Humpety Hump Day Thread
 

Good morning!

Ok, now that the thread is started...

We've been so busy here lately, I feel like I can hardly keep up. But I made a deal with myself to try to spend less time on the computer throughout the day and more time playing with Aaron. He will be two next month, and it's just starting to hit me how fleeting this time really is,and I need to make the most of it.

Atkins continues to go well. I have had some planned cheats, but I am able to get right back up on the horse afterward, so I'm not going to cry my eyes out over that one.

Question for you all: How much would it bother you if your spouse or significant other was overweight? Honestly? I am married to a thin person who has always been thin and mentally, I can't see how on earth he could be attracted to me. But then I think to myself, if he were overweight I would still have no trouble being attracted to him. Just something for us to think about when we start putting our value as people in terms of how much we weigh...

Gotta go get the boys, big and small, out of bed!

Morning Jayne,

I think with your question it would depend how he was when I met him. If he was overweight to begin with and I was attracted to him, then it probably wouldn't make a difference. If after being together for a long time he gained a lot of weight, I probably wouldn't be AS attracted, but the personality and my feelings would make him more attractive. Does that make sense? I know what you mean though, I can't imagine that anyone would be attracted to me when there are so many thin, in shape, pretty girls out there. But then again, maybe that's why I'm always single.

I really feel like eating today. I had 2 slices of pizza last night, not really sure how many calories, they had some sort of soft cheese, maybe ricotta and tomatoes. But my manager was just talking about how the team is going to my absoulte favorite mexican restaurant tonight for dinner (I already have plans), and now I am just ravenous! I'm eating watermelon and already had breakfast, but I feel like I just want to EAT.

good morning ladies!

TTOM has hit today with a vengeance and the LAST thing i want to do right now is exercise. but it does usually make me feel better if i do a light to moderate workout. and i am determined to reach my goals this time so as soon as i'm finished posting here i'm gonna hop on my mini-stepper. unfortunately i also just feel like eating and eating and eating (so i know how you feel Lexxy!!!!!!!):ink:

Jayne - regarding your question...my BF is overweight and at first i didn't know if i'd be attracted to him physically. but as we got to know each other i saw the wonderful person he is and now when i look at him THAT is what i see...i don't see the fact that he probably should lose about 40 pounds. i think it is just variable depending on whether you are attracted to the person in other ways...usually if you are they end up becoming more attractive to you physically. does that make sense??? ;)

ok..time to get moving!!!

hugs,
Emily :strong:

p.s...Jayne I was looking at the photos thread and Aaron is ADORABLE!!!

Hey girls - I have a sec to put in my 2 cents. I have a thin b/f and I wonder the same thing too - but we have sex less now that I am thinner than when I was bigger and we first started dating (the natural slowing of hormones). Iwonder if he is attracted too...

But my last b/f, he was about 200lbs when we first started to date, mabye less - he was 15 then we dated for 8.5 years. By the time we stopped dating, he was 310lbs. Quite a jump. And I was actually repulsed by him. Part of it was the weight, but also the fact that he wouldn't buy clothes that fit him, he'd wear ripped up, too small clothes. Also, his peronal hygene as less than stellar. And his personality and lifestyle (ie; he could have openend his own porn shop with teh videos/mags he had). Ugh, I feel dirty just thinking about it. After awhile, I refused to have any relations with him and kissing him made me ill. That is when I knew!! Time to run screaming. And I did.

So, the moral of the grotesque story is- sometimes weight has somethig to do with it, but there are MANY other factors such as persnality, compatibility, hygene, takign care of oneself, that come into play!

:p

BBL to post properly!

Jayne, Kierie - how do you feel about a trip to the U.K.? I gotta colleague over there that I need you to open a can of whopass on.

Jayne - Truthfully - even at my highest weight (nearly 200 on a 5'3" frame) I never dated an overweight guy. I'd like to think that it was because none ever asked me out but truthfully, I can't ever remember being attracted enough to an overweight male to work up the courage to ask him out. However, it always seems to me that guys get hotter the longer I date them. So I imagine that if CB (also naturally normal sized) gained weight, I'd probably still be attracted.

