hide flaws, blah, blah to feel confident.
Do few women have it all - smart and beautiful/thin? What does it seem it's one or the other?
Maybe everyone wants to feel beautiful in whatever way they define beauty. Perhaps it's a natural longing that emerges from within each of us in response to who we truly are at core - which I mean in a spiritual sense (according to my spiritual beliefs). Or maybe there are different longings for beauty - some that come from deep down inside, others that result from us wanting to be loved, desired, wanted, and even others in response to wanting something like the power that beauty represents, for example.
I want to be beautiful and smart (I am beautiful and smart?). Do I want to be thin? Sure, but that's more on a surface level. Deep down, I want to be beautiful, healthy, wise, loving, joyful, and loved
I'm not sure how much that answers your question I took a slightly different take on it I guess
Last edited by beautifulone; 07-28-2008 at 02:12 AM.
i'd rather be smart. For the most part, there is a person out there who will like you regardless of your looks, but to get far in the world in terms of career (im quite career driven ^_^) you need a bit of intelligence
I value intellect way above looks. I also believe that thin doesn't always = attractive. Beauty is not just about what's on the outside but is the whole package.
I would much rather be intelligent than slim/beautiful. In the past, when dating, a man could be hot as all get out, but if he opened his mouth and had an IQ of 70, it was a real turn off.. looks fade with time. no matter how attractive you are, it will fade. Have you ever seen someone you thought was so hot as a teenager and you see them now and go 'oh my god'? lol...
Im going to opt for Healthy and intelligent for my choice
If I were thin/beautiful RATHER than smart, I wouldn't worry about being valued just for a body because I'd be dumb and wouldn't be able to figure that out, right?
So, because I'm a smart lady over thin/beautiful, I elect to be dumb, ignorant-and-blissful, and get all the attention I want! Yeeha.
I think it depends on when in my life you'd ask me. I used to turn heads in my 20's and early 30's, and I was always thought of as pretty. I'd have people approach me on the street to comment on my looks (now, I would think that's creepy). I'm glad I had those experiences, so I can't say that I would never have wanted to be gorgeous. However, now I'm 40, and I just do not look as good as I used to. My looks started fading in my late 30's (lost a good deal of hair, wrinkles started forming, gravity kicked in w/ my body, etc.). I'm still attractive, but I'm not pretty (at least in my opinion). I'll admit that the dearth of comments & looks has been a tough pill to swallow, but I've gotten used to it. So, since I've had the experience of being pretty already, I think I'd choose smart because smart lasts longer.
I have always been of above average intelligence-I skipped a grade in school and could have skipped more than that-but my parents did not want me to be too much younger than my classmates. I was 16 when I was a senior, and I have scores that qualify me for Mensa. I am not currently a member, although I receive their mailings. I have not yet found the time to go and get it all done officially. Someday I will.
I would definitely rather be smart. If you are smart, you have so many more opportunities. I am also aware that I can ALSO be thin/beautiful if I keep working at it.
I normally don't watch shows like this, but on one episode of Judge Judy, she told a young lady that "Beauty fades...DUMB IS FOREVER!" So, so true. There are many times when I want to say this to people.
I would rather be smart, because honestly, if you are beautiful and dumb...what happens when you turn 60, 70, 80, 90? You are not always going to have the face, hair, and body that you did when you were young, and if you get by on your looks...what do you have to offer when you are 80?
(I keep telling this to my younger brother who tends to date dumb, beautiful girls...)