I'm sure she meant well.
It's so hard on forums like this when you can't see a smile, frown or a facial expression.
I just left a grief support group this morning, in fact, as people were doing and saying very hurtful things, it sure wasn't helping anyone who is in this kind of very tender circumstance. I may have overreacted, but I just hated how the "flavor" of the group had changed.
Maybe it was ME, though? It's just so easy to get upset.
At any rate, let's get back to basics and chat about what we can do to help each other and great ideas.
Hey, if your husband chooses to eat junk, what will you have at the same time to keep yourself feeling as if you are not getting cheated and stay in control?
I'm thinking the 94% FF popcorn might be a good choice, keeps you busy for a very long time! Maybe he'll decide to have some too and it will help him?
Take care and be happy.
Linda
Thanks for the kind words, Linda. I guess I am just a bit touchy this time of the year. I have never liked the holidays. Now on top of everyhitng else I have been told I have SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder).
I have been eating 94% fat free kettle popcorn for 1 point. I love it while watching tv. Today is hubby's birthday. He loves angel food cake with strawberry frosting. I know it isn't good for either one of us but I did make it for him. He has promised that once the cake is gone he is going to eat healthier snacks. (wonder how long that will last).
to you Chris! The holidays are ROUGH. I know how you feel - I've had a really pretty good year but this week has just been icky. I was snarky all weekend with my friends for no reason, and last night I was just crying at everything on tv. And sadly, I can't blame hormones since i'm on the pill and haven't had PMS in 4 years! LOL
And you're right, it's NOT a diet. It's a lifestyle change. I really truely belive that. As my...ohhhhh maybe 5th time doing WW I have to keep remembering that. Diet's don't work for a REASON!
I'm so sorry about your DH. It sounds like he's having a hard time coming to terms with his illness; I know that can't be easy. All you can do is be supportive and do the best you can and work your own program. He needs to come to terms with his own issues, medical or otherwise before you can help him.
And the $$ for medication issue - BANG on what's wrong with America. There is NO reason for your health to suffer because you can't afford the medications. That's just not right. Having been unemployed for a year, I know that you have to make some tough choices to survive and to balance that budget, so I sympathize. Not to compare you to anyone, but when there are mothers working 2 jobs and not eating themselves so their kids can eat or have their $567 asthma medication, that's just not right.
NATIONAL HEALTHCARE FOR ALL!!!!!
Stepping off the soapbox now, and good luck with your week!
I agree that we need a national healthcare system. We have insurance but can't afford the co pays. When WalMart first came out with their $4 generic Rxs I thought sure since I have insurance I won't qualify. WRONG. Even if you have insurance you can get your meds for $4 each. There is a list of about 150 meds that they offer for $4. DH and I went to a new doctor last week and he told us about the program. He changed a couple of my meds so they came from this list and all of hubby's are from that list. I was hoping the shrink could replace one of my meds so it was off the list but she didn't think the drugs listed were right for me. So out of 4 drugs I have 3 that I can get for $4 each and the other one is $24. Major savings. It is a shame that it is the working man that suffers when it comes to getting help.
I'm glad Walmart did the new drug program, it can help many people. Unfortunately, not anyone in my family. Oh well. I did get a copy of their list from the pharmacy last time I was there.
Good thing you've discovered the 94% FF kettle corn. I'm not big on kettle corn, but the "regular" butter flavor is basically the same concept.
As of yesterday, I switched to the WW CORE plan for a few days. I need a break from the "limitations" of the Flex Plan and I am hoping that the CORE plan will be a good thing for me, considering Thanksgiving is next week. I'm really worried about Thanksgiving, the excess calories and the fact that we are spending two days of that weekend away at my in laws house. I love them dearly, but I tend to do what I refer to as "party eating" there. I hope I can stay in control or some of the foods are WW friendly?
I plan on staying on the CORE plan until Thanksgiving Day. Maybe if I am really good and motivated, I won't regain all my weight over one weekend? I hope to get some exercise as well.
Do you all have big family plans for the holiday? Any fresh ideas on how to control yourself?
Linda
It is just me and DH for Thanksgiving. I am going to make the traditional dinner but I think I am going to leave out the sweet potato casserole. If I do, it is looking like 12 points. Not bad at all.
Today may be a stressful day. My computer has been acting up for a while now. My cd drives haven't beem working. The computer is acting like it wants to crash. My best friend is coming over in a little bit to see if she can get the disc drives to work so we can backeverything up and re-format. I am so afraid something will happen and I won't be online for a while. I will let you all know later how it goes...if I can.
hi im new here , first time to post not sure where to start at i love the scales thing on everyonepost they are cool how do i get one? i started out doing ww at home for several months in 2004 around christmas time we started a weight loss at our womans church meeting on wed and i won i lost about 4o some lbs using ww at home , than i joined curves in feb 2005 and up to date there ive lost 45.50 inches and 45 lbs i go three times a week and ive lost 32.18 body fat .but i feel like i need to go back to ww or something ive done the low carb for curves but dont stay on it like i should i guess im missing food or something if i cant stay on it or maybe it just i need a change .we are doing amonth thing at curves we have to stay at our weight or lose if we gain we dont get a chance for a drawing , i find i flex alot up and down all the time .
i have three children 21 yr old, twins 11 boy and girl and im a new grandma to a three week old girl she a doll im hoping this will keep me accountable to my weight i have the old books i think 2005 so im sure the points are all different now .