Lexxy - I too want to eat today. Correction. I want to munch. I woke up ravenous. I'm thinking about giving myself a break today. No all out eat everything awful in sight but I think I'm going to allow a mini candy bar for a snack instead of carrot sticks.

I have a question for all of you. How do you feel about the men in your lives going to strip bars?

CB was recently invited to a bachelor party at one. He wanted to go but didn't because I was uncomfortable with the idea. This Friday he's going out with the guys to a bar that has "lingerie modeling" during the cocktail hour. (BTW - this isn't his modus operandi - these 2 occasions are the only time in the last year it's come up.)

I really want to be the cool girlfriend who doesn't care if he goes to a strip club on occasion but I'm not that cool. And I actually trust him. I don't believe that he'd do anything to hurt me or jepordize our relationship. I just don't trust his buddies. They all still act like he's a free-wheeling single guy (one of them offered to buy him a lap dance at the bachelor party.....in front of me). So I'm not cool. I have it in my head that when you are part of a committed monogamous (sp?) relationship that you don't participate in any sort of sexually intimate (i.e. lap dances) activity with any one else. I also believe that out of respect to your partner you avoid putting yourself in situations that could be construed as inapprorpriate.

So am I just a prude or what?

Laura

Laura - my 2 cents on your dilemma - I absolutely agree with you and I respond the same way you do to the strip clubs, etc. I think you shouldn't have to do taht if you have satisfaction in your relationship. I also think it's disrespectful. But, as per my previous post, I have had a bad experience with porn -freak b/f . Strip clubs at lunch were his thing and I won't tolerate that again, even though I know it's sort of possessive nad paranoid of me.

So, I am with you in the "uncool" thing. I was"cool" with #1 b/f and I paid the price. Won't be doin' that again!! :)

Emily - try yoga. It's a great light work-out for those days when you can't face working out. That's what I did this morning. BTW - reclined cobblers pose does wonders for cramps if you use props.

Belle - excellent post. I think you are correct in the fact that we can all be attracted to someone who takes care in their appearance and keeps themselves cleaned and clothed appropriately.

Jayne - one more thing. You are compassionate, wise, smart, and gorgeous. How could your husband not be wildly attracted to you?

Laura

Jayne: My boyfriend is shaped like a linebacker, so he's a fairly big guy, but hey from day one I was attracted to him. He also has never had problems meeting girls either (and he used to be a lot bigger). As he was telling my roomate, everyone has their flaws. I am so self-conscious about my flap of skin on my tummy, but he has never said a thing. I always notice things like broad shoulders and nice eyes and a smile... My bf also works out and is fairly muscular.

Laura: I think lap dances are a no no for a boyfriend, I'm no prude, but that's just too far IMHO. To be honest I don't care if my bf goes to a strip club, it wouldn't bother me too much, depends on who he goes with.

Anyhoo take care!

Ali

Ok, well I had a mini snickers bar and downed some water, so hopefully the impending binge will pass.

Laura, I guess I still try to have the "cool" mentality a little bit with that kind of thing, but I would really like to meet a woman who was honestly fine with her man going to see naked chicks and ask her what she's on. I'm OK with it if it's a special occasion like thing with the boys - like a bachelor party. I would never say he couldn't go, but a lap dance would upset me. My problem is that they go and spend all sorts of money on tips and overpriced drinks....and walk away with nothing. If he wants to see a naked chick, he could see one at home, and actually be able to get some satisfaction from it. ****, give me the money you'd give a stripper and I'll go buy some shoes. I just think it's a big waste of money - and if it's about the girls being so much hotter, then I'd rather not be with him anyway. Not that your boyfriend sounds like that type of guy AT ALL. It kind of just sounds like he doesn't want to seem whipped in front of his friends.

