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Originally Posted by iwasskinnyonce
First of all VeggyMOM, it is not about jealousy in the slightest! I am dismayed that you would even suggest that. IT is about the FACT that we have ALWAYS shared our struggles with weight so why the change now?
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Your post, from beginning to end, was about you. Why didn't she tell you when it could help you. Sorry but that sounded to me as if it was jealousy.
If my assumption based on your post was wrong then I will accept and admit that and accept responsibility for being wrong.
The fact remains; however, that you are assuming that she had weight loss surgery. You don't have any proof that she did. You also fail to recognize that she does have a right to privacy in regard to medical procedures and she may well have valid reasons for not wanting to talk about it. That is her right.
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Originally Posted by iwasskinnyonce
From your posts it is obvious that you are probably not close to your family by taking the non of your business tone, and I am just the opposite we are very close.
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For the record there isn't anyone I know whom I have not told about my surgery. I am extremely close to my family and they all know about it. Every single one.
Every person who has commented on my weight loss has been told, by me, that I had Lap-Band surgery. Every single one.
That does not mean, however, that I cannot understand and appreciate why someone would not feel comfortable telling others about their surgery.
In fact there are times when I wish I had not been so open. I get tired of having people assessing what I eat, asking me how much weight I have lost every week and/or speculating on how long it will be before I reach my goal weight. I get weary of having to explain why I am not loosing weight as fast as a RNY patient or the duodenal switch patient they know. I get annoyed with fielding the "Why couldn't you just do it on your own?" inquiries.
I also get very tired of people who think that just because I have had weight loss surgery and am loosing weight that I some how have "answers" or "solutions" and that I "owe it" to anyone else to bare my soul at the drop of a hat.
It is intrusive and it is wrong thinking.
I imagine it would be more so if I were not loosing.
The fact is that I have a right to privacy and to choose who I will and will not tell about any surgical procedure I have had. Just as your SIL, Star Jones, Kirstie Alley or anyone else does.
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Originally Posted by iwasskinnyonce
I really don't mind if she had the surgery or not, but why play a Star Jones and act as if the weight is just magically falling off? HER problem is alcohol, she loves to drink and that has nothing to do with fatty food, she is now not drinking and yet the doctor gave her no restrictions,
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If she isn't drinking alcohol (depending on how much she used to drink) that could be a huge reduction in calories. Her doctor may not have given her any restrictions for following gall bladder removal, true. My doctor didn't give me any restrictions but he did advise me that eating fatty foods could be uncomfortable because the gall bladder's purpose is to store bile which is injected into the digestive system to break down fat. So I stopped eating as much fat because eating fatty foods caused me pain.
I lost 30 pounds in the two months immediately following my gall bladder removal. I didn't have weight loss surgery but I still lost 15 pounds a month for two months. Then I continued to loose for a couple months after that. In 6 months I lost 45 pounds.
I did eventually gain the weight back because I still ate too much food (even if it was lower fat). But I lost it quickly in the beginning.
The point that I made in my first point and continue to stick by is that the weight loss does not necessarily have to be attributable to weight loss surgery.
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Originally Posted by iwasskinnyonce
I was really looking for people who had the banding or lap gastric surgery, as according to the internet you have to have your gallbladder removed for these procedures, it is not about her affording it, and me not, it is really about why she would allow everyone to think that having gallbladder surgery caused a 40 pound weight loss in 4 weeks. I can't imagine that being the result or people would just have their gallbladders removed. It is relevant because I was wondering about the procedure being done at the same time as the gallbladder surgery.
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You do not have to have your gall bladder removed when you have weight loss surgery. Some surgeons do remove the gall bladder when they perform the weight loss surgery because rapid weight loss can contribute to gall stones. But it is not automatic.
As for the weight loss being attributable only to gall bladder removal. I never said that it was. What I said it that you don't
know that she had WLS.
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Originally Posted by iwasskinnyonce
I think I will do like the other poster and just ask her flat out, hopefully she would share her insight, and IF I decided to have it done I could get a loan or do a payout which is not unheard of, I would like to know more first though...
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By all means ask her. But bear in mind the fact that she doesn't have to tell you and if she chooses not to you have to respect her right to privacy.
And if you want information about WLS of any type you can get that from many different sources. It doesn't all have to come from your sister-in-law.
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Originally Posted by iwasskinnyonce
IF I had some answers I would surely share, I know first hand how sad and desperate one can feel related to their weight.
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The truth is that just because I have found something that is working for me ... I don't have any answers. In fact it took me 10 years to figure out solution that I could live with. I would never in a millions years assume that I have an "answer" for anyone. I'm not even sure I have an answer for myself.
No one should ever feel pressured to tell anyone about their medical history or their surgical choices.
