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Originally Posted by facingfacts12
I need to clarify ladies (and gentlemen) that this really has not been in the vein of keeping a "secret" from my husband. So not like something horrible I am keeping from him, but about not feeling comfortable to tell him right now that I weigh more than him and would rather not say until I am in a better place (weight wise). This is "not-comfortable" thing - analogous to if I'm in the bathroom doing a number 2, I'm not exactly comfortable with him standing there with me - doesn't mean I'm keeping some "secret" from him.
Obviously he knows I am overweight but I don't feel good right now about saying the number and him going DANG you weigh more than me??! And then I would feel awful about it and not exactly be able to change it overnight. I'd rather first get to a better spot and its easier for me to tell him in hindsight.
I don't see anything wrong with that
and he too understands that I'd rather not say right now. He is perfectly understanding of that too...
just wanted to clarify on that one!
We are all different and its great when someone wants to share that number with their partner, but also I think its ok if one isn't comfortable sharing either.
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i can empathize with you a lot here. its not so much a numerical thing as it is a comparison thing. my BF doesnt care how much i weigh, he'll never ask, but i weigh a lot more than him so it would astound him lol.
even my doctors are surprised when im weighed at their office. i dont look my weight, im 6 feet tall, big boned and solid, i carry it well. well, as well as you can carry it i suppose.
he doesnt know, no. and he wont. ill tell him my accomplishments and maybe the start weight when i reach my goal weight haha.