Laura- Further to my comments and after reading Belle's post, It would also depend how often they go. If it's every week or even once a month, I may get a little ticked... Also depends who they go with... Notice married guys are often the bad influences??

jayne-i was thin when i met my hubby and now i am not...lol. he has remained thin the whole 6 years we have been married. he has never looked at me any different and it has not affected ANY part of our marriage other than my own insecurities. i would feel a lot better if i looked a lot better but i know he doesn't think that. :)

laura-i don't mind if my hubby goes but he doesn't go except for the occasional bachelor party or whatever so it doesn't bother me THAT much. i agree with the lap dances being a no-no and it not being a habit. but you have to do what makes you comfortable, don't worry about being a prude.

ok i was BAD yesterday and have to be GOOD today...kepping the faith that i CAN do it!! :)

Lexxy: I know what you mean, I can't say I am 100% okay with guys going to strip club, but I grew up around guys and all (I have mostly had male roomates and I have 3 brothers), they hold their significant others to a much higher esteem than the girls (or guys if they're gay) they gawk in mags, on tv, or in clubs, on the street (it's not necessarily right though)... so I try to view things that way, but if they pay more attention to the magazines or the girls at the club, then like Belle, I would have a HUGE problem with that.

take care!

Ali

hey Ladies Ugh I hate damp humid weather (does that make sense?) I'm a giant knot so the gym will hold till tommorrow
ok the Q's of the day
Jayne most of the guys i have dated have been thin/inshape I dated one bigger guy but he wasn't flabby and he played sports
honestly Overweight guys don't look at overweight girls.. .skinny guys do lol
Bf has probably put on 20 since I originally dated him and he has a little tummy and i'm actually more attracted to him now lol
I actually think its how one takes care of themselves not just grooming do they put effort into being healthy (something I'm working on bf about) but also at any weight he's told me I'm beautiful and honey its a 2 way street
and btw Jayne How could he be attracted to you??? HELLO your beautiful inside and out woman NO MORE OF THAT
Ok Laura
Strip clubs: I wouldn't go to one as they wouldn't be my cup of tea I'd say for a bachelor party fine as a lifestyle **** NO
I'd say to BF that you are uncomfortable having him in that setting if it was going to be on a regular basis. for a bachelor party fine Why would he want a lapdance from a stranger when you can give him one at home? :devil:
Belle I dated a guy who liked porn had teenie boppers on his wall and everything needless to say it didn't last
Oh and Laura UK whoopass. . .can we pubcrawl?
Em! hows the stepper?
Oh my new fave breakfast
a hardboiled egged mashed up (Not with butter) with Salsa
I'm getting tired of scrambling!
Tonight bf and i are supposed to go to fireworks but it looks like the skys about to open up and raiiiiin so I hope not
I have some writing to do and some cleaning
and i'm suffffering from overdoing it at the gym yesterday
I hadn't been in a week and I decided to jump in whole hog NOT a good idea
anywho I'm going to have a kickass OP day and tho my LD goal is 189 my new Mantra for staying op is do you want that bread or do you want to be 170? I haven't been in that range in 6 years and after that well after 165 comes Virgin fat!
Comeon Baby Kierie needs a single digit sized pair of jeans!
Alright BBL goign to make some breakfast
Love
Kierie

Laura...it is funny that you brought that up...my BF and i just had a conversation about that this weekend. he really isn't into that kinda thing but it came up in the context of his and others' bachelor parties. so..here i go :soap:

i totally do not think you're a prude for not wanting your hubby to go to a strip club! it has nothing to do with prudi-ness but, as was said earlier, just feels disrespectful and inappropriate. now, ok, i understand that single, unattached guys go..but once they are in a committed relationship, i think they really should limit it to bachelor parties, etc. when it is just part of a tradition, know what i mean?

i completely trust my BF, too, and know he wouldn't do anything to harm our relationship but out of respect for ME i wouldn't want him to go. also, for me there is a big difference between watching girls strip and having a lap dance, which is much more personal..in my opinion.

anyway, thats how i feel! time to hop in the shower, just had a great workout!