Welcome to stram! To get the counter things on your signature, click on where it says private messages and you will see something to click on to change your profile, I think. Then you click on signature.
If I have time tomorrow, later, and you haven't figured it out, I'll click on my own and write it up for you.
Chris, sounds like an amazing Thanksgiving if you can do it for 12 points. Having a small meal with no one else to cook for makes it more simple. The more people that come, the more elaborate things can be!
We're eating out and I pre-calculated that the meal would be 22 points and then pie and whipped cream about 12. That is if I don't totally lose control!
BUT, it is Thanksgiving and I am going to eat what I want and forgive myself and then move on the next day. However, the problem is that Sat./Sun. we are going to my in laws. Goodness knows what she will serve.
Linda
I had orginially figured our dinner to be 21 points and was a little concerned about it. So I talked to DH and we decided to cut a few things. So dinner will go like this
Turkey 4 points
Stuffing (made in muffin tin to ensure portion size) 4 points
Mashed Potatoes 2 points
Green Bean Casserole (made with 94% fat free muschroom soup and no friend onions)1 point
Crustless Pumkin Pie 1 point.
With only 12 points if I like I can add another serving and not be all that bad on points.
Chris, that is a very conservative estimate for your Thanksgiving dinner. Will you REALLY only have 2 points worth of mashed potatoes, for example? What about gravy, cranberry sauce, etc?
I hate to say this (shhhh!!! keep it quiet) but I am truly going to enjoy my Thanksgiving Day. I have a journal that ends on Wednesday, and for one day, I am taking a vacation day from it all on Thanksgiving. I will certainly watch portions and not go totally wild, but I am taking the day off and for that I will be truly Thankful!
Friday morning, I will begin anew with a journal, forgive myself and move on!
Though, we are going away on Saturday and staying at my in laws on Sat. night and my meals will not be in my own control during that time. I may have to forgiven and begin anew on Sunday afternoon?
One thing I have leaned as a veteran of WW and a lifetime member is that when I deny myself things on special occasions, I feel totally denied and unhappy. This will often lead to me being so unhappy that I totally go off the wagon. I want to succeed this time as I have made many mistakes and put all my weight, and then some, back on again. When will I ever learn?
But, the key to sustained success, for me at least, is to "stay the course" it is the day in and day out maintaining of the WW program combined with exercise and drinking water that works. Getting to meetings and following suggestions and programs works. But, if I deny myself all the special things, the treats and those special holiday things that I love so dearly, life will become a very unhappy thing for me. I will end up leaving WW and going off on my own and I have proven that is not a good thing for me.
I hope that makes some sense?
I hope you succeed and make it happen, but forgive yourself a few treats on Thanksgiving, but make sure you only do this for ONE day.
I hope your husband is doing well, by the way. How is he?
Linda
Thanks for the advise Linda. I may have 4 points of mashed potatoes but that will be it. I don't like gravy or cranberry sauce so not a worry there at all. If I were going somewhere else to eat or if I were cooking for guests I would do as you are...eating what you want and forgiving yourself. Around here both Thanksgiving and Christmas are just another day. We have no family to speak of. The kids are with their "other parents", so it is just DH and I. In past years, I haven't even bothered with a turkey. I have one in the freezer (oh that reminds me I need to get it in the refrig today) so I am cooking it up. All DH and I do is watch tv and kick back. For Christmas we don't even bother exchanging gifts. The kids all get money or gift cards so I don't even do any Christmas shopping. DH is doing good. He is starting to watch what he eats and is trying to get the diabetes under control. Thanks for asking about him.
Chris, are your parents still living, or not in the area?
If it was just my husband and I, I guess I would also have a more simple meal. Though, I do love the traditional extras that only seem to appear when we are having a big meal such as this. Being a "foodaholic", I would probably make up those extras and serve them with other meals on the days/weeks preceeding Thanksgiving and then freeze portions of them so that I could have my usual spread on the holiday.
But, this year, we are going out to dinner and I will be missing some of my usual stuff. Life does go on, food is not the most important part of the day - I have to keep telling myself that.
Today is weigh in day for me... I'm keeping my fingers crossed for a decent loss.
Linda
Last I heard my parents are still alive. They disowned me because I divorced my ex. It will be 15 years Dec 25th since I spoke to them. I have made repeated attempts to mend the fence but nothing works.
Ah-ha, I just put two and two together and realize you are the same Chris from the Supporting Each other Thread!
What a shame that your parents are that unforgiving. You would think that they would want you in their lives regardless of the X husband, you are their kid after all.
I wish you all the best in terms of making the best of things with or without them.
Guess this thread is kind of "dead", Chris, glad you are on the other one now as well.
Linda
to you Chris! The holidays are ROUGH. I know how you feel - I've had a really pretty good year but this week has just been icky. I was snarky all weekend with my friends for no reason, and last night I was just crying at everything on tv. And sadly, I can't blame hormones since i'm on the pill and haven't had PMS in 4 years! LOL
new to club and doing ww at home myself
