It feels great having friends here! i just moved. And i havent really met anyone around me yet. But so quickly you all have made me feel part of this community. Im really glad i have a second home.
Thanks POOKIE, and everyone.
On a different note, ive been getting the vibe from others that its rediculous for myself to be having WLS< that im not heavy enough. Its really bringing me down, im not sure how to deal with their comments. Unlike alot of people, and God bless them, i have not been heavy for most my life, so this added weight, and gaining it so very quickly has really done its toll. i feel 45 in a 25 year old body (not that being 45 is bad of course!) and sleep so much because i have no energy that it really takes away from my life, and my childrens. Im tired of being in pain and just want my life back. I feel this is the right decision for me, how do i get others to understand?????
amy... we're so glad you're here.. and darlin, face it. you probably WON'T be able to make other people understand what went into your decision. and the more you discuss it, the bigger and louder the discussion, and the more hurt feelings.
practice getting these messages across [or something like them]:
1. this has been a difficult decision.
2. you have consulted with the best docs in the area, and the whole bunch of you - you and them combined - decided that this offered you the best chance of losing weight and keeping it off.
3. it is not the easy way out, and you are still facing a lifetime of exercise and watching what you eat - just exactly like they do.
4. you need all the support you can get, and welcome their cooperation.
the underlying message is : if you don't cut this out, our relationship will change.
Ah, you made me feel so much better about that. Its hard enough making the decision without others ripping you down. I appreciate your help and advice, and your completely right. My hubby says, they just jealous that soon youll look better than they do!!!!!!
I told very few people that I was having surgery, because I just felt like it was none of their business. I've found that people like to offer opinions when they know very little about the subject. I made (and you are making) an informed, educated decision. Even now, at nine months out, I am very particular about who I tell. Only lately am I telling a few more people about my surgery. When trusted friends who have struggled with weight for years ask me how I've lost weight, I will tell them about lap band surgery, especially since you don't see much about this surgery in the media.
Seeing as how I am over 45, feeling like you're 45 in your very young 25 year old body is an awful thing! And, isn't it nice that you're going to take control of your weight before you get even bigger. I wish I had!
Yes, it has been very hard becuase my husband and i have been married 8 years and his mother is probably close to over 350 lbs and 5'2. i have seen the pain she has gone through and when i started gaining weight i could finally sympathize with her. She has shattered every bone in her tiny sz 5 feet due to the weight and she barely holds down her job just because of the way society views obese people. it is so sad. WHen i had the surgery she is the very first person i told, i know that she has been researching for years and wanted to get her views...unfortunately, she was totally against me having the procedure. I dont think ill ever understand her reasons, but it makes it hard not having her support. My hubby says to blaim it on the whole "mother-in-law" syndrome, but it doesnt make it any easier.
She just joined a group called TOPS a while back, but she has joined WW, Jenny Craig, Curves, upon many other things over the last 8 years...i guess now im at a loss because she asked me for advice just today about having the surgery.
She says her insurance refuses to cover it even for health reasons, and says she has been dealing with it for so long that she might as well live, or die, with it. I feel bad since she finally decided wls was the best route for her, she came up with all these dead ends. So now i feel especially bad.
What a dilemma!!!