~Emily :strong:

Hi Ali and Amber
Ali I looove Line backer shoulders!
Amber you will be good today you will kick some buns
OH MY GOSH I saw the best show last night on Bravo
Its called Queer eye for the straight guy
and 5 gay guys go to a straight guy give him a new look redecorate his home (parts of it) and tewch him how to make a dish
I love gay men and I LOVE this Show!
bbl

I feel so much better now. Thank you ladies! I didn't care that he wanted to go to a Batchelor Party - weddings should be marked with celebration. I wasn't thrilled with the strip club thing but would have let it go if all they were doing was drinking and staring. (That's why I kept my mouth shut about the "lingerie modeling" at the bar he's going to Friday) My issue is with the lap dance. He wouldn't ever buy one for himself but like all guys, he doesn't want to be a wuss in front of his buddies and wouldn't turn one down if they bought it for him. And believe me - they would! I know this will come up in the future and I'm just trying to decide how to handle it.

I've got to say I don't understand batchelor parties that involve strippers. A man watches another naked woman, maybe gets a lap dance or more and then a few days later I'm supposed to believe him when he says he promises to be faithful for life? Oxymoron.

Hey girlies! Well I made it on here in the morning. Unfortunately that means we're not exercising. We were about to walk out the door for a major walkfest when TOM Diarrhea hit :eek: so now we're not leaving the house. I think we will lift some free weights though.

I can't believe how busy it is this morning. Its like 9:30 my time & we're already on page two & there's still lots of regulars who aren't out yet. Wow :spin:

Strip clubs: I don't agree with DH going at all. I'm not a prude but I feel like its not right for him to go off oggling other women like that. If he can look at that why the heck would he be attracted to me? Also I think that lusting after others is just a small step towards looking around for something a little better when you're having trouble or whatever. I trust my husband but I do not trust human nature. I don't believe anyone ever intentionally goes out & has an affair but it happens. I figure why even open that door. A crack in the door could lead to it being flung wide open. I know this may sound melodramatic to you guys but I grew up with a Dad who habitually cheated on my Mom & I do not want that to happen to me. DH totally understands & he doesn't really care. He went when he was single a couple times but he said its no biggie. That's awesome!

Bigger Spouse: When I started dating DH he was like 50lbs smaller than he is now. I was about 70lbs smaller than now. It really hasn't mattered. He doesn't care. I don't care. Our sex life is awesome & our marriage is awesome. I used to date some really thin guys & I always wondered why they would be attracted to me but there's a whole lot more going on than just pyhsicality in attraction. A guy can be totally ripped but if he's got a crappy attitude he's repilsive. We are all super women & there are men out there who appreciate that :)

Btw last night I had a huge TOM craving for chocolate. I went & wandered around the store drooling over all of my faves but in the end I came home with a Body Smarts chocolate bar even though I had enough points for a real one! Yay me :cheers:

Today we've got our food all planned out & if I'm feeling better we'll go do our excercise tonight. I hope my tummy starts to feel better b/c I'm supposed to go to work this afternoon :?:

When did we get more smileys? I love this sumo guy! :sumo: Too cute!

Morning ladies,
It's been a while since I've posted - buncha new faces so I'll just give a big "hi!"

I went canoeing last weekend and it was the greatest time - on the river all day friday and saturday and partying at night. Ate way too many hot dogs and drank way too much beer, but I wasn't too worried because I rowed on the river and the campground was a bunch of hills so just going to the bathroom was a trek! So now this week I'm attempting to be back on track - Monday was, but Tuesday I managed to stress-eat because I had an interview for another position. I didn't exactly need the Pop-Tarts or the second sandwich for lunch.

On to the questions:

Jayne - I agree, it's more than just weight/build that attracts me to a guy - smiles are big part of it, and how the guy makes me feel. BUT if I don't feel comfortable around the guy, as far as my feeling fat or not attractive, none of that seems to matter, which is where it comes back to how I see myself, and start thinking that there's no way anyone could be attracted to me. Which is ridiculous because I always hold myself to different standards then I hold everyone else.

