Hello everyone. I'm not sure if I should be posting here. I am around 290-292 pounds but that is where I'm starting from. I'm not sure what my end goal is. I'm thinking maybe 150-160 pounds but what's more important to me is how I look and my dress size. Anyway, I have not really started on a diet plan yet (I hate to think about feeling deprived but that's a whole other conversation) but I am hoping to soon.
@curves, so glad you found us! You definitely belong here!
For me, finding the right eating plan that I could live with took time. There are so many diets out there, and when I couldn't make one work, I felt like a failure. So there was a lot of that attitude that had been ground into me and it took forever to rewire my brain to recognize when I was making good healthy choices and succeeding at it.
I finally learned that I needed to eat and live to support how I wanted to feel and not to eat in a way that would drag me back to a way I didn't want to feel any longer. For me, nearly all processed food makes me feel bad, fresh organic produce makes me feel good. Getting enough sleep is important to me, because when I'm tired from lack of quality sleep, it soon starts a cascade of events (anxiety, frustration, low energy) that just leads to more unhealthy eating. Other things that lead me to making poor choices...drinking a lot of alcohol, surrounding myself with people who seem to need me to stay fat, or people who want me to enable their poor choices. They all lead to eating more crap! I have new friends now, like our little gang here, and my friends at the Pilates studio I go to, that encourage me to make healthy choices.
I'm creating and experiencing joy in my life these days. And I'm learning to savor it and live in those moments. That way, my brain is getting wired to remain happy rather than being in a constant place of anxiety and pain. There will always be pain in life, and it's there to remind me to do something to change or fix it.
Oh my! I am full of myself today! I'm going to go have some fun with my kids. I just bought more fireworks than I ever have before, so tonight we're going to enjoy it all!
@geoblewis Yeah, it was seeing that I was in the 300s that really pushed me into action!! (well, that and a holiday to Las Vegas 6 weeks ago, which was "eye-opening" to say the least lol).
@findingmycurves Hi!! I feel the same as you. I can roughly say I want to get down to around 10 stone, but to be honest, my dream is to get back to being a size 12, so whatever weight I am when I hit that, I'll be at goal.
I feel like I'm at a horrible stage now where I really want to lose all this weight, but it just seems so hopeless because of how big I am.
Last edited by skinnykittycat; 07-04-2011 at 09:23 PM.
I too wonder how on earth I will lose all this extra weight I carry about, think we all do, but at the moment I focus on today, and try not to spend too much time fretting about how to string 365 days together to get to where I'd like to be, a bit like AA and all that 12 step stuff, let's all get through today!
And once through today, know that by a tiny fraction :
our blood pressure is better, our liver is happier, our skin will be clearer (water) our clothes will be looser, and our mind will be rest happier ( no guilt, no oh I'm so stupid/fat/lazy thoughts) because WE HAVE ACHIEVED SOMETHING WONDERFUL - A WHOLE DAY OF THE BEST CHOICES WE CAN MAKE.
And - On to tomorrow...
Hello everyone. I'm not sure if I should be posting here. I am around 290-292 pounds but that is where I'm starting from. I'm not sure what my end goal is. I'm thinking maybe 150-160 pounds but what's more important to me is how I look and my dress size. Anyway, I have not really started on a diet plan yet (I hate to think about feeling deprived but that's a whole other conversation) but I am hoping to soon.
Hi there =)
Woah woah woah woah.... *cue record scratch*
Feeling deprived? NEVER! I have never once felt deprived when eating healthfully. I mean it sincerely. I've eaten out at restaurants. Had sushi. Had fast food. Eaten desserts.
If you really want to eat healthier for the long-term, let go of thinking you need to feel deprived. Feeling deprived leads to misery. Misery leads to complacency. Complacency leads to weight gain. Weight gain leads to quitting.
End the cycle. Choose a plan you can LIVE with. Not one you can only diet with. There's a difference!
Can we the same things we used to? Yes and no. Yes. You can still have foods you love. No. You cannot eat endless portions of them.
There's something to be said for finding a perfect balance for your life. This morning I had an egg & cheese on a bagel. Someone might be thinking "Gosh that's got a lot of calories for breakfast." Except it didn't really....
My egg & cheese on a bagel was actually: 100% egg whites, a slice of swiss, and a bagel SLIM (which is half the size of a regular bagel).
I pretty much cut the calories in half while still eating something sooo delicious. I'd feel deprived, too, if I thought I could never eat that again.
The site might be called "3 Fat Chicks on a Diet", but I'll tell you what... most people here aren't on a diet. We're making permanent changes in the way we eat and move. No end date. This is forever.
Hey Nebu You should be thrilled to have kept that weight off! I'm slowly making my way down into this thread, but have been keeping my eye on the prize and will hopefully be an official resident shortly.
Well, yesterday was another reminder of why I need to lose this weight. It was ROASTING hot (well, maybe I felt it more than most) in Glasgow and like a "normal" person, I decided to walk home from town with my shopping........what a disaster.
