My husband does not support me in losing weight/getting healthier. He brings home cookies from his work, white chocolate from the store and popcorn from blockbuster when he rents movies. He hates all of those things. He knows I am trying to eat better and yet he does this several times a week. I just threw away 2 boxes of the samoa girl scout cookies (my favorite!) because I am really bad with temptation. I tell him please don't brings these things home but a few days later he does it again. Does he want me to be fat? You would think no husband would WANT for their wife to be fat or unattractive but I honestly am thinking he might. Does anyone else feel this way?
he might be jealous that when you get into shape, you will wall for other guys, or other guys will fall for you and will nto be able to resist keeping their hands off you! maybe try to reassure him that he has nothing to worry about, and that you are losing weight for YOU
My live-in boyfriend (of 3 years) does the same stuff. He's a lot heavier than I am (he's 6'1" and about 300 lbs) and thus he eats a lot more and a lot more often than I do, and whenever he eats, he tries to get me to eat. And whenever he eats, he's always eating junk - fast food or unhealthy stuff like hot dogs, mac n cheese, chips, candy, etc. He knows what all my favorite foods are, and he'll say stuff like "Oh, don't you want to go to papa john's and get some potato ole's? C'mon, you know you want to go and get some, mmmm, they're so gooood!" Then he'll go get food for himself and eat it in front of me, and talk about how great it tastes and keep telling me to go ahead and eat some. Or if I'm craving something and I happen to mention it to him, he'll go buy it for himself even if he doesn't like it, and then try and tempt me with it. Or if we go out to eat, he'll get the worst thing on the menu, and gloat over how many calories and fat he "gets" to eat compared to me. It's really FREAKING annoying. He laughs about it; he thinks it's hilarious. I'm about to strangle him. So yeah, you're not the only one! I'd also love to hear people's suggestions/ideas on what to do in this situation!
I have a non supportive husband as well even though he might think otherwise. He is always "checking" me saying things like "Is that on your list?" or "Can you have that?" Or "Blah blah blah, your Mom is on a diet!" And having a fit because I went from buying vitamin d milk to 2 percent!
Wow, Hannah, your boyfriend is not only not supportive, but his tempting you may land him in Omar's tent!! Stay strong, and laugh your way all the way to your goal weight!
My husband does not support me in losing weight/getting healthier. He brings home cookies from his work, white chocolate from the store and popcorn from blockbuster when he rents movies. He hates all of those things...
That's just awful. He really is trying to sabatoge you. If you can't convince him to stop, the only thing I can suggest is to just keep throwing it out!
My husband is supportive and encouraging of my weight loss, but still eats junk in front of me. Also, comments on how much better his food is than what I eat. I'm OK with it now, just learned to get used to it and ignore him. He never tries to get me to eat something I shouldn't. I think he's learned that I like my new food and wouldn't trade him for anything.
It's not that he wants you to be fat, it is that he wants you to not be attractive to other men, change, discover you could do better (I am not saying that he isn't great, just that this is how he is feeling) and leave him.
Just keep throwing the stuff out. Eventually he will get comfortable with the new you and stop.
I agree with Leslie. Poor guys are feeling insecure...I'm not taking up for them, because they're grown men...but they obviously just don't know how to deal with those feelings
I feel so awful for you girls, and want to congratulate y'all for sticking to this! I don't have that kind of will power and I'd give in...y'all are doing great! Keep throwing stuff away, and give those guys a lil extra assurance...maybe that childish behavior will stop!
It's not that he wants you to be fat, it is that he wants you to not be attractive to other men, change, discover you could do better (I am not saying that he isn't great, just that this is how he is feeling) and leave him.
Just keep throwing the stuff out. Eventually he will get comfortable with the new you and stop.
That must be it. Even though it's strange (If I was him I'd want me to be hot ) On a positive note....I'd rather him be this way then be the type that tells their wife they are fat and tries to "put" them on a diet......that would be worse
It may be a subconsious thing that he is doing. Try sitting down with him and have a long talk about how he feels as well as how you feel. Also try doing things like looking at a lingerie magazine and tell him that you can't wait to be able to wear that outfit for him, keeping the emphasis on him.
He might not realize he is doing this, if he is used to picking you up these things he may justify it to himself that you can have it every so often and that you deserve a treat.
Sorry, just goes to show you how immature men are. My Dad would comment very negatively on my Mother's weight. Ridicule her thinking it would 'help' shame her into losing weight. End result - my Mom is obese and miserable.
Thank goodness -- she's grown a slightly deaf ear to his 'rants' and is now losing weight for herself.
I had just said yesterday how supportive my husband is. Well he pi@@ed me off to no end last night. He told me "you used to weigh just once a week, then it became twice a week and now you weigh if you think you ate some-thing wrong". What difference does this make? I have been watching my weight very closely now and hoping I'd eventually get these last 5 lbs. off. Since he has never and according to him, will never be on a weight loss program, I don't think he has the right to open his mouth at all. I didn't want to argue with him, so I just kept my mouth shut. Men can be such A@@holes. I saw this not as being supportive, but as being critical of how I am doing my weight loss program.
my husband gets frustrated if I don't eat what he is eating . but he loves the take out food and I have health issues and allergies to flour so I have to be careful as to what I eat but some men don't understand . I eat as healthy as I can and doing alot of excercise but he don't do that either. But he knows I have no options as far as food goes and he knows the effects if I would eat like him so then after awhile he gives up on offering me the food.
Chunky Hannah, your sounds to me more like your BF fighting the loss of his partner in crime. I can relate. My husband and I are both ex-fit people that got fat just by being together. He is still not willing to take the plunge. But he is very supportive in the sense he doesn't say much and dosen't whine about what I'm cooking. He also watches the baby for me to exercise. I'm hoping he will join soon...He's sooo HOT when he's fit! Anyhow, my EX-husband was a total sabatour (sp?) and we fought about it. I eventually won and did what I had to do. It was worth the fighting. But he wasn't supportive of anything that didn't involve him. Hense Ex-husband.
Does anyone have a non-supportive s/o?
) On a positive note....I'd rather him be this way then be the type that tells their wife they are fat and tries to "put" them on a diet......that would be worse