Laura - Now that everyone's added their two cents, I don't think we need mine anymore, but I'll add them anyway - You're not being a prude for thinking the way you do - especially regarding the whole lap dance thing! Why would he even want that when he's got you? And it does sound like it's a lot of his friends egging each other on - hopefully everything works out well for you on this 'situation'!

I've got to get back to work!

Ooooh, new smileys!! I love them, but I always do the quick post and don't get to use them, but these are so totally cute!! :comp:

Anyway, Ali, isn't it nuts how differently guys and girls view things? I used to think all that mars venus stuff was crap, but the older I get, the more I start to belive it!

Emily, I wanted to mention that every time I see your quote, I have an "inner" grin. Too funny :lol:

Kierie, I stayed up past my bedtime last night just to watch queer eye! It's my new favorite show. I missed the beginning of the first episode because I was watching real world, but I won't make that mistake again. Just add it to the list that I'm already addicted to - the reruns of Melrose Place on Style network, Paridise Hotel, etc, etc. I actually caught the end of Cupid last night, the new one with Simon from American Idol, and I have to say it cracked my s*** up. There's this friend of the main girl (I surmised) and she's such a total ***** to the guys I can't stand it. And believe it or not, I do have a life...and a very active VCR! Maybe it's time for Tivo.....:doh:

Hey Angie, long time no see!

hey everyone...i'm looking for a good, low-point lasagna recipe. that is one of my BF's favorite meals and i want to make it next week when i go see him but he is italian (as am i) and so it really needs to be a GREAT recipe! :shrug:

i just had a lunch meeting and made some good choices. i always feel better after a meal when i do that. i had a big salad and then instead of reaching for the cookie platter (the :cookie: are SO good!) i had a little bit of strawberry frozen yogurt on a small wafer cone! the meal came to 11 points but i only had 4 for breakfast so i'm OP again today! :cp:

what are you guys having for lunch?!?

i love the new smileys! :encore: is adorable!

i'm kinda bummed because i wanted to take a walk later this afternoon since i only did 30 minutes on the stepper this morning but it is raining :rain: big time. the weather channel said it is supposed to stop, so here's hoping!

Lexxy - i always told myself i'd never watch those ridiculous shows but they are so addictive..i know how you feel! unfortunately i don't have bravo but i'm sure i would LOVE queer eye!

hugs,
Emily :strong:

Laura: I'd trust my DH to go, even though I wouldn't want him to go. But here's the bigger issue, as far as I see it. I wouldn't want my DH to WANT to go. Does that make sense? I don't understand why bachelor parties have to be about strippers anyway. If someone's getting married to the person they love, honor and cherish, why go gaggle at strippers beforehand? I'm fortunate, because my DH doesn't like porn (I mean at ALL), doesn't like strip clubs, etc. A few years ago he went to a bachelorette party that yes, had strippers, but he didn't know beforehand and just went along with it. He didn't want a bachelor party like that before we got married, either. He just wanted to play golf with his buddies the day before. But I can see strip clubs as a once in a great while thing, like for bachelor parties, because they're probably just funny and everyone's laughing at the blushing groom anyway, but if my DH wanted to go to a bar and watch lingerie models, or heck, if he started going to Hooters every night after work, I'd have a big problem.

Here's an interesting story. You all know I'm a newspaper reporter, right? Well, a few months ago I wrote a story about a guy suing a hotel because he claimed he caught crabs from the bedsheets. I found it very interesting that he'd sue the hotel because he kept telling me how he wanted to keep it private and didn't want his name used in teh story. I mean, hello? He filed a lawsuit ... in public court! My gut feeling was that he was trying to prove something to his wife by filing, because apparently they had been having problems and oh, yeah, this happened on an out of town trip with a buddy that involved at least one trip to Hooters. And the wife was home pregnant. Anyway ...