I'm 24 years old and I started getting all sweaty within about 2 mins. I was trying to breathe quietly whenever I passed people and that just made it worse. I think because I sit around so much, I don't realise how truly unfit I am......even though it should be obvious, given that I'm carrying about 12 extra stone than I should be.
Seriously, I'm never going to let myself have to suffer another summer like this.
I was just on another weight loss and fitness support website that I frequent and one of the leaders was doing a rant about how fat people should pay more for stuff, and pretty soon, but the end of his little rant, we were responsible for the downturn of Western society. I guess he thought that since he was thin and his site was all about being thin and beautiful and perfect that anyone who wasn't thin wouldn't be reading this. The women on the site have all been very helpful and supportive to me, but I never thought much of the men. This kinda confirms my suspicions that this guy only sees the purpose for us girls with a rather limited eye. I will avoid his posts from now on! Grrrr!
I indulged all weekend. I am afraid to step on the scale, because I sooooooo don't want my vision to be thwarted by that stupid number on the scale. I move forward, back to healthy choices today! You're right T! Focus on the choices in the now!
Nebu, so happy you can join us! But you have to leave that "should" at the door. It'll get messy if we're all should-ing all over ourselves in here. You need to feel exactly as you are feeling, and that's good. Honor how you are feeling. Yes, be happy about your progress, but don't be complacent. It's what keeps you moving forward with your effort. It is frustrating to hit a plateau! Six months is not a plateau that feels good. It'll test you! I plateaued around 320 lbs, for three years. Oh my lord! I was so frustrated, in tears, angry, remotivated, determined, then frustrated, etc.... Over and over. I resisted changing some things, lived in denial about how much I was eating vs how much calories I needed to cut vs how much exercise and what type I was doing. Then finally, the weight started to come off again, and then I hit another plateau within 20 lbs! I think this is just how the weight loss thing is going to be for me. If I start hanging on to how I think things should be, I'm going to be so frustrated, and I don't want to live in that place when I have so far to go.
I'm going to practice being happy today. Because that helps me eat less. Hope everyone has a happy day!
@geoblewis A lot of people sadly do think like this, that fat people are somehow "lesser" and automatically lazy.
While I do agree that it may be frustrating for someone who is thin to listen to an overweight person talk about how hard it is to lose weight (in their opinion, all it takes is "eat less, exercise more"), it hardly ever is about wanting to eat loads for the sake of being greedy. In most cases, it's emotional and the eating is providing a comfort.
@skinnykitty, Glasgow in Scotland? Or in Kentucky? "Hot" would definitely be defined differently, depending on which one you're in. I went to Scotland one summer and "hot" was not what I recall experiencing.
I participate in a program to help people uncover their emotional need to overeat. In the program, the need to overeat is defined as a survival circuit, and participants are told not to try to eliminate or change it while still working on it because they have yet to establish the new behaviors that will take its place. So yes, overeating for comfort, not something to just let go when it serves a purpose!
I was just on another weight loss and fitness support website that I frequent and one of the leaders was doing a rant about how fat people should pay more for stuff, and pretty soon, but the end of his little rant, we were responsible for the downturn of Western society.
I hope he stays "thin and beautiful", because he sure isn't smart!
Oh Lovely, well, he is smart, but young and so not wise or capable of emotional intelligence. He reminds my why I'm so NOT going to date (or marry) any sort of a scientist ever again! Life is still all about the numbers for him.
I remember going to a shrink for a referral to a weight loss specialist shrink in my 20s and he said " have you tried eating a less and doing a little exercise?"
WHAT? REALLY? EAT LESS? You ARE kidding me, would that actually work???? Quelle Surprise!!!!!!
And this from a shrink......so what chance so-called "normal" people.....
I so agree Georgia, I don't have a "diet". I follow a low GI style of eating, and try to make good choices. Some times that might mean a small piece of chocolate cake, sometimes it means picking the fruit salad. Sometimes it meaning having pasta, sometimes it means having veggies with pasta sauce over them instead. I don't count or check or weigh, I try really hard to eat well, think about the health science behind my choices. I eat enough good foods to keep my body running well and make me feel happy too?
I know that sounds very poncy but I'm 53 now, and I need to look after my health, that has to start out weighing skinny jeans as a priority. Health first also means no silly crash " eat only yoghurt and cabbage" diets.
Soooo, in essence I try to not feel like I'm on a "diet". I've tried a hundred million squillion ( no exageration) of them, and this is the only thing that works for me - except last time I stopped, started thinking about what I wanted to eat, allowed myeself to start thinking, oh I've missed out on this and that, and lost the plot and put all the weight back on....sigh
So, this time, I need to do this for my health, I'm no spring chick anymore....
You should be thrilled to have kept that weight off! I'm slowly making my way down into this thread, but have been keeping my eye on the prize and will hopefully be an official resident shortly.
