[MizCandula]

I want this. I want this soooo bad. Somehow my mind doesn't though. I feel like I'm constantly fighting myself to go to the gym, eat better, and live. I saw my fiance's niece yesterday and had a panic attack. She used to weigh more than me, now I'm heavier than her. This isn't a contest, but she's the type to laugh about my weight gain. It's only been 2 weeks that I've been dieting, but I feel like it's been 2 months. I have to weigh in tomorrow and I'm so scared.

I don't want to depress anyone, I just really need support. I feel like I'm at the end of my rope.

[RobinW]

Dont be scared......if you dont want to get on the scale, then dont. Did you take your measurements when you started? If not, do that tomorrow! I find when Im afraid to get on the scale, because I dont think I did very good all week, I'll take my measurements.......then if and when they show a loss, I'll get on the scale with a bit more confidence....or pass on the scale for the week.

You'll be fine, I have those moments too. Figure ...oh to **** with it, and start to slack off....but think about what you really want, and what you have to do to get there. Then just suck it up and get on with it (pls dont be offended by that comment, its just what I have to tell myself all too often to keep going)

Keep at it...plug away, and you will get to where you want to be

[MizCandula]

Thanks Robin. I definitely need to stop thinking about it and just do it. I will also take the measurements, I've just been lazy.

Again, thanks for the support, it means alot. I haven't really found a place where I felt welcome, especially a place where everyone understands how I feel. I think this is the place. I've already learned alot.

[DeafinlySmart]

Read Robin's Motto, I like it. You are doing this for YOURSELF. Personally I find using fitday and making goals makes it into a game I can play. Each day, I'm striving to get to the end. Some days I make it, some days I don't. I do research on nutrients etc (like I'm collecting to win). Does that make sense?

Excercise is a challenge for me, so I look for creative ways to get it in and celebrate it. If I don't, I do more research and see what else will work for me.

[curvynfit]

Hang in there! And you know what? This long-term-weight-loss-thing happens in stops and starts (personally, erm, I'm currently in a stop and trying to kick my butt into a start...). They've even done studies and weight loss is a lot like kicking smoking or other habits...it sometimes just takes a couple of attempts to change for the mind to really dig it.

Try looking at it like this--instead of each meal or day being a challenge, take it one meal at a time and don't think of it as an all-or-nothing deal. Each good, healthy choice is a step in the right direction. Say you have a day where you eat well at lunch and breakfast, but blow dinner. Instead of beating yourself up about dinner, consider that you made two really great decisions/meals too. I personally found this change of attitude really helpful in keeping on track....because if this is a life-long change, you're gonna feel down, you're gonna make mistakes, you're gonna sometimes choose the cupcake over the salad. But if you make more good choices than bad (and in time it will be much easier to make good choices over the bad), ultimately you'll reach your goal.

[Sheri~C]

Keep in mind that you are already a success! You started working to get yourself healthy and you have lost 4 pounds, which is a lot. You can continue to be successful because you obviously want to be or you would not have posted here. You are strong and you have what it takes to get where you want to go. Take advantage of all the support and encouragement you will find on this site. Join a group so you can make some buddies and people can get to know you. It is so much easier to be successful when you surround yourself with other people who are successful! I am glad you have found this site, you are welcome here!

[Tayja]

Hang in there sweety ! we all have those moments, and like you said it has only been 2 weeks...

well hunny you didnt put all this weight on in two weeks, so theres no need to suspect it will come off in two weeks... these things take time

the begining is always especialy hard becase you have to get into new habits and routines that you are not used to doing.. its not just about losing weight its about changing your whole life, you have to do things that you didnt used to do you have to do things differently then you used to do

but the longer you stick with it, the easier it will become

we have ALL been where you are right now, you just gotta hang in there and keep pushing !!

i'm not sure what your course of action is or how you are going about it, but maybe you just need to re-adjust your plan, start small... start with little goals and little task, little changes, and after you master each one you can add a new one or take the one you have mastered to the next level

dont start out with i am gunna work out 2 hours a day 5 days a week, start with i'm going to work out for 20 minutes 3 times a week, then as you progress you can lengthen your time and your amount of days, etc...

do this with each new thing

instead of saying ok no more cookies cakes pasta etc its all veggies now, try adding a new veggie each week or every other week and build up those changes in your diet

i think those of us (and we have ALL been there done that) that try jumping in head first and full steam ahead are the ones that end up tripping and falling and throwing in the towel only to weeks months or years later get right back on the horse and do it all over again and its a never ending cycle which yeilds no results

ya gotta learn to crawl before you can walk and you have to learn to walk before you can run

start small and know we are always here for you !! we have all been in your shoes we are all going through the same thing with you and you CAN count on us !!

[MizCandula]

You guys are AMAZING! Thank you all so much, really, I have tears in my eyes

I think I just rush into it like you are all saying. I always give it my best shot for a couple days and think "Okay, now what?" Thats the problem. I have to look at this as a life long dedication and not just a means to an end.

Three years ago, I was coming down to meet my future boyfriend for the first time [gotta love the internet ], and I decided six months before that I would lose weight. I think I was about 220 at the time and lost 50 pounds in six months.. the very ephedra ridden barely eating unhealthy way. Once we were happy together, the weight started to come back because I dropped the whole thing. Of course there were many other factors, but the jist of the whole thing was that I basically felt "well, that's all I needed to do". I get impatient, but you guys are right.. it definitely didn't take 2 weeks to put on.

I just want to thank you all again, seriously, you guys are great. It's nice to have somewhere to come to vent and I'll be there for all of you as well I also love this site for all the info.. if I hadn't read that sports bra post, I'd still be wearing the pullovers!

[DeeJae37]

Think of it this way...It's gonna be worth it in the long run....and in the long run maybe your friend won't be so anxious to laugh @ you....Keep going!!!!