Jayne: I've wondered out loud why DH is attracted to me, but he is. I weighed about 30 lbs less when I met him, and thought I looked pretty good then, but he says it doesn't matter because he fell in love with ME, not what I look like. And he tells me all the time he thinks I'm beautiful. Sometimes I try to believe it! :) He's never been super thin while I've known him ... he's tall, 6'1, and if you ask him, he could probably stand to lose about 25 lbs, but I think he looks just fine. ;) He says he's gained some weight since we first met, but I don't see it. He gives the best hugs in the world.

I'm writing a book, I realize, but yesterday I had a great day! I played hooky from work and DH and I went to Busch Gardens and had so much fun! We only rode two roller coasters (he's a bit of a wussy when it comes to those), but we went on two water rides, the log flume and a rapids ride (let's just say my underwear was wet.) We also went to the Budweiser Beer School (a 30-minute hokie presentation which included tastings. Too bad I can't stand Bud beer), an Irish dancing presentation (wonderful) and a 4D movie. It was just what I needed.

Hi Girls! I am here a bit late today b/c I had to represent a client in court and it went wonderfully!!! I am really happy about the outcome but anyways WE are having a crazy active board today. I definitely don't have time to address everyone but I will hit the main topics.

As far as DH, he is overweight and I think he is a hottie :) I have always been into big guys though. He definitely has the line backer shoulders that you mentioned. Mmmm I Miss Him :T :devil:
Anyways, I used to struggle with the whole why is he into me thing b/c he could have this girl that girl etc and I finally realized that is soooo not what it is about. I too could have other guys but I would not want the buffest man in the world instead of my honey :o Ok enough gushing. DH and I call those "lovebursts" we are such cheeseballs. So needless to say I do worry about his health because he is a bit overweight but his appearance is wonderful. He is also very clean etc. not like an obese man who can't wash all his parts or leave his bedroom. Ewwww! Ok so enough about that.

Strippers! You don't want to get me started. Well :D for starters I too find the whole bachelor party stripper thing to be quite an oxymoron. Hmmm, let me think how do I want to spend my last hours before my wedding where I will pledge my love and fidelity ....uh, I got it lets go see naked chicks! It blows my mind so needless to say DH does not go and if I am a prude, b#*#*, ball and chain, so be it! I have no issues about that but DH and I are probably a bit on the conservative side so I am not knocking any others for their reasoning. DH says that they just leave you feeling frustrated. I agree with you ladies too that if thats what gets him going show me a pole and some heels ;)

I need to work but I will check in b/c you guys are definitely keeping me entertained today :rollpin:

Emily: I'm not sure there is such a thing as a low-point lasagna recipe. But if anyone finds one, please post it! I've lowered the points in my mom's lasagna recipe by using less pasta and part-skim cheese, but it's still about 11 pts a serving. Would you want me to post that? I'll have to bring it from home. It's really very good.

Kim - don't you love those playing hooky days?! they're the best! if you could post your recipe that would be great..no rush!

~Emily :strong:

I'm trying out smilies. Can you tell I don't want to work today, either?

:bb: :hot: :judge: :twirly: :soap: :tired: :snooty: :encore: :gossip: :mag: :hun: :corn: :stars: :write: :callme: :cheers: :lucky: :bubbles:

Kim~ I love your comments about not wanting him to WANT to go! That is one of those funny lines where a guy would be like ....HUH?!?!?.......I love it! Just thought I would share. Sounds like a fun day with hubby!

Emily, try looking at the WW recipie threads.....I'm sure I have seen recipies for lasagna there. I can't however vouch for how they taste. The lower the points, probably the less the flavor (for lasagna anyway!)

Oh, and out of curiosity.....and I the only single (w/out a BF) girl left around here?? There used to be so many of us.....All this talk about overweight partners. I really need to get my *** moving on meeting my goals!

Emily - I've got a fairly low-point pretty good veggie lasagna recipe. I can bring it in tomorrow if you are interested.

