At 38 I've lived my whole life this way. My brother is a year younger, but 11 inches taller with a much more active metabolism. I grew up watching him eat an entire pizza followed by a gallon of ice cream—and then a huge dinner an hour or two later.
For the past 14 years I've dealt with the same thing with my boyfriend. He's 6' and under 135 lbs. at 50 years old, and yet he eats and drinks constantly.
That's life. But, honestly, the hardest thing for me isn't not eating and drinking the way he does. It's convincing him not to try to pressure me into eating and drinking like he does. He just can't wrap his head around the fact that, while I can eat a lot and maintain at a normal weight because I work out long and hard, I have always had a goal to be slimmer. And I also don't want to spend my entire life in the gym—nor does he want me to. He'll tell me to work out less, and I'll end up trying to make him see that he can't have it both ways.
Last edited by Petite Powerhouse; 01-18-2012 at 02:02 PM.
I think what people tend to forget is that they also feel hungrier than we do. Well, I should say, they feel as hungry eating their huge amount of food as we do with our little amount of food if we are both in the maintenance of weight eating. So, while we go, "man, he can eat 4 slices of pizza and not gain and I can only eat 2." he will feel as full 2 hours later as we do 2 hours later and that can be the same uncomfortable hungry feeling.
My husband is not overweight either, but that don't mean that he can eat all junk, cause being in a normal weight does not mean that person is healthy , so i make him to eat healthy as well. One day in the week we both eat some kind of fast food high in carbs and sugar, but just one day.
I'm the same to a point. When my boyfriend has crisps or chocolate or coke, I have it, so we have about the same that way. And at night if he says he's hungry I often join him in eating regardless of my hunger.
But meal wise he eats less than me. If we make a sandwich he is full on 2 slices of bread whereas I need at least 3 slices or if we had a cooked meal he'd only eat 1/2 to 3/4.
I should probably take his idea with the meals and stop if I'm full (I was brought up not to waste food) but ignore it when he goes for 'bad' food.
My husband is not overweight either, but that don't mean that he can eat all junk, cause being in a normal weight does not mean that person is healthy , so i make him to eat healthy as well. One day in the week we both eat some kind of fast food high in carbs and sugar, but just one day.
My boyfriend eats healthy as well. He told me it is my influence that has turned him into someone who works out and eats right. His body fat percentage is significantly lower than it was when we met, even though his weight has really not changed. This makes me proud. And it makes up for knowing I can't eat as much as he can without consequences.
Oh man.. do I empathize with you! I have SUCH a hard time. My hubby always feels bad when he is eating something I want, but he is an extremely picky eater, so I can't ask him not to eat what he wants since there is so little he will eat. I have to make adjustments, and sometimes it is so hard I actually break down into tears (he has only caught me once or twice).
Last night he had a big arsed bowl of ice cream with caramel sauce on it and asked me to join him on the couch for some Dr. Who. I had to avert my gaze entirely so I wasn't watching him eat and then I sat at the far side of the couch. He asked me why I wasn't cuddling and I just kinda pointed his general direction. He felt awful and I know you know how I felt.
It can be a daily struggle, and sometimes I do give in (this morning I had one glorious bite of his McDonald's hash brown) but it is rare.
My rambling point? Be strong! You are not alone and it can be done.
My husband has never been overweight. He can not eat a cookie one time and lose ten pounds. I will admit he mostly eats healthy, much healthier than I do. Especially when we eat out. I guess all this is good for me cause if he were a bad eater I would weigh 500 lbs easily.
Yup, life isn't fair. My husband can eat tons of food and look good in slacks, I can eat a moderate amount and look good in a skirt. What's there for me to complain about, really?
