Patch,
Please go to Lucca, I love Lucca.
I also love Perugia, its about 27kms away from Deruta. We really like la cisterna restaurant in Perugia. I will take the train from Rome every trip just to eat there.
Sounds like you are going to have a blast. Never went to Cinque Terre, however we drove from Rome to Paris one December and I enjoyed the view.
Orvieto is great as are all the other places on your list.
The chard, spinach, salads, funghi (porcini and chanterelles) should be starting too.
Barbaresco is a wine found near the Chianti region. I like it. DP is a barbera fan, but we'll still talk to her.
Renting a house is the way to go, you have control over what you eat. Our week and half in Rome in May was great for that- we ate lots of tomatoes, artichokes and salads and it gave us the down time we needed somewhere not food centric. Ever notice that on vacation, you usually stop at a coffee shop (starbucks, etc. ) to rest and end up with a brownie to top off your americano?
Man, I'm jealous. You are hitting it at a great time of year. Not too hot still, but not rainy.
lala
btw, good on ya for the loss
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