Kim - what a wonderful day with DH! I'm jealous. You hit the nail on the head - it hurts my feelings that he wanted to go.

Becky - I'm glad you are so comfortable being a "ball & chain". Hee-hee. I need to get comfortable with the idea that I have a right to expect certain behaviors in my partner. I think CB is afraid his buddies will harass him if they know he didn't go because of my wishes. I think it is a sign of respect for me that he didn't and proves he is a MAN!

Did that just make any sense??

Lexxy - knock that off! You don't need to lose weight to get a man. You need to eat healthy to be happy in your own skin!!

Laura

Laura - I'd love the veggie lasagna recipe. i don't think i'll make it for my BF because he is a big meat lover :lol: but i'd like it for myself!

Lexxy - when you meet the right guy it won't matter what weight you're at! timing is everything. do this for you.
:sunny:

~Emily :strong:

OFFICIAL POST OF SHORT AND LONG TERM GOALS!
 

ok ladies, i made these goals for myself last week but i figured i'd post them so you guys can help keep me accountable! :cb:

July 9th weigh in: 192 lbs.
Goals
August 31 - 182
September 30 - 178
October 31 - 174
November 30 - 170
December 31 - 167
January 31 - 164
February 29 - 161
March 31 - 158
April 30 - 155

what do you guys think?! i tried to make it slow and do-able!

~Emily :strong:

p.s...that dancing banana just makes me smile!

Icky Day in New York!
 

Hey everyone. I just can't seem to get out of this funk. I am off program yet again!:( I blew it yesterday when I got home and today isn't much better. I have to eat at my Parents tonight and they are BBQ-ing. I need a quick dose of motivation. Any ideas????? At this rate I won't be able to recover by Saturday's weigh in.

Laura - Strip Clubs are a no-no in my book. Thankfully, my Hubby isn't into that stuff, so it may be easier for me to put my foot down on this one. But I have to say that is one (of many) reasons) why I married him. And I feel VERY STRONGLY about this. Something I don't budge on. :nono: I don't want to get into it here because it will take up too much time. And trust me...I am no P-R-U-D-E. But respect for one another is the name of the game.

Jayne - Who is the author on your quote at the end of your notes?

Gotta jet.

Cuba.

Cuba - YOU CAN DO IT, GIRL! no matter what, don't chalk this week up to a bad weigh in and keep overeating until saturday! you can start over at ANY time! as far as tonight, how about filling up on salad and having b-b-q'd chicken breast? that should be pretty low point. you might want to bring your own dressing and ask you parents to leave the salad dressing-free. or, if they aren't making a salad, bring one of your own! watermelon is a great b-b-q dessert and might satisfy a sweet tooth if you have one like i do! lastly, just go in with a good, solid plan and you're more likely to make healthy choices.

hugs,

Emily :strong:

I can't believe I missed "Queer Eye for the Straight Guy"!!!

Bummer!

Emily~ Doesnt the banana just warm your heart :) I will throw a few your way ;) BTW the goals look great!! AND for that I think you deserve......:cb: :cb: :cb:

I agree with the watermelon idea but look out I have been eating it the past few days and they cause some tummy grumbles if you know what I mean :o :lol:

Laura~ I agree about the respect thing! You got yourself a MANLY man :D Seriously though I know what you mean.

I am so excited that the thread is hopping. And to think I missed the entire morning. Work is always getting in the way of my 3fc's time. Uhhh the nerve:comp:

Emily - I love the dancing :cb: too! Thank you for the pep talk. I will definetly do the salad and the fruit at the end. I know my Parents have that. As for the BBQ...they are making Brautwurst (whatever that is). So no chicken today. I'll have to think of something. But thanks for talking me out of blowing the week:goodvibes ! I was seriously thinking about it.

~Cuba.

