Good Morning and Happy New Year!
This post has been a long time coming and way over due. I apologize for being absent and popping in once in a while with just a brief hello but my world has been turned upside down these past couple of months. I know we've all been there, done that but this is MY world and therefore…..it has been the most important thing to ME lately. I know you'll all understand.
Let's see, where do I begin? How about, my beloved Missy Clementine (my horse/mare) was literally stolen from under my nose. I decided that I wasn't giving her enough of my "quality time" when the truth of the matter was…..I gave her VERY good and loving care but didn't realize it until it was too late. I hadn't been RIDING her, therefore to me…..she wasn't getting the exercise she needed and I wasn't spending TIME, real time with her. That, to me….was unfair to Missy and I decided to adopt her out to a good home. The search was on and I was not going to charge any money for her, I just wanted the best possible home (and close by) for her. Turns out that home was NOT the best, I was totally fooled and they defaulted on their payments as well as our contract. I decided to sell her for $800.00 when a miniature horse was for sale. He was really a rescue since he was in such bad shape. He was well worth thousands of dollars since he was a stallion with a very good bloodline and papers. So, hence the price of $800.00 for Missy. (mini's are MUCH less $$ to keep and I would adopt her out as soon as possible). To make a long story short, she's lost almost 75lbs. and after paying for the mini, I never got it so at the end of this month…I'll be in court for two separate cases. One is to get Missy back and the other is to recover the money I paid for the mini. I have contracts and receipts for both and did everything "by the book" so I am told I will have no problems. We'll see.
Second. Hmmmmmm, how do I say this? Ok….I'll just BLURT it out. Bill and I have been having problems, BIG PROBLEMS. Most of them about $$$$$ and that was also one of the reasons I felt the need to find Missy a home but after these past couple of months…..I have found that we CAN and WILL be able to afford her and then some. Men. Very controlling when it comes to money. Bill never really was until lately and that was because he just isn't good at financial matters. Me? Let's just say that after working in Mergers and Acquisitions for Corp Finance on Wall Street, I think I could balance a checkbook and handle the household bills. This household has been in turmoil and I thank God that my children are as bright as they are and know that Moms and Dads have bad times too and since we always talked about whatever it was that was "bad" that day, they always said "it's O.K. Mom, we understand". Well, the REALLY big thing I didn't tell you was that I was in a woman's shelter for five days and came home on Christmas Eve afternoon. I couldn't take the yelling anymore and didn't want my children in the middle of it all. I called and they took me. It was a good place to be and there are all kinds of abuse….verbal is one of them. The other woman there were physically AND verbally abused and I found comfort in helping them out whenever I could. None of them had cars, so I would take them to the post office to pick up mail (for most of them, it was the first time in a week) and to do errands or shopping. Most of them had children but two did not. I DID NOT take my kids with me. They were safe at home with their father and he had two weeks off for Xmas and I knew they would be in good hands. I made sure the director knew and WROTE DOWN that I was not abandoning my children and my intentions were to get back home after I had time to "rest" and think about what my plans were. So, Bill and I have made leaps and bounds since then. We BOTH want our marriage to work and it will. I guess after 15 years…..this is the point where you REALLY have to work at the "for better or worse" part.
There you go, that's it…all in a nutshell. Oh yeah, I had the flu for Xmas and almost every year, the day after Xmas we fly to Pa. To see Bill's parents and brothers and family. Since I had the flu, I stayed home and actually enjoyed the peace and quiet while I rested and got well. They came home on New Years Eve, giving Bill and I a good week to think about things.
Not done yet…..<grin>…..on New Years Day, I went out to get DD (donuts) for the kids. It's kind of become a tradition around here for New years. Anyway, as soon as I stepped off the doormat, I slipped and fell. BOOM!!!!! First I was embarrASSed and then all I could think of was OUCH. OUCH, OUCH, OUCH. "Yep, I really hurt myself this time", I thought. So, tomorrow I get an MRI since the X-rays showed a lot of swelling and bruising but the MRI will tell why I can't stand up straight. It takes a good minute for me to stand up. So here I am. Sitting at my computer, typing away to you all while this is the first day back to school for the kids and Bills first day back at work.
I've started using my WW Points Manager calculator which STILL works. I'd have thought the batteries were dead by now but nope, it works just fine. I blew it yesterday with a donut but will make up for it today. I love this thing. Small enough to take anywhere (it's the one that's about 4 years old) and tracks all of my points and let's me know what I have left. Anyway, that's it from me……I'll probably have to make this into two posts since it's so long.
