Anyone else have a husband who doesn't want you to lose to much weight?
My husband loves me and he met me and fell in love with all 300 pounds of me. He likes fat women!!!! God love him, but now he is worried that I will lose to much weight. He is very supportive though as I have wrote before.
The first night we met, through a mutual friend, he told me "Who wants a single stuffed oreo, when they can have a double stuffed". I know this is not really a problem but would like to talk to others who may understand my delima. If I want to be lifetime I have to break my promise to him of not going under 160, which may not happen anyways, but what if.
That's one of my problems. More then once he has told me he doesn't want me to lose. Wants me to stay the same as I am now. I was only 150 when we met not the 270 that I am. When we go to the dr and the dr tells him about my health issues he's all for me to lose. But within a week he's back to his old self and bringing goodies etc in. He has weight between 155 and 165 the last 38 years. So he doesn't know what a weight problem is.Hang in there
Wow, that's tough. Could some of it be insecurity, or do you think it's just a physical preference thing? I only ask because my ex had insecurity issues when I decided to get healthier. I think he was afraid that he would lose me if I got too skinny, or that there would be more competition for him. A lot of people go through divorce or breakups after major weight loss. Losing weight is a sign of a mental shift in most people and change is scary. Maybe he just needs to be reassured?
Just remember that as much as you love your husband you're doing this for YOU and your health. There's no better gift to give him than extra years together.
It's a dilemma. One of the reasons I didn't date much before I met my husband was that the men who asked me out had strong preferences for fat girls. I met my husband through a personal ad where I not only stated my weight, but that I was dieting, and that I wanted to meet a guy who could be understanding or who had the same issues.
My husband is a really big guy, and I was relieved to see him attracted to women slimmer than me (he's not rude about it, I just notice who he notices).
We've even talked about it. He does appreciate curves, and would also not like to see me "too thin," or as he puts it looking like an adolescent male. I think I will probably be most comfortable (based on past experience) at about 175.
Your doctor can write a goal weight for you, and WW will honor it. When I get closer to 175, I will ask my doctor to write a not setting my goal at 175. I think he will.
My mom's doctor set her goal at 200, at her leader's reccommendation, so that she could achieve lifetime. Her doctor wants her to lose more, and Mom wants to lose more, but she's been going to WW for over three years now, and is having a real hard time losing the last 50 lbs (she's lost about 75 so far). She has thyroid issues and bad arthritis which make it difficult for her to exercise and lose weight. The leader recommended the doctor's note so that Mom wouldn't lose motivation by having to pay for meeting after meeting with .1 - .2 lb weight losses.
Well, being 5'10" and big framed, I don't think I'll ever be really skinny. I will not hit single-digit clothing...I don't think even my bones would fit! My husband does like bigger women. He grew up with five sisters, one is normal weight, two I'd consider overweight, one obese and one is morbidly obese. I am actually smaller now at 250 than I was when we married...I know because my wedding gown is too big! He has an odd reason for liking bigger women...he say's he's afraid he'd break a little woman! He's a bigger guy himself and very strong. It's not like he doesn't think women who look like playboy bunnies are unattractive, just not "real". I guess I don't have any advice, other than to say if he loves you now, he'll love you thin too.
Thanks everyone, no my husband is not insecure he just likes a little meat on a woman, he thinks skinny women need a sandwich lol. He is 6 foot tall and 145 lbs. since 8th grade so he doesn't like to think I'm suffering as he puts it, but he never sabotages so it's OK.
Thanks for the info about the doctor, I did not know that! I feel much better now, I have very big bones, as a teenager at 130lbs. I could never wear those plastic or metal bracelets, they would not go over my hand, so I know I would never make it to 109lbs. lol.
raynette aka boxerdawg
Husband does not want me to get skinny
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