Hello everyone!! Here I am for a real honest to goodness post. It's been so long. I was very sick about 2 days after I started being really good and POP but then while I was sick, I couldn't really swallow so I mostly drank juice (which was way too sweet) and ate mushy food like cream of wheat. Then I got a rinse that numbed my throat so I could swallow but also numbed my taste buds so I couldn't tast anything anyway. It was very strange. I was pretty good on the weekend. I avoided some really horrible choices that I could have made and I bought some Slim fast for quick breakfasts and my work lunches have been salads and stuff like that. I was hoping to fit into some shorts that I bought as a goal for myself before my trip to Virginia (first week of August) but it looks like that won't happen. I'm also still waiting to hear if I go to school in September or not. Maybe this week I'll know. On to responses...
Strip Clubs - a friend of mine called off her wedding because her husband went to the strip club for his stag (she had forbidden it) They actually got married anyway but the reason she didn't want him going is because she is uncomfortable with her body and doesn't want it being compared to a stripper's body. He likes to go because she will never let him look at her body (because she's so uncomfortable with it) Everything is done with the lights off! That’s a bad situation. I have gone to the strippers myself and enjoyed it but not been sexually aroused so I can see how a man could do that. I think it would have to be a personal decision in every relationship.
Bigger guys – my most recent guy is a bigger guy and it doesn’t make me any less attracted to him. I guess for me it’s the inside that makes it sexy.
Holy novel! You guys are probably all gone but I’ll post it anyway and see if anyone is around later.
KT
PS - Lexxy, I'm still single and looking!!!

Gosh, you guys are posting fools!!

I am good, trying to catch up on posts. But I really felt the need to add my .02 cents to the strip club topic.

My DH on rare occasion is invited to bachelor parties where they go to strip clubs. I don't mind at all, like wise, on rare occasions I am invited to birthday parties, bachelorette parties where males are stripping, he doesn't care.

My best friend and I have accompanied our husbands to a strip club before, on my birthday last year, my DH made me get up on stage...very funny, very embarrassing, but non the less a story I will never forget.

I think when you trust your DH/SO you have to try to relax about these things, most of the women stripping are NOT women your DH's want to be with anyway....

I hope no offense is taken, just my .02 cents.....:D

Wow -- I love it when we're this busy! And only 2:00, my time!

Too many posts to reply individually, but laura, can I just tell you that you made my day? You have the talent to make others feel good about themselves, and that's valuable. And Emily, you're on my good list forever for saying my son is adorable! :)

As far as the whole strip club thing goes (maybe it's talked to death by now, but then I'll just have to go and beat the horse a bit) Drew and I have actually gone to one together. He has never understood the thrill of watching trashy women (only quoting, not making a judgement) who are willing to gyrate on (mostly icky) strangers for $1 bills. I wanted to see what all the fuss was about, so one night when we were visiting Drew's family in New Orleans, we went to that coochie club on Bourbon street that has those legs swinging out the window and that naked chick laying on the mirror. Drew's dad and stepmom accompanied us, of all people, but they are just about the coolest people I know, so it was actually funny. While we were there both Drew and his Dad were offered lap danced, and they both laughed in her face as they turned her down -- she was just so nasty and icky. There was a stripper up on the stage that was completely ugly and she danced 3 songs and didn't get a single dollar. No one would pay her. So the DJ said she wouldn't be leaving until she got some money, so a guy paid her $1 if he could lick her shoe. It was SSSOOOO not all that, I just can't even begin to tell you how not all that it really was. So anyway, I just wanted to give you some insight into my experience there. Who would have ever thought I'd have the inside track on strip clubs? Oh, I feel so naughty...

Anywho, I think I'll take my little boogar to the pool. Thanks to all of you who helped to reassure me on that whole "How can he be attracted to me" conundrum!

Oh yeah...the author of my quote...Back when I still did WW, my leader had that as a focus question for discussion. We discussed self-defeating habits and why we needed to really examine our behaviors and decide what behaviors needed to change if we wanted our bodies to change. So I'm not sure if that was her quote that she dug up or a WW authored quote. I just know that I need to say it to myself when I get into tight spots.