I hope you're all doing well and staying healthy and out of trouble. Remember, there's ALWAYS someone who has it worse than you. Just go visit a woman's shelter and you'll see what I mean. As a matter of fact, do me a big favor. If and when you can, drop off some clothes or toys or whatever you can…..especially food to the local shelter in your area. You'd be surprised how much these people look like US…..because they ARE us.
"See" you all later.
Hugs,
~Pamela Jo~
I knew you were having some kind of problem when you did not post for a while.......and not just one but a whole heap! My SIL spent time in a womans shelter that almost ended in divorce but they too worked it out. Men and their money...my DH has been depressed lately over family business and money..it can really get to a person.(so I have to be the up person around here and that is not me!) So how is your Fibro or do I even have to ask!
Glad you are back with us..missed you and hope all works out.
Boy, you DO know me a bit better than I figured. It's been awful since I've been under so much stress but what's the sense of complaining.....besides, my back is the worst pain right now. I'm taking one part and one day at at time. <grin>
I also forgot to put in a very BIG part of the past month in my post. This man has been threatening my life. He's the guy who trailored my horse for her new owner and HIS horse had a shot to the head at point blank range about 2 months ago. MY HORSE is where HIS horses are and I've already got a restraining order and YES, I am licensed to carry a gun and WILL use it to blow his freakin kneecaps off if I have to. So far, he saw me at the feed store, turned white as a ghost and left. Guess he took what the cops told him seriously.....especially since he didn't listen the FIRST time I told him to back off and he spent a few nights in jail....then had to have his girlfriend borrow money to bail him out. I told him AND the police that if ANYTHING else (besides her getting the crap beet out of her by the other nasty horses there and losing weight).....happens to Missy.....that I'll sue him AND the county for not getting her sooner when they know about this guys background. O.K. ......that's it. Enough drama for one or two posts, don't you think? And no......this guy doesn't scare me any more than the "boogyman". I'm a much better shot than he is. So don't anyone go telling me to "be careful". Believe me, I'm a VERY careful and cautious woman when it comes to this stuff. Been doing "horse rescue" too long and dealing with these kinds of creeps for years and I know how to and NOT to handle them. Ok? OK!
Ok....I'm going to my couch now to watch the news and then off to shower and bed. Hopefully you're all fast asleep and having sweet dreams by now. My love to you all.
By the way......here's a picture of all the kids up in Pa. playing pool in the attic. Jackie is on the far right putting up with her cousin who absolutely adores her and Billy thinks he's a pool shark. (Obviously, the one with the cue stick in his hand).
Sorry to hear about your troubles PJ. Glad to hear that you are trying to get back on with life. Life is what happens when you're making plans I always think.
It's been a long time for me, not being on the boards for a couple of years... but it's good to see faces I still recognize about here!
I do hope you're working things out and are feeling better. Fibro and aches and pains seem to go together for a friend of mine, so I hope that they're treating that and it's helping your back.
Good luck with the horses, and I hope the court cases don't drag on too long.
Are you the original night owl? I can remember posting (to you maybe) telling you I was a morning person; however, I would wake up after having going to bed early and there you were with your nightowl email address.
I am still in southeastern Virginia, where I am going stir crazy because of the snow. I haven't been out of the house since Saturday. I think I will go out Thursday since I have a TOPS weigh-in that morning and I am the assistant weigher. The guy across the street told me that once I get off the next three streets, the roads are all okay. The snow plows just don't come down the side streets. He has been going to the grocery store and will get things for the neighbors. I didn't need anything -- got too much food now. Freddie
Hello there. Yep, it's the Missing OWL.
My SIL spent time in a womans shelter that almost ended in divorce but they too worked it out. Men and their money...my DH has been depressed lately over family business and money..it can really get to a person.(so I have to be the up person around here and that is not me!) So how is your Fibro or do I even have to ask!
It's been awful since I've been under so much stress but what's the sense of complaining.....besides, my back is the worst pain right now. I'm taking one part and one day at at time. <grin>
So don't anyone go telling me to "be careful". Believe me, I'm a VERY careful and cautious woman when it comes to this stuff. Been doing "horse rescue" too long and dealing with these kinds of creeps for years and I know how to and NOT to handle them. Ok? OK! 
